Living Simple: The book that influenced me
Saturday, Aug 13, 2005
There are many good books I’ve read over the years, but the way I define a truly great book is one that causes you to change something in your behavior. In other words, a great book, in my opinion, influences a person into action, and knowledge isn’t gained for the sake of triumph in Trivial Pursuit. I’m sure that there are other criteria that make a book great, but I’m partial to action. My personality demands it.
One of my favorite books is The Complete Tightwad Gazette by Amy Dacyczyn. This book has had a profound influence on my thinking over the years. I read the book early on in our marriage when my husband was a youth pastor, and we were living (well, I might add) on a small church youth pastor’s salary. During this time, we married and added two children to our family. I won’t post our salary here, but I will say that, according to the government, we were below poverty level and should’ve turned to them for aid.
I can’t write further without acknowledging the providence of God. Our shoes did not wear out, our appliances did not break, and our cars were in good repair. Like so many other things, we labor but God is the one who gives the increase. Now, the shoes in our house get outgrown before they wear out, the dishwasher still doesn’t work, and people make fun our cars. But we have the funds to repair and replace our things, and so, we see this as the providence of God too. And if we didn’t, we’d see this as Providence as well.
In the articles contained within The Tightwad, I found in them a voice that put into words what I’d thought in the back of my mind for a long time. In one article, Dacyczyn mentions briefly that she’d rather spend the weekend painting her barn than sunning on the beach, and I found myself identifying with her sentiment. There is something satisfying about working toward a tangible goal that produces something profitable. The reward of relaxation is not such a climax after wasting the day in frivolity. In contrast, lying down after a productive day of labor is sweet.
Agrarian or not, simple or not, we can all use our “talents” to make more “talents.” If you need ideas on how to do that, Dacyczyn’s book is a good start. You will be encouraged to think outside the box– if you can focus on her articles and refrain from getting caught up in all the small reader tips. They are just ideas to get you thinking.
Before this book, it had never occurred to me that you can make your own Rice-a-Roni and Windex for a quarter of the price. I thought everyone just buys that stuff at Wal-Mart. Or Target if you have a little extra dough.
I mention this book to say that the wheels have always been moving in this direction, to recommend it to young mothers trying to live on a budget, and to give background on where we’ve been before I tell about where we want to go.
In the next post, I’ll answer Holly’s question, “How and why does someone strive to increase their land holdings and wealth, while at the same time seek the simple, agrarian life?”
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Amy,
I love that book, too! She is so witty, and has many great tips for saving money.
One funny thing I remember is when she talked about a news crew that wanted to film her saving money. She told them to set up their cameras at the local McDonalds and record her zooming by with all of her children in tow eating PBJ samdwiches! Hilarious!
Since, reading that book I have been known to call my husband at work to report, “I just fed the kids lunch for 29 cents each!”
Comment by Connie (August 13, 2005 @ 4:29 pm )
Yes Connie, after digesting that book, women everywhere are calculating a per head or per ounce cost. I still do it eight years later; it’s a habit!
Comment by Amy (August 13, 2005 @ 4:54 pm )
Hi Amy.
I’m a new reader and have been enjoying your entries quite a bit… keep up the great ‘work’ !!
This book has been on my list to read for quite some time. I enjoyed your review, I’ll bump it up and check it out sooner than later now.
Comment by Liz (August 13, 2005 @ 6:14 pm )
Amy - I’ve not read this book but I have heard lots about it. I just wanted to say though that what you/she said about working towards a “tangible goal that produces something profitable” is so true. How much more productive I feel today for having taken the afternoon nap time to sew a skirt instead of taking a nap or sitting at my computer and “surfing the net” or even reading a good book. I have an almost completed skirt from that short period of time and I feel so good!
Comment by Jamie (August 13, 2005 @ 6:28 pm )
That book was an important read for me to. Her ideas about money and wealth were so new to me and yet made so much sense. Here’s was the first modern “big” family I had read about to so she really gave me a lot of hope that I could have my kids and raise them too:)
I wonder how many families have been changed because of her writing?
