In praise of lists
Thursday, Jan 19, 2006
There’s nothing like an impending baby arrival that can get a girl going on her lists. Not long ago, my lists were on various scrap papers lying around the house, and now, I have them all organized in various stages of repair on my laptop.
I am a woman with a mission: Get the house in Better Homes and Gardens photo-op condition before this baby makes his or her appearance. Because one should be able to bask in order for about ten minutes before the disorder begins.
The old story about a man moving rocks uphill day-after-day just to return them to the former pile hardly describes the life of a mother of babies, toddlers, preschoolers, and kids with science experiments and paint. (Paint?! What relative was out to get me at Christmas?) At least in the story with the rocks, the man just moves the rocks. In the mother’s story, the rocks fall off the wagon, explode, and don’t come in cups with spill-proof lids. I know this.
But lists keep the wagon moving, albeit imperfectly sometimes. Lists enable grocery shopping to occur never more than once a week. Tomorrow, my list will enable me to combine the post office trip with the midwife visit and swing by for my blood draw all in one-fell-swoop. If you are buckling and unbuckling babies at each stop, you know that errands aren’t a mother’s best friend. Neither are gas prices.
Consider making the following ritual part of your day.
Follow the 15:4 rule: Spending fifteen minutes thinking about what you are going to do before you start will save four hours of wasted time later on. Any individual who has thought through her workday, set priorities, and organized the day’s tasks is likely to accomplish far more than someone who moves randomly through the day. ~Stephanie Winston (HT: girl talk)
Some women like to regiment their day to the minute; I prefer to have a structure that every day follows. That way, each child “does the next thing” without my constant management, and we can still be flexible to each day’s particulars, particularly when God’s plans trump my own plans (Romans 12:1-2). Whatever method you employ, be deliberate.
Like a lot of things, lists can arguably fall under the category of “morally neutral.” Yet, just like the oft used example of technology, nothing comes without its caveats. That is, while something may not be good or evil in itself, it has the potential to instigate both good and evil depending on its use. Still put another way, most everything comes with strings attached. Making lists can cause frustration, dissatisfaction, or unrealistic expectations in a household. Likewise, it can be a tool for multi-tasking, using time wisely, and good management. Being a driven sort of person, I struggle with the former use.
Lists can be one way to obey Scripture’s admonition to redeem the time (Ephesians 5:16)—making the best use of our time because the days are evil. (We do this not just by making lists, but “presenting our bodies a living sacrifice” for His use. This means that we ask Him what His will for our day is, rather than making arbitrary plans and asking His approval, as if His blessing comes out of a vending machine.) And just in case you think I manage this perfectly, God humorously humbled the writer of this post just now: I paused to cook up my recipe of Curry Chicken for dinner tonight, and just when I went to add the curry, I found that it somehow wasn’t in the cabinet. Or on a list.
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I just wrote about making a list, too! (And I’d send you my bottle of curry . . . but I suppose you want to eat dinner tonight, huh?)
Comment by Mel (January 19, 2006 @ 6:20 pm )
when is baby due? and how old are your current children?
Comment by Anonymous (January 19, 2006 @ 11:21 pm )
So very true. But this happens daily multiple times throughout our day. We have not a photo-op better homes thing, but a our home need to look civilized for customers. After customers leave with six children, it takes two seconds before evidence of disorder shines through. Funny thing is we don’t have just one customer per day. This is a very fun cycle all throughout the afternoon. I used to be a list gal. I threw ‘em out the window. I did relapse and do a menu two weeks ago. All went well Mon-Wed. I even shopped according to the menu. Then, real life kicked in, I was in bed for the next week with Brian cooking. I spent a good hour searching through books and printing out my menu all for three days of organized meals. I think I am just jinxed. I admire those who can do a list. For now, I am just Nike about it all…”Just do it”. However, I am going to reapply those menus starting tomorrow. Surely, it can be done more than three days out of fourteen.
