Month nine
Saturday, Feb 4, 2006
Like millions of women in my condition who have gone before, I detest waiting. The suspense, the unknown, the mystery is hard on a Type A personality who enjoys routine, a neat schedule, and babies who never spit up on the way out the door. My husband, however, says that the mystery is solved. When he saw me vacuuming the baseboards and windows, touching up the scuff marks on the walls with paint, and organizing the Legos today, he told me that the wait must be over. I’m obviously “nesting.”
Either that, or I’m obsessive compulsive. (Gulp.) I tried not to think about that as I vacuumed out the oven today and my four-year-old said, “Mom, I don’t think that’s how you’re supposed to do it.”
I even had my husband replace the batteries in the smoke detectors. While hanging and testing the alarms, he said in all seriousness, “Now kids, if you ever hear this loud noise at night [BEEEEEP], that means there’s a fire in the house. We have to get out!”
“Yeah,” I said, “But never mind if it’s during the day.”
Yes, indeed, our house is almost ready—we can have company, a white-glove inspection… even the fire department can come on over. But Baby Cakes needs to hang on a few minutes, because we still don’t have any diapers—or a name. I try to prioritize, but I’m obviously not always successful.
In life, there are mysteries, hard providences, and unknowns. True, there are fun, hopeful mysteries—like waiting for a baby. Sometimes they are the kind that leave us in wonder of God’s faithfulness—especially when things produce in our favor, and sometimes they are the kind that leave us in awe of His sovereignty—like when we don’t understand His purposes when the way seems difficult. Either way, in joy or in trial, He is always just, always good.
Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good!
Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him!
Oh, fear the LORD, you his saints,
for those who fear him have no lack!
~Psalm 34:8-9
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Amy,
I’ve been enjoying reading your blog. I’m on month nine too- just two weeks to go. This is my first. I’ve been doing the nesting thing for awhile=) At any rate, I enjoy your blog and hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well.
Sandi
Comment by Sandi (February 5, 2006 @ 2:18 pm )
Hi Amy,
I really enjoy your blog too… and wanted to share a little about naming our #5, who is almost 3 years old.
I like to have names picked early, too. With each child, it seems we got further and further along before we picked a name.. or at least a girl name as we had decided to name our first two boys after dh’s father (#3) and my father (#6). Well, with #5, my favorites were Emily Caroline or Claire Louise. My mother-in-law put in that she liked Claire… my mom’s middle name is Louise. My husband didn’t think Emily went with our last name, he said no to Claire. He didn’t have any other ideas. Then I had this strange episode about 2 weeks before my due date. We thought it was my heart or a blood clot… I was in labor (you’d think we’d know after 4 times through this, wouldn’t you?) When we finally figured this out, it was nearly time to go to the hospital. My husband said…’we need a name…I like Caroline.. but what goes with Caroline?’.. I had a few ideas… none of which was Rose
. My wonderful husband called his mother and she picked between Rose and something else. Obviously she picked Rose. Without even trying, we named our beautiful little girl after two of my greatgrandmothers. We call her Carrie and our Rosebud and Carrie Roses.. and all her names (especially her nicknames) fit her to a ‘T’. So, I guess my point is, God is Sovereign… in all things.. even when we don’t get it done early!
God bless you in your 9th month!
Comment by ponderer (February 5, 2006 @ 5:28 pm )
Amy,
Oooohhh, that’s a good sign! Hope you prove the midwife wrong!
Diapers aren’t hard to come by; but surely you have a short list of names?
Jeanne
Comment by At A Hen's Pace (February 5, 2006 @ 7:43 pm )
Oh I remember the nesting. Once I went a little to far and decided to vacum out the trunk of our Lumina. I thought I was safe. No one was home. I lodge my beached whale self in the back of the trunk with the canister sweeper. I was really moving along and feeling mighty good about the cleanliness. The vacum was so loud I didn’t hear my husband pull up in the truck. He was so shocked at the sight of his penguin wife in the trunk with a sweeper. He just shook his head. The last pregnancy I was standing on the buffet painting over strange scuff marks on the ceiling. I am not sure how they got there. I don’t know if I left them in one of those proverbial “You children are driving me up the wall moments”. Either way, Brian shook his head and said, “I hate nesting. Would you like a straw bale instead?”
Can’t wait to hear your exciting news.
Comment by KS Milkmaid (February 5, 2006 @ 8:30 pm )
How on earth do you feel well enough at this stage to prepare your house for a white glove test? Goodness. I nest…but it never all comes together to a spotless house for me. I just have all these weird places organized. I’m too tired to mop every day!
Comment by Holly (February 5, 2006 @ 9:41 pm )
Well, you can just hope you aren’t like my friend who just gave birth to her 7th child, a boy weighing 15 pounds, 24 inches long who arrived 16 days past her due date. (At home, in a birthing tub, I might add.)
Comment by Mel (February 6, 2006 @ 12:17 am )
You and Holly have me holding my breath!
Are you suuuuuuuuuuure you don’t want to fly me down? I’d make a GREAT doula. Just think of the great theological arguments we could get into in between contractions…

Your loving blog stalker from the Far North,
Comment by molly (February 6, 2006 @ 12:33 am )
PS. Holly, I don’t really nest either. I just waddle and try not to sulk over the fact that I’m STILL not in labor…

Comment by molly (February 6, 2006 @ 12:34 am )
Sandi, First baby? Congratulations!
Ponderer and Jeanne, We also decided on our last baby at the last moment, but we did have a short list of names. This time, we have no list.
Milkmaid, Thanks for piping in even during your time of sadness right now. I just listened to your Plain Talk CD last week and enjoyed getting to know you better.
Holly wrote, “How on earth do you feel well enough at this stage to prepare your house for a white glove test?”