Comment by Shannon Miller (August 13, 2005 @ 6:30 pm )
Oops! I meant SANDWICHES! I wish this think had spill chick!
Comment by Connie (August 13, 2005 @ 7:11 pm )
Someone has told me in the past to get this book. Thanks for reminding me.
Comment by Heather (August 13, 2005 @ 8:20 pm )
I have the read the first two books. I usually dig them out once a year or so, just to refresh my inspiration to try harder. But to honest, many of her ideas were things that I grew up learning. Growing up on a ranch, far away from shopping, tends to make you extremely frugal.
In fact I didn’t know until I got married that people had to pay for heat. We always had a wood stove. And I never knew you could buy cocoa mix. Mom always made her own, I still prefer it that way. LOL
Comment by Kris (August 13, 2005 @ 11:32 pm )
I don’t know, I haven’t read this book, but what about the situation where mom can make more money by working (from home) while the kids are sleeping than by making her own Windex?
In my case, I have a work-from-home situation that makes quite a bit per hour, and I do it about 10-15 hours per week, when my son is napping/after he’s in bed. Even if I managed to set up my own farm, make my own windex, never buy another take-out meal, learned to sew, sewed my own clothes….even after all that, the time that I would spend doing that would, per hour, have been “wiser” spent working from home, at least money wise.
Of course, I’m not comparing what you said (leisure vs. making your own stuff). I’m comparing paid work to making your own stuff. Just curious, what do people think? My husband encourages me to buy Windex wipes, salad-in-a-bag, and pay for people to mend my clothes, and to keep doing my work from home.
It’s an interesting topic, thanks!
Comment by jill (August 14, 2005 @ 3:27 pm )
Jill,
Amy discusses this concept in her book. She mentions that there is no way to implement all the ideas all the time, so it is wisest to choose those things which produce the highest return (not just monetarily, but considering all angles). For me, I spend a lot of time looking at real estate, and it has proven to return better than making Windex. For the record, I have two bottles of generic (of course) Windex sitting on my counter.
I was just a sayin’…. The thing is that everyone has pennies to invest and multiply; I started small (everything from scratch) and now I occasionally have left overs to invest. It is still small, but the key is progress and small steps forward.
There are many things a woman can do to produce an income from home. The easiest, though, is within everyone’s reach: a penny saved is more like a nickel after taxes. Though I agree that there are other ways to do this, a woman’s primary calling is at home. And in that sense, whenever our lifestyle gets too hectic, I have to scale back and return to making time for things domestic. Yes, I can make a better return doing other things, but my girls are watching and learning–and I am passing down to them the domestic arts, of which will produce an even greater return than any monetary investment around.
Blessings,
Amy
Comment by Amy (August 14, 2005 @ 5:06 pm )
I know!! I know!!! :::waves arms wildly::: I know the answer to Holly’s question. You’ve got to make some money before you can buy that land and that barn, the house and tractor, those chickens and that cow. LOts and lots of money, if you live where I live.
I’ve got to pick up that book! Thank you, as always.
Comment by cynthia (August 14, 2005 @ 8:02 pm )
I love those books…
Except it’s not healthy to re-use your plastic bags and your alluminum foil. So I don’t recommend that, being the health fun-factoid nut that I am.
(Plastic toxins break down with repeated use and leach into foods, and same goes for alluminum).
I don’t advise buying margerine instead of butter, either.
Ok, I’ve said my piece. peace. peeeeeeeeece. piz? pas?
Comment by Molly (August 14, 2005 @ 8:47 pm )
PS, Amesters and the Greginator,
It’s interesting, your simplify theme, because we are having one of our own…talking about selling our house and doing some serious down-sizing, animal raising and whatnot… Just to get out of debt (house is via a 30 year loan). The thought of not actually owning this place till I’m 60 just doesn’t send shivers of pleasure down my spine, you know?