Comment by KS Milkmaid (January 19, 2006 @ 11:55 pm )
Ahh, the Pregnancy Lists. Those are precious. Be sure to hang onto a few of them. My mom insisted I keep a list from my last pregnancy, although I couldn’t see why at the time. My ‘nesting’ had kicked in though, and on that list were: Buy bigger house, buy bigger car with more seats, buy extra toilet paper NOW, and Pick out a Name. It was sort of a ‘catch-all’ list I think! And I ended up with a TON of toilet paper, but I can’t remember now why I thought that was so important then. Happy gestating!
Comment by HolyMama! (January 20, 2006 @ 12:00 am )
Can you remember the list for your firstborn? I used the lists from baby magazines, hospital suggestions, etc. I had at least 10 bath cloths, a formidable supply of rubbing alcohol, naturally a wipe warmer (highly sophisticated 8 years ago!), and one of those “special” garbage cans with “special” liners/nightmares. My firstborn survived and by God’s grace and mercy the additional 4 boys have as well although today we are rejoicing over a dime that finally passed - not a job for the fainthearted!
I still have the pangs of wanting to repaint, recarpet, and purchase 20 expensive outfits size 1-3mo. But now, thankfully, I’m to tired to accomplish much more than a good vacuuming and stockpiling some “special” Hefty bags. Congratulations and I know God will equip you to do what He has planned!
Comment by Teresa (January 20, 2006 @ 10:16 am )
Amy,
I’ve got a song for you…
Jesus, I am nesting, nesting
Got a baby on the way
I am cleaning up the whole house
Won’t be time after that day
(to the tune of: Jesus, I am resting)
Comment by Shaun (January 20, 2006 @ 10:42 am )
Amy,
does it? I know exactly what you mean about exploding rocks.I have been nesting for the last six weeks, going methodically and carefully through my “To Do Before Baby Arrives” list. It was a challenege to accomplish it (particularly as I started to move slower and slower) but Saturday night I finished my six week deep cleaning marathon with the house in pristine condition, right on schedule.
Thanks once again for the encouragement! I do love lists and organizing but life sure doesn’t always cooperate
I prepared to launch Phase Two of my “Prepare for Baby” plan which included just keeping up with our routines and doing fun things with the children until baby arrived.
Instead, I decided to fall down the basement stairs Tuesday morning enroute to the washing machine and have spent the week hobbling around with a horribly painful tailbone, watching the house disintegrate around me,trying to keep the other 4 children productively occupied whilst NOT undoing my six weeks of work, carrying around our 17 month old who has chosen this week to not feel well and cry whenever I put her down, and praying fervently that I not go into labor until my back heals up…sigh. It has been one of those weeks where I know the Lord is trying to teach me something! I CAN see the humor in it, but it will seem a lot funnier once my tailbone feels better!
Anyhow, thanks again, I always come away revived after reading your tidbits
Jennifer
Comment by Jennifer (January 20, 2006 @ 2:39 pm )
Er… “challenge” spelling correction… now my brain is failing too!
Comment by Jennifer (January 20, 2006 @ 2:41 pm )
In the words of VeggieTales (kinda-sorta)
“I love my lists!”
I have lists of lists. I generally start them on Post Its and then they get entered into one of those blank journals. I carry one in my purse. It helps me remember things, but I tend towards trying to save the world on a Saturday, and I sometimes feel somewhat guilty for not finishing everything! I’ve found that everything takes me twice as long since I had the baby….
Thanks for the good post!!
Comment by Kathryn (January 20, 2006 @ 5:45 pm )
Due in exactly 6 weeks, but hoping for sooner. Children are 7, 6, 4, 19 months, and gestating.
BTW, the one list that is non-existant is our list of baby names. We need to work on that, but we’re genuinely stumped.
Comment by Amy Scott (January 20, 2006 @ 9:20 pm )