The day after Christmas
Tuesday, Dec 27, 2005
Are you surprised to find a post here? My husband recently informed me that he’s going to stop reading my site, along with the rest of you. I didn’t intend to take a posting break, but it just happened with the past
12 days of activity…
11 new choral pieces
10 stacks of gifts
9 choir rehearsals
8 (is what people did at my house)
7 hours cleaning
6 minutes to undo it
5 HOURS SLEEP
4 hyper kids
3 sets of relatives
2 strains of viruses and
A husband with a rocket launch.
It all began when we bought this house four years ago. The realtor withheld vital information from the Seller’s Disclosure. The secret? Our street turns into Candy Cane Lane during the month of December, and part of our neighborly duty is to join the uniformity of the street by placing a nine foot tall gigantic, lighted candy cane along the curb. I thought for sure it was a joke, but I learned it wasn’t when the neighborhood kid came by with a posthole digger. Every year, merchandisers create a new gimmick, and the candy cane thing just can’t keep up with the lighted fake icicles, blow-up Santas, and other miscellaneous lawn decorations. However, instead of replacing the old with the new, neighbors just keep adding to their piles, so that now– faded, whitewashed plastic Santas share the manger grass with 20-foot blow-up, tied-down waving polar bears. We only have .3 acre lots here, you know.
As part of my Christmastime rebellion, we only decorate our Colonial home with large red bows and a single candle in every window. We didn’t even put up a tree this year, much to the complaining of all the relatives. When the kids asked for a little holiday sparkle, I sent them outside for five minutes to look at the next door neighbor’s yard.

A steady stream of cars paraded our street for the last couple weeks to gawk, concluding the season in the annual traffic jam around the cul-de-sac bonfire on Christmas Eve. One evening while my husband was outside, an onlooker leaned outside his truck window, and yelled angrily, “Hey, Buster! Put some lights on your house!”
Maybe he knows the guy who smashed several of our street’s candy canes on Christmas Eve. May they rest in peace.
It is not often that I let the culture dictate my agenda. As a Christian, it is my goal to be counter-culture– not for the sake of being odd, as if being odd legitimizes my Christianity, but because it is oftentimes true that when the stream is flowing fast in one direction that God is calling his people to swim the other way. In no other area of life—education, spending habits, down to the clothes on our backs—do I consciously allow the culture to dictate the choices I make. God’s people ought to set standards rather than be swept up by them.
Now that it is the day after Christmas, I find it easier to muse on the meaning of it all and my response to it. If I mentioned aloud what I was thinking two weeks ago, the Christmas Police might have protested my right to protest. But now that presents are stacked in every corner of the house (because there really is no room for more stuff), the Christmas tree is dried and shriveled, the relatives are all mad at each other, and Dad has to climb on the rooftop before the New Year to retrieve the lights, my reflections might be more welcomed.
While I am glad for the reason of the celebration, sometimes I find the process and external expectations of celebrating quite tiring. Dave Black points out that God never commanded us to remember His birth–but rather, His death. Yet the thing he commands us to do, we do so only once every month or two in our churches.
God calls His people to be light. How do I fulfill His call as I grumble about all the lights and tinsel I’ve allowed into our schedule? How much is self-imposed; how much is culture-imposed? How much of this is God-imposed? As a Christian who seeks to do His bidding, this is a legitimate question, as I seek to glorify God in my daily schedule and in all things.
While we won’t forsake celebrating our Savior’s birth altogether, this past Christmas season’s busyness reminded me that the yolk God places on His children is always and perpetually, light.
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Wow, you just took the thoughts right out of my head and said it so much better than I would have!
Could you believe that I went to a Christmas eve service and the sermon was on embracing the “culture” of Christmas? I am glad that we sang the old Christmas hymns, now that was worship!