The funny thing is that the only thing Jeff and I really get nervous about is how foolish we are going to look when we do this! Thirty or forty years ago, it wasn’t uncommon to live within your means, but in today’s world, one just “doesn’t do that.”
I don’t know, but I’m excited. We’re looking at land, and thinking that by next summer, we’ll have this house for sale and be putting the finishing touches on a little place somewhere, saving up paychecks instead of watching them get gobbled up by the interest from our loan.
Then, I don’t know what we’ll do… I guess we’ll just have a lot more freedom to see which direction God is pointing us in as a family.
Comment by Molly (August 14, 2005 @ 8:53 pm )
Amy, I’m a tightwad myself. However, a pet peeve for me about most of the “Frugal Living” type resources, are that most of them seem to encourage really horrible nutrition and eating habits in the name of grocery budgets. Before we had kids, my hubby and I lived easily below poverty level. We ate ramen, mac’n'cheese from a box, processed meat and refined grains all the time. After we had kids & I realized that I was responsible for feeding them, I was shocked to learn that those things are just horrible for our health and there was no way we could do that to the kids. So now, 3 kids later, even though we still live as frugally as we can in all other ways, we do not spare any expense at buying healthy organic produce. Yes, it hurts the pocket, but for me, its the responsible thing to do.
That said, I haven’t read the Tightwad Gazette, but I just felt compelled to bring this up, because I do often scour frugal living resources and run into this pet peeve all too often.
Blessings,
Sarah
Comment by Sarah (August 14, 2005 @ 9:02 pm )
Except it’s not healthy to re-use your plastic bags and your alluminum foil. So I don’t recommend that, being the health fun-factoid nut that I am.
(Plastic toxins break down with repeated use and leach into foods, and same goes for alluminum).
Comment by emily (August 14, 2005 @ 11:27 pm )
For those who feel slightly concerned about spending a little extra on good wholesome food/organic etc. Consider it savings when you have less doctors appointments.
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I love that book!
It was also the book that got me thinking seriously about an agrarian lifestyle. Right now we are eeking through on a students budget while my husband works his way through a PhD program and I try to keep the house and tend to the little one. I believe that she does have some great ideas for making it work on a tiny budget. I also agree that her emphasis on living WITHIN your means is the best part of the book.
Who cares about the Joneses? We should care about God, pleasing Him, living to His glory, all else is but dust and rubish.
Comment by gwen (August 15, 2005 @ 6:15 pm )
I’m afraid of this book. I’m afraid that in order to “live frugally”, I’m going to have to save egg cartons and tin cans to make household things from. And we are winning the clutter battle! We already make our own Windex (it’s simple if you do it by the gallon - we do it two gallons at a time - it’s really cheap, and you just mix 3 ingredients and store it in the pantry!). But I have in my mind that this form of “simplicity” means storing up tons of STUFF to do things in a less expensive manner. Does it?
Comment by Karen (August 16, 2005 @ 4:01 am )
So I have a question…..how does one go from a Youth Pastor to a physicist? My husband (also a physicist) just couldn’t wrap his mind around the concept and asked me to ask about it.
Comment by tiffany (August 16, 2005 @ 2:41 pm )
Karen, I do stock up when I find good deals. Once I had so many microwave popcorn boxes (.33/box), that we had to store them under the beds. I have a walk-in pantry now, so it’s not an issue. But, really, it’s all what you’re comfortable with. If stuff under your bed bothers you, then you might only buy three boxes instead of twenty. Whatever floats your boat. I do find, however, that whether or not you’re a tightwad, well-stocked staples are the key to a well run kitchen. And, no, popcorn isn’t a staple.
