Hug the cross
Thursday, Feb 23, 2006
I happen to like Google– even if they sold out to the Chinese. Thanks to smart search engines, you can learn almost everything about anything concerning nothing nowadays. Type in your fancy, and voila’, information overload is at your fingertips.
But sometimes search engines aren’t so smart. Often site owners will check their Google hits and find highly amusing ways that people got to their site. For me, hits are often generated by someone searching for “Amy Scott” or something in relation to a dishwasher. But yesterday, someone in Ohio found me by typing, “I am beginning to hate staying home with little kids.” Out of 11.9 million websites, my site came up fifth concerning those words.
Not knowing this woman (presumably), I will never have the chance to sit down and sip a mocha with her. But I will continue to cross paths with women harboring the same sentiment in her heart in the coming days—especially if I look long enough in the mirror some dreary mornings.
There are two ways to approach the matter, the way I see it. One is to follow the advice of many women who have gone before: get plugged in with other mothers of preschoolers, set a schedule (preferably one that includes nap/quiet time for all), get moving outside, and surround yourself with others who will encourage you in your unique calling. Try new things: plant a garden, test new recipes, volunteer with the kids in tow, and keep your mind fresh with books, books, and more books.
And tape over toys with noise in order to mute the sound a little.
The second approach is entirely different, not necessarily exclusive to the first. And that is to repent. When Jesus tells us that the way is narrow, few find it, and to take up your cross, He was the antithesis of the trendy pop-advice found in Oprah-like magazine articles. They say, “Love yourself,” as He says, “Love the Lord your God.” They say, “Make time for yourself,” while the Bible says, “Wait on the Lord.” We (mothers) are not leaving home for the workplace for lack of “me time,” but because, we fill our minds (un- and subconsciously, to be sure) with ideas that are anti-Biblical: “Have it your way,” “You deserve a break today,” and “Our bodies, our choice.”
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We are not called to a life of ease, but to a life of glory. That is, our chief end is to “glorify God and enjoy Him forever.” (Westminster, Question 1) In this simple catechism statement, we see God’s transcendence (His awe, His power) and His immanence (His nearness, His care). Not only are we to glorify a great God by taking up our cross and following Him, but we are to enjoy Him as we do, as He is One who enables us to glorify Him, “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” (Isaiah 40:11)
He gives strength to the weary so that we can serve Him with gladness. If we find insufferable our jobs—the very one that God has entrusted us with, the precious calling of accepting the least of these in His name—the remedy is not more “me time,” but more time on our knees. This is first. A mocha topped with whipped cream shared with another mom afterward doesn’t hurt either.
The LORD is righteous in all his ways
and kind in all his works.
The LORD is near to all who call on him,
to all who call on him in truth.
He fulfills the desire of those who fear him;
he also hears their cry and saves them.
~Psalm 145:17-19
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I love it, Amy. You are SOOOOO right on. Excellent words!
Comment by Holly (February 23, 2006 @ 4:19 pm )
Beautiful post. Thank you.
Comment by Carrie K. (February 23, 2006 @ 4:26 pm )
Amen, Sister!
Christians for centuries have put the spotlight on repentance in this season (Lent) between Christmas and Easter. I for one have always really felt the need of it around this time in the school year, especially!
Comment by At A Hen's Pace (February 23, 2006 @ 4:40 pm )
Okay, that one hit right between the eyes. Actually it was the answer to a prayer sent up early this morning. Thanks for adjusting my perspective today–now we hope that baby will adjust his position!
Comment by Charlotte (February 23, 2006 @ 5:06 pm )
Thank you, Amy, for the encouraging post. I’ve been wondering lately what my calling is and where I fit in in God’s plan. Thanks for the reminder that my purpose is to glorify God!
Comment by Natalie (February 23, 2006 @ 5:44 pm )
I am 45 years old, with 7 kids, homeschooling for 16 years and would you believe that I am just starting to get it. I wish I had had an older woman who came along side of me and told me that you need to serve the Lord in this calling. You can’t or won’t be able to get “me” time sometimes for long stretches of time. Serve the Lord with gladness, not half heartedly while you are thinking about the next time you can “finally” get away from it all. Thank God I still have time to make it right with the little ones that are still here at home with me.
You are a blessing!
Comment by Robin (February 23, 2006 @ 6:01 pm )
Amy, I read your blog often and enjoy it very much, but have never taken the time to comment before. However, I could not move on to my next task in life without telling you what a beautiful post that was. I am blessed, renewed, refreshed, and fired up to be the mommy that Jesus has called me to be. Hopefully the woman who found your blog by googling about hating being home with her kids was touched in some way as well. Thank you for your ministry!
Comment by RobinC (February 23, 2006 @ 9:13 pm )
Hi Amy~
I have been coming to your site and reading your posts for a bit now, and I have finally decided to post. Thank you for this entry…it reminds me of where to go when I need refreshment. You are quite encouraging and I appreciate your posts.
Blessings,
Sommer
Comment by Sommer (February 23, 2006 @ 9:20 pm )
ya GOD! God bless AMY!
Comment by Ruth (February 23, 2006 @ 9:44 pm )
Very true. And falls right into place with what God is teaching me.
Comment by Leslie (February 23, 2006 @ 11:47 pm )
Amen. Beautifully said, and a blessing to “hear” today. Thank you so much.
Comment by Birdie (February 24, 2006 @ 12:13 am )
Yes, yes and yes! You write with candor, boldness and humor. Thank you. Let’s get on our knees together.
Blessings to you as you await another little soul to train for heaven.
Comment by Meredith B. (February 24, 2006 @ 7:59 am )
You are so right! I had fallen in to the trap of wanting my “quiet time” and just more time to myself in general. Always feeling down, and wondering why things were going the way they were.