Comment by Amie (December 27, 2005 @ 7:05 am )
I agree!! However, I just wanted to point out that there are many Christians who DO celebrate through the Lord’s Supper EVERY Sunday (as is implied in Acts 20:7 - God did not have to specify to hold EVERY Sabbath holy to the Jews, they just knew that if He said Sabbath, He meant every one. Same thing with Lord’s Supper, we see it being done on Sunday by the early Christians, so we don’t pick and choose Sundays, we just keep it every Sunday). And as you said, it is the only “holiday” God has given us as a command in Scripture. The sad thing is…how many people look forward to celebrating the Lord’s Supper like they do Christmas? I think that human nature causes us to love fancy celebrations, and let’s face it, eating bread and drinking juice just doesn’t hold a candle to Christmas (for most people). =) However, the Christians we meet with hold the Lord’s Supper in the highest regard, and it is our celebration every week, and we prepare for it weekly as many do yearly for Christmas. And as far as Christmas goes…I know there are many Christians who think we are off our rockers for not making a big deal out of it. We don’t have church Christmas programs, etc. We might sing a hymn about Christ’s birth in December, but that’s about it. But…we don’t have to - we think about Christ’s coming, death, and resurrection every time we keep His meal - the only thing He asked of us. (Not to say that I am against Christmas - if another day of the year makes of focus on our Savior - that’s great!) Anyway - I agree with your comments and hope you are soon recuperated from your holiday business!
Comment by Tiffany (December 27, 2005 @ 8:27 am )
I’ve been having much the same thoughts this Christmas season! We didn’t put up a tree and we’re trying to shift the focus from Santa, gifts, and decoration over to what the true meaning of Christmas is. I’m so tired of the comercialization of Christmas. I’m tired of so many people turning Santa into a false god…so many are basically teaching their children to worship Santa because they make more of a big deal about him and not Christ’s birth. My mother and I were having this very conversation this weekend. She doesn’t celebrate Christmas as Christ’s birth because it was originally a pagan holiday, and because it’s not Biblically based…instead, she and her church do Santa only. At Christmas time, her house if filled with every imaginable image of Santa…but not one image of Christ! It’s almost like her house is filled with graven images all ready to bow down too!
Anyway, sorry about the Santa vent
It’s just been really frustrating to me. I’m trying to teach my kids the true meaning of Christmas and my Mom’s in the background pushing Santa to them. My Mom’s a Santa pusher (HEHEHE)
Comment by Susan (December 27, 2005 @ 9:14 am )
I dont mean to push any buttons, as I am new to posting here, however, In the 10 Commandments it states Thou shall have no graven imagaes of Me…..so any “pictures of Jesus/God/what have you” is breaking that commandment? Am I right? Not that having “Santa’s” is any better in my opinion as we dont do the “Santa” thing. I am not saying that I dont believe in Jesus by any means. I just feel that He has been commercialized just as much if not more than “Christmas” but no one seems to think of that as a “problem” they just upset when the “true meaning” is taken out of “Christmas”.
Comment by Christy (December 27, 2005 @ 9:56 am )
this is why i love your blog, Amy> keep em coming.
andrea
nak
Comment by Andrea (December 27, 2005 @ 10:37 am )
Very good summary, Amy. You’re dealing with that same frustration many of us have — how do I have time (and mind) to celebrate the gift of Christ when the culture of the world demands carols, baking, families, trees and 9 foot candy canes? It’s a bit like someone is trying to shout down the voices of the angels…
Comment by rev-ed (December 27, 2005 @ 12:45 pm )
Hey, I didn’t call your husband “Buster”. Sheesh…I know who the G-man is.
Comment by jaygee (December 27, 2005 @ 1:18 pm )
I like your “Christmas rebellion”! I think I had a touch of that this year.
I also appreciate your mention of the Lord’s Supper: the thing we are supposed to do every week in rememberance of our Saviour. So many people miss/ forget that. God bless!
Comment by Sarah (December 27, 2005 @ 3:22 pm )
Are you picking on me Amy?
I recently learned that the whole celebration of birthday’s is quite pagan. In fact, think about it. Birthday’s celebrate self. The bible tells us to sacrifice self. So it is kind of odd that we celebrate birthdays as well…but I am not going to go entirely off the deep end here yet. I also learned that the church in effort to reach the pagans used the birthday thing to entice them over to Christianity by saying celebrate Jesus’ birthday with us. If you give Satan inch, he goes a mile. I find it ironic now that we as a nation are eliminating the word “Christmas” and calling it Happy Holidays. In another few generations we may not even know the reason it was called Christmas.
I will say, if you ever get to live in the country it sort of remedies the candy cane lane thing. Wahoo. We don’t have the pressure to decorate. Then add in a busy cottage ministry and we just didn’t get the tree up. Then add agrarian children to the mix. They don’t see toys for what they are. They prefer baling twine, sticks etc. So, well, we didn’t buy gifts this year. We did celebrate with family but it greatly reduced the amount of stuff we brought in the house to pile up in the corner to be ignored. Actually, it is piled up in the school room and then donated six months later. I found myself less angry this year and more radiant because I finally took a stand and disengaged a bit from all the hubub.
