Rockin’ Ryan
Thursday, Jan 27, 2005
There’s quite a ruckus going on at Carmon’s blog because she posted a picture of James Dobson’s son, Ryan, sporting a little biker/cutting edge look. From the onset, I knew there’d be feather ruffling, so I decided to sit back and enjoy the discourse.
Now, I’ll be the first to admit that if I encountered Rockin’ Ryan in a dark alley, I’d probably quickly gather my chickadees to my bosom and tighten the clutch on my purse. I might even just throw my wallet at him and advise my children to, “Run!” Although you can’t judge a book by its cover, well, sometimes a little low-key marketing doesn’t hurt.
Now, before you imagine any stones coming from this glass house, let me say your conclusion is a little premature. It’s nearly impossible to look at the discussion without biased opinion. I happen to like my ankle-length attire, and all I’m missing is a head-coverin’. We humans like things to be black-and-white, and for that matter, sometimes when devising our standards we inadvertently set up a god in our own image. Yet, what we, as Christians, wear is not immaterial; it matters.
I’m not digressing with my story here. My six-year-old son, McGregor, had some sage advice for his 29-year-old unwedded aunt. He said, “I know who Aunt Jacqui should marry—someone who loves God with his whole heart and doesn’t bow down to idols.” We are in the process of studying Exodus during family worship, so this admonition didn’t come as a surprise. However, as I reflect on what he said, I think the kid has a good point.
What we 21st century Christians wouldn’t give that Christ would come back and set it all straight. Still, the children of Israel had fresh manna daily and didn’t even have to interpret the Words of God through a cultural glass, yet they rebelled, set up idols, and went on their own merry, pagan way. They had the complete, ultimate “how to” book, and still deliberately set up gods in their own image, stone idols to replace God-breathed law.
I venture to hypothesize that even if we had a list of “do’s” and “don’ts” for how a 21st century Christian should look, we’d still rebel. The same sin that dwelt in them, is alive and well in us. We are all sons of Adam and daughters of Eve: living, breathing, working, lovin’, and yes, even dressing, in a sin-stained world. To wit, I don’t toss out this Scripture flippantly: Man sees the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.
The Rockin’ Ryan dilemma centers on how far we should go to become like those whom the Lord has called us to reach. And it is probably a discussion that will go on and on. It is good that we ponder, pause, and pontificate the matter. Let it continue.
But in all our ramblings, let us remember that the ultimate culture-mesher was the God-Man: Jesus Christ. God Himself condescended, took on human form, and became flesh so that we, in turn, could inherit eternal life. When the depth of this truth is internalized in our mortal hearts, then we will know which shoes to wear when we walk out the door.
Now, go love God and don’t bow down to idols.
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A question:
You are covered with dirt. You see two people each offering you a free bath. One is dirty; one is clean. Which would you walk towards?
Ryan is covered with dirt.
Just my 2 cents.
Comment by Jill (April 11, 2005 @ 9:21 pm )
I’ve read Ryan Dobson’s book Be Intolerant, and I respect him for it. And while I tend to the conservative side of things, I’ve also come to terms lately that placing too much emphasis on outward appearances creates a Pharisaical (sp?) environment. They were “righteous” because of their dress (right down to the lengthened tassles), their actions (public prayer, etc.), and other show-offy things. It doesn’t matter what the outside looks like so long as the inside is washed in the blood of the Lamb of God.
I believe Jesus said it best when He pointed out that unwashen hands do not defile us. What proceeds out of our hearts and mouths, that’s what defiles us.
Comment by Rick Beckman (April 19, 2005 @ 6:49 pm )
I agree with Rick. If a woman feels God calling her to dress in an ultra-conservative way (no pants, no shorts, etc.), then that’s what she should do. But God doesn’t call every woman to that. As Paul said in Romans 14, we each have to make choices based on God is telling us personally, and be at peace with that. It is very possible that Ryan Dobson will reach many more people for the Lord than any of us in our long plain dresses ever will.
Comment by Jennifer (April 20, 2005 @ 2:55 pm )
I agree with Rick too, lol. I also have read the same book he did, and I found quite a bit in it to be ver encouraging.
Comment by Alicia (May 5, 2005 @ 2:39 pm )
Wow, there were 80 comments on that last page and some of the most amazing posts I’ve ever read. I’ve showed a bunch of my friends. Hope you all like my site and broadcast at http://www.ryandobson.com
Ryan
Comment by Ryan (June 2, 2005 @ 3:35 am )
Yes because they will no longer be OUR shoes and they will no longer be OUR feet. Lord these are your feet, which shoes do you want to wear? Lord these are your feet, where do you want them to go today?
If anyone thinks Ryan dresses bad just think what God had to wear….mortal flesh…could there be ANY thing more inappropriate for a Holy God…?
Comment by Anonymous (September 20, 2005 @ 12:59 am )
3 words divorced-peter pan-get a clue
1 outcome living in adultry will not live in the kingdom
1 question before you respond **study first** then when / who rewrote the bible
Comment by cultural christian (December 18, 2005 @ 2:50 am )
It seems to me that being in the world, but not of it means we need to dress in a fashion that reflects the culture we live in. Of course, this gives room for many options, and one would hope believers would choose modesty, but I think it is distracting and even disruptive to the spread of the gospel if we dress so that others say, “Look, there goes one of those odd-looking Christians.” This creates the illusion that it is works (i.e. how we dress, etc.) which sets us apart, not the grace of God. Yes, we should choose to be modest as we dress, but if one lives in southern California, as I do, it is important to look the part, to some extent. “Rockin’ Ryan” is from southern California (I went to the same high school as he did for one semester– not that he knew me or anything)and I don’t think it is totally out of line for him to choose the fashion statement he has. I like what Edith Schaeffer says in “The Hidden ARt of Homemaking” about choosing to glorify God by dressing in the most flattering colors and styles available wherever you live. Anyway, that is my two cents, for what they are worth.
Comment by christy (December 22, 2005 @ 4:53 pm )
For my two cents worth, Ryan is not trying to reach us marrieds with x number of children. He is trying to reach out to the youth of today. And having been the path of the pharisee in judging others by appearance before I had teens of my own, I would also have worried that he was stradling a fence. But now that I have teens and after watching their unsaved friends at all sorts of meetings, it is clear the unsaved friends respond way more to someone who they can relate to. “The guy with the tie” is not responded to as openly as someone who looks like they have walked the same path as themselves. Just a thought, when Jesus came His body on this earth was clothed in the clothing of that day. I know there is no pics of original pics of Him, but I somehow think that He looked like who He was trying to reach which was the Jews first. I doubt He was sporting a fashionably short haircut with a button down shirt and trousers. Just my thoughts. We shall know them by their fruit.
Comment by Anonymous (February 1, 2006 @ 2:55 pm )