Tiffany, My husband was an engineer for a year when the church he grew up in asked him if he’d be the youth pastor. He walked away from the engineering job (which he was doing well at and liked). He served nine years at the church while attending seminary. We did not feel led to serve at another church after that. He returned to engineering. That’s the short version; hope that helps.
Holly, Sure it’s an exchange, but it’s a good one. I’m busy with “life”, but I hope to get to that post one day.
Comment by Amy (August 16, 2005 @ 9:42 pm )
BTW, I’m only playing devil’s advocate. I could write the book on the simple life, and frugality.
It IS a worthy exchange.
Comment by Holly (August 17, 2005 @ 2:58 pm )
Every January I re-read these books to remind me of the “economizes”, as we call them, that we might be letting slip. Every time I find something new we can do. It’s the little things that really add up.
Since our frugal living over the last several years lead us to find and be able to afford the loan for the farm of our dreams. This year the books have encouraged us to do an inch-by-inch clean out of our home, outbuildings and entire property. We will be selling off all excess to achieve our goal of self sustaining living and being debt free so my husband can take an early retirement and my son can be free of his student loans.
All three of us want to know, it’s 2006 now. Where is Amy Dacyczyn and her family, are they still living frugally and did the kids rebel when they hit their teen years?
Comment by Jan in OK (February 6, 2006 @ 11:22 am )
I would love to know what Amy is doing today, she hasn’t been heard of in a few years.
Comment by marcy (May 21, 2006 @ 10:45 am )
The following is excerpted from the Tightwad Gazette and really elequently explains in Amy’s own words why not work more I too would love to know what Amy is doing now. She was a huge influence to me when I first quit work to stay home with our first child. I have kept this article for years on my fridge as a gentle reminder. Hope you enjoy it.
Amy wrote: The “Don’t save more, earn more” philosophy is a very one-sided approach. And it has one big flaw. Nearly everyone that earns more automatically spends more. For this reason, regardless of their incomes, many families seem to have exactly enough to get by.
Telling you to earn more instead of saving more is like saying “Don’t eat less, exercise more.”
When I learned that walking a mile burned up the same amount of calories as an apple I wondered how many miles I would have to run to burn the calories in a candy bar. It made more sense to give up the candy bar.
Most Americans are running to burn up candy bars. They are running out of the house, running to the daycare center, running on the job…so they can afford candy bars and Nintendo games, meals at McDonald’s, and designer sneakers.
There is no doubt that the minimum wage earner does need to earn more to afford apples — the basics of life.
But for most of us whether we choose to earn more or to save more depends on how easy, accessible, and enjoyable more work is.
[…]
There is a point at which the quality of life and the standard of living depart…where earning more results in a personal cost that erodes the quality of life.
The solution is to find the right balance of earning more and saving more. You need to couple your earning effort and your saving effort to achieve the highest quality of life.
When you do earn more, resist the temptation to spend more. Discipline yourself to saving whatever possible of what you do earn and reinvest in ways to either earn more or save more.
Comment by margaret (June 13, 2007 @ 7:05 pm )
I, too, read all of Amy’s books at a time when my family and I had moved to a new city. I was very interested in living a frugal lifestyle. Just as importantly, however, I felt I’d found a friend in Amy. She greatly influenced me and I am still appreciative today. I,too, am wondering how she is and what she’s doing.
Comment by Dinah (February 22, 2008 @ 5:09 pm )
I love the Tightwad Gazette too! In fact, I was once asked who I would most like to meet, and I said Amy Dacyzyn. She has influenced me so much that I started writing my own frugal living blog in the Tightwad Gazette spirit! I’ve looked all over the internet for current information about her and her family, but have never found anything.
Comment by Heather (February 24, 2008 @ 8:58 pm )
I was spring cleaning and found several old copies of the Tightwad Gazette. I really enjoyed getting those newsletters. I also would like to know what Amy Dacyczyn is doing these days. I wish her and her family well. Liz Thomas
Comment by liz Thomas (March 9, 2008 @ 11:03 am )