Some may read this comment and see it as lack. “Gasp. You mean you didn’t celebrate Christmas with your family?” Well..it seemed so trivial when we spent the rest of the year celebrating and giving gifts of ourselves in our farm ministry. If you look at everyday as a holiday, a day to celebrate because of our savior entering into this world, it seems odd to celebrate one day and make it bigger and better than the rest of the year. So, this year we smiled, relaxed, enjoyed leaving money in savings instead of feeling like we had to buy gifts for the children and place them under the tree. It was refreshing. okay, so we are odd. But happily odd.
Comment by KS Milkmaid (December 27, 2005 @ 3:40 pm )
Hey, Amy! Another great post! I know exactly how you feel. I had the same sentiments a few days earlier…
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Keep’m coming.
Comment by /tim (December 27, 2005 @ 4:27 pm )
Good bits to chew on. I think I need to rethink a few things. This year was cuckoo. A whole trunk load of presents was devoted to two small children. My relatives get a little crazy for the girls. But let me tell you sorting through all of it and trying to make a new home for it all is going to be interesting. I’m jumping on the band wagon- no christmas next year! Well maybe not that extreme, I do love the smell of a fresh tree in the home. I will however be putting a severe limit on the amount of “presents” received next year. How about one! Amy thanks for creating topics that can help bring about godly perspectives.
Comment by Carrie (December 27, 2005 @ 5:44 pm )
Amy,
Our family did Christmas different this year, and I think we finally found the way that works for us. (Kinda like KS Milkmaid) I linked to your article but your trackback doesn’t seem to be working. Just thought I’d let you know.
Comment by Lauren (December 27, 2005 @ 7:49 pm )
Yolk? Are you referring to eggnog?
Comment by Leslie (December 27, 2005 @ 8:08 pm )
Good post, but I disagree with what Dave Black says about the fact that God wants us to remember Jesus’ death. His death was a sacrifice to make a point, that came to light with his ressurection. I feel that is a point many people miss. His birth and death were significant events, to be sure, but it is his ressurection that brings us hope. Dwelling on his death all the time brings a danger of forgetting that he rose again, completing God’s purpose for our sake! Wow, what a gift.
Comment by Sarah (December 28, 2005 @ 9:43 am )
Good post on trying to stay above the pressures of Christmas culture.
Just want you to know that there is a different way of doing things - and that believers are finding Christ and focusing on Christ during Christmas - He can still be found in gatherings of believers around the world.
We attend a church here on the Canadian Prairies that has the Lord’s Supper each and every time the church family meets. We remember His death each time.
But I wish to disagree with the comment that we are not to celebrate the birth of Christ…..I think people get so annoyed with the birth celebrations they forget that Christmas is so much more— and so much more worth celebrating. Christmas is celebrating “in the fullness of time….” Christmas is celebrating “God who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets, hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son…..” Christmas is celebrating “In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God..And the Word was made flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.”
The Incarnation is the other side of the coin of the Death and Resurrection. And if you don’t have incarnation, you have only the martrydom of a good man.
There is never enough time in the whole month of December to remember and rejoice and be thankful enough for the Incarnation, for a God that does not forget to keep His promises. And why limit the Incarnation to December. But the sad truth is that so little teaching is even given to the Incarnation and the fulfillment of prophecy. We yawn, and quickly become bored with that whole topic because we all see it from hind site and say, what’s the problem?, of course God keeps His promises.
One of the most powerful proofs of the truth of scripture is fulfilled prophecy. It takes more than the month of December to even read them all and study them all. God has faithfully given us His promises and held to them.
If you see Christmas as only the birthday of a baby, you are missing so much. And if you throw out Christmas because you see it only as a birthday party, how sad. For come Easter, you will remember the death of a good man who has done no wrong.
We need to be careful that our reactions to incroaching culture does not also hamper us from worshipping the Lord in spirit and in truth.
Grace on the cold
Canadian Prairies.
Comment by Grace (December 28, 2005 @ 10:53 am )
It is not often that I let the culture dictate my agenda. As a Christian, it is my goal to be counter-culture– not for the sake of being odd, as if being odd legitimizes my Christianity, but because it is oftentimes true that when the stream is flowing fast in one direction that God is calling his people to swim the other way.