Well, Holly, it’s all undone now with people wanting to live in the house and all. But it was true when I wrote it and the kids and husband were on errands. And no, I don’t feel well enough. In between episodes of being unable to walk, I push through [no pun] by sheer motivation, taking breaks every five minutes.
Mel, I’m thinking that a baby that size wouldn’t fit into a five foot frame, but it sure feels that way.
Molly, Of course we’d love to have you. Make sure you bring Jonathan Edward’s Treatise on the Will with you, as you’ll have time read it a few times and fix your theology before Baby arrives. (I have long labors, remember?)
As far as the Choosing Home Valentine’s Day Contest goes, I plan on entering the category of Best Props by delivering on V Day. The hospital serves a Surf and Turf Birthday Dinner (cake, bubbly, all the fixins’) after delivery for you and your husband, so dinner is covered as well. I will try not to slug a nurse again and so qualify myself for the Most Dramatic category as well. But you know, I wouldn’t put it past my competitive nature to try to sweep two categories. Not when there’s prizes and all.
Comment by Amy Scott (February 6, 2006 @ 9:18 am )
p.s. Molly has admitted elsewhere that she just looooooves labor. Which just ain’t fittin’ or Scriptural. So we’ll have to address that point too.
Love in Jesus, Amy
Comment by Amy Scott (February 6, 2006 @ 9:26 am )
I get it, Amy. I just said the (basically) same thing to my husband. We’ve all been working this a.m. to get the house spic and span, (it’s his day off) and I told him, “This is lovely…but tomorrow it will all need done again.” That’s the deal. I clean it, but one would never know by the next day.
Comment by Holly (February 6, 2006 @ 11:41 am )
Don’t worry about the name. For our fourth, we had a terrible time coming up with anything. Finally we picked out the name Joseph as an “OK” compromise. But when he was born he did not look anything like a Joseph. He didn’t have a name for about 36 hours. This drove the nurses crazy, but I liked the experience of knowing and loving a little person before he had a name. Finally, his older brother said, “Let’s name him Jonathan,” and we looked at him, and it fit, so we did. It was a precious experience, and I am thankful that we had it.
I love Psalm 34.
Comment by ruth (February 6, 2006 @ 12:54 pm )
I, too, am in month #9 (with my 9th), but my way of nesting is a bit different. On Saturday, I had my big kids washing walls and woodwork and even had my teenaged son cleaning the grout on the bathroom floors. Now THAT’S the way to nest. Sit back with your feet up and give orders!
By the way, we also changed batteries in smoke detectors. Must be the fear that I won’t be able to run or rouse anyone due to my “hugeness” should we (God forbid) have a fire!
Comment by Linda (February 6, 2006 @ 3:49 pm )
Amy:
I know it may seem strange to rejoice with you at a time when we are grieving the loss of our babies, but I can honestly say God is so good. He truly provides a peace that surpass all understanding.
If you like we can help you with naming. Start a name that baby contest. See if any of us come remotely close. My children could offer some suggestions too. It could prove to be very entertaining. My oldest decided when number two was born he should be Zippy or Judd. He for a long time called him Zacharay Aaron Keith Zippy Judd. My three old twin though this last baby should be Zeke. I asked him what should we call the baby if it were a gir. He said, Zeke. Blessings to you!
Comment by KS Milkmaid (February 6, 2006 @ 4:05 pm )
With our 2nd we didn’t have a name a week after he was born. My midwife called me and said “Now we’ve really got to finish filling these things out.” So we drew it out of a hat.
Comment by kerri (February 6, 2006 @ 9:37 pm )
Good luck! I hope you are having the baby now…since you posted this on Saturday and it is now Tuesday (unless you had it Sunday or Monday)
Waiting is not fun…but your wait is almost over! (Or maybe it is over?)
Can’t wait to hear the name!
Comment by Bethany (February 7, 2006 @ 1:24 pm )
I knew a couple who, when their 7th child?, was born, they could not name her. For the life of them, they could not agree on a name. Last time I heard, by the time she was a year old, she was still called “Baby Mayo”. Nope, still no name for her. It’s one thing to not be able to come up with a name in nine months ( I’m so pesky and annoying, I don’t let us go that long with out deciding on one), but a whole year after the birth….? I don’t think so!
Just in case you are interested, if this one is a boy, he will be Malachi Martin Dewing (Martin after my father) and if it’s a girl, Keziah “something”. It was going to be Pamela as the middle name, after my mother. But my sister is due in Sept. and really likes the name Pamela. Which is great, because we don’t. We were going to do it for her (my mother).
So, is Bethany right? Baby…?
Jennifer
Comment by Jennifer D (February 7, 2006 @ 2:56 pm )
Hi Amy ~
Love your blog here…good writing!
Sending prayers and hugs.
Comment by Vicki (February 7, 2006 @ 3:45 pm )
No baby yet! (I just posted an update.)
Ya’ll are scaring me with the Baby Naming stories…a whole year without a name?! Anyway, I hereby announce to taking suggestions. (Put them in the post above, though.)
Comment by Amy Scott (February 7, 2006 @ 4:16 pm )
Hi Amy!
How ’bout Cayden Michael. Haven’t a clue what it might mean but I thought it sounded like a good strong name.
OR
Gabriel Michael (Michael Gabriel?) after the two angels mentioned in the bible.
OR
Everett James (Everett makes me think of Mount Everest; strong, majestic, reaching up to God
This is sort of fun. I better stop or I’ll get really carried away.
Susanne
Comment by Susanne (February 7, 2006 @ 4:55 pm )
Sorry thought I was on the post above. Silly me! I’ll rewrite it there.
Susanne
Comment by Susanne (February 7, 2006 @ 4:56 pm )