Spooky! Ok, not really but I just wrote the following within the last hour for an entry for my own blog to be released tomorrow:
As Christians we become contrarians by nature, not because we want to be contrary, but because the God we serve runs against the current of this world. And so we learn and are taught to look through the temporal things of this world to the eternal. We see the good things of this earth as pointers to the promises from our Lord of eternal blessings and as testimonies of his glory and beauty. But we also see the evil things of this world for what they are plainly: as intoxications that never satisfy our lusts and never fulfill our evil desires.
Good stuff, Amy! In just this small exceprt you’ve just provided a fine commentary for 1 Corinthians 1:26-29.
Brad
Comment by Broken Messenger (December 28, 2005 @ 6:47 pm )
Thanks for posting.
Always good to examine our actions. It’s so easy for me to convince myself that certain man-made, long-held Christmas traditions don’t matter 11 months of the year, but realize I was fooling myself when I crumble at the idea of NOT buying my five children new toothbrushes to find in their stockings. So…let’s see…stockings are just..well..umm..simple, right!…and we should keep things simple so the “Reason for the Season”…can shine through..right…and new toothbrushes point the way to an object lesson on how Jesus cleans us on the inside…Yes! Freedom in Christ!
On a related yet purely entertaining note, you, in your Candy Cane Lane, would thoroughly enjoy John Grisham’s Skipping Christmas novella if you haven’t yet read it.
Comment by Heather (December 29, 2005 @ 11:22 am )
We’re about as counter-culture as you can get at Christmas. Due to religious beliefs, we don’t start celebrating the Christmas season until Christmas. We celebrate Advent, a penetential season, preparing the way for the Christ child. On Christmas Eve we put up our tree and decorate it, and leave the decorations up until the Feast of the Purification, on February 2. This is our first home in suburbia, so it will be interesting to see how long before someone asks when our Christmas tree is coming down. Luckily, since we couldn’t afford to decorate the outside, we’re not likely to get any actual complaints!
As a side note, we do not decorate with Santa, reindeer, etc. When we decorate outside it will be with colored lights, and a realistic looking nativity scene. We don’t do Santa, we want our children to focus on Christ’s birthday, not a fat guy who brings them presents. Of course, we do presents, but try to instill in them that they are given in celebration of the birth of Baby Jesus, and we have many religious traditions to remind them of that. They don’t miss Santa at all, since they don’t know about him, and they have a blast all the same. Just our way of doing things!
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Comment by Mommaroo2 (December 29, 2005 @ 9:52 pm )
Great commentary on the Christmas stress. I gave up “doing” Christmas a couple of years ago. No shopping, no crowds, no tree, not a card or an ornament. No stress, no debt, no mess! Just a really nice family dinner and a day to reflect and rejoice, without the world crowding in.
I tell people I gave up Christmas for Lent. They just sort of look at me. They think it even stranger that I haven’ watched TV in almost 16 years.
The most memorable Christmas I’ve ever had was as a single parent to three young children and I had no money for Christmas. I asked the kids to go through the house and find something that has a special memory or meaning to them, wrap that and put it under the tree and when we open the package we can all share the memory. It was INCREDIBLE!
God is so good!
DefinedByGrace
Comment by DefinedByGrace (January 21, 2006 @ 5:28 am )
[...] This gave us a good view of the Christmas light lookers. (Remember, we live on our local “Candy Cane Lane,” wherein giant 9 foot tall plastic, lighted candy canes line the street.) Our next door neighbors– in their 80’s, but my kids help set up the stuff– have arguably the best decked-out house on the island. They’ve got the faded Jesus, the motorized Santa, the inflatable snowmen, the blinking reindeer, the lights, the action. All the bling. Cars stop at their house, which is at the end of the street in a cul-de-sac. Some people even get out. [...]
Pingback by Amy’s Humble Musings » A Merry Christmas (December 23, 2006 @ 10:13 pm )
Beautifully-put, Amy, as always. I do a bit of shopping on the internet, have nice, brief visits with family members (whom I appreciate all the more because I don’t spend that much time with them!), and then retreat home for a week of quiet with my husband. We _do_ do some shopping–_after_ Boxing Day, when everything’s deeply discounted and the crowds have all gone!
I did notice a startling number of inflatable Christmas personages around this year. They’re cheerful–but heavens, how does one _inflate_ something twenty feet high????
And we RCers celebrate the Crucifixion in the sacrifice of every Mass, so some churches do, indeed, take to heart the exhortation to remember Christ’s death.
Balance is always key. I love the decorations–but just a few will do. You can always go and look at the neighbours’!
Comment by Mrs. P. (December 27, 2006 @ 1:12 pm )