When I repented, and asked God to fill my heart with joy for my little ones again, my whole perspective changed!
Amen, and God bless you and yours!
Comment by Christi (February 24, 2006 @ 8:06 am )
Amy, you and I are the same age and I constantly find myself shaking my head saying, “how on earth is she this wise already????”
You go girl!!!
Comment by Lindsey (February 24, 2006 @ 8:47 am )
It is to the glory of God that a pregnant-to-the-utmost mom can recognize the Spirits leading and encourage us all with the Truth. : ) Thank you for your obedience, Amy, and thank God for His faithfulness. In our weakness…
Comment by Heather (February 24, 2006 @ 10:37 am )
Amen Amy! Linking to you, once again…
Praying for that baby…and rest for you! ((Hugs))
Comment by Margaret in VA (February 24, 2006 @ 10:41 am )
Beautiful post.
Comment by Faith (February 24, 2006 @ 10:53 am )
BTW - how do you know how someone found you on google? with a name like Faith -I would think I might pop up often.
Comment by Faith (February 24, 2006 @ 10:57 am )
WOW your posts are so honest and funny…you make us stay at home moms continue to stay…thank you. my husband even reads you from time to time…
Comment by thea (February 24, 2006 @ 12:07 pm )
Amy, Hello, Ive been reading your blog for quite some time and its great.Im posting this at the wrong place but I have a baby name suggestion. My third child and only son we named Gage Christopher, its not trendy but it may violate rule #4. It took my husband several weeks to come around but we couldnt imagine any other name for our little man.My family is German Baptists or as people around here call them “plain people” and Gage is an old family name. Im sure whatever you and your husband decide to name your son it will be perfect.God Bless~Krystal in Pa.
Comment by Krystal (February 24, 2006 @ 12:41 pm )
there is my real posting..had to fix it..now when you click you’ll find me.
Comment by thea (February 24, 2006 @ 4:45 pm )
Amen, Amy!
You should write one of those them (devotional) books!
Comment by Andrea (February 24, 2006 @ 5:11 pm )
Oh my, I read your “Large Families Don’t Need Outreaches”. We have 6 children. I love to watch people’s faces. Some people are downright rude. My fave is when people say you have your hands full, to which I respond, full of blessings. I am gathering that #5 is due to make his/her appearance shortly? If not already? Have a great weekend!
Comment by Kelly (February 24, 2006 @ 11:06 pm )
Amen and amen! Very well said!
Blessings,
Angela
Comment by Angela (February 25, 2006 @ 9:55 am )
Amy…I’m stalking! I’m very eager yo hear your news!
Comment by Holly (February 26, 2006 @ 12:47 pm )
I’m stalking, too: Jack and Benjamin can’t wait to meet their new buddy:)
Comment by Shannon Miller (February 26, 2006 @ 2:47 pm )
I am beginning to think that Amy is not really Amy but just Pam Spurling, Barbara Curtis and the mommy from Large Family Logistics pretending to be this young momma who has her act all together so that the rest of us just throw our hands in the air in frustration. That said…
I need to hear this more often. I am so tired of reading how things are peachy keen and life with a dozen children is filled with such beautiful moments. I know that it is, but hey, this is my rant. I want to hear more about the mothers who are struggling with still letting God control thier womb because the high stress level from having said children is seriously driving them over the edge. I am not talking about “me time” I am talking about how do we deal with post partum depression, on top of more PPD, on top of children that have health issues on top of discipline issues that just seem like we can’t stay on top of. Let alone the home… Don’t even get me started on how to keep the home clean when I can barely function as a wife and mother. No, this is not about me time. This is about getting out of the mire. I need to hear more post like this that lead me to the Cross and put my focus where it should be.
Comment by Just me.... (February 26, 2006 @ 2:52 pm )
Add me to the list of baby-waiting stalkers. I will continue to pray for you and your labor - AND continue to pop in to see if there are any new Scotts listed. : )
Comment by Dawn C (February 26, 2006 @ 5:46 pm )
Just Me, I won’t tell you my story - there’s not enough room on Amy’s webserver. I’ll just say that not 2 years ago my lament was almost word for word what yours is now. And I stand here today to tell you you can get out of the mire. It CAN be done but only through his grace.
So thoughts from my journey…
#1. Your journey is your own. Nobody can walk it for you. We may have the same questions, but way the answers will be presented are radically different. There are principles you learn from others, but the exact answers are what God gives YOU for YOUR situation. Nobody else has them.
#2. Do you know God, his character & principles well enough to believe that he is The God of restoration and finishes what he starts? Do you believe he is big enough to create in you a Proverbs 31 woman who can do more than simply cope, but live abundantly and offer hope to others? If you don’t, the best prayer is “Lord, help my unbelief!” and he will.
#3. I strongly recommend you head to your practitioner of choice (whether traditional MD or alternative) and get a full health evaluation. Adding to my spiritual frustration was hidden health complications.
I have been there. It is so hard. But I stand here today & tell you that God is BIGGER! He is the God of restoration on so many levels. No, you won’t get all the answers tomorrow. God will give them to you as you understand and grow. Pray for wisdom & understanding to know what to do with what he’s already given you.
This too shall pass.{{HUGS}} I’ll be praying for you.
Comment by Janel Messenger (February 26, 2006 @ 6:30 pm )
THANK YOU AMY! I too needed to hear this.
Comment by Loni (February 27, 2006 @ 12:30 am )
Thanks! I really needed to hear this. I love visiting your blog.
Comment by Vikki (February 27, 2006 @ 10:42 am )
This is what my heart needed to hear- thank you!!
Comment by AmyE (February 27, 2006 @ 4:53 pm )
I found you through Rachel’s site. What a beautiful humbling post. Every word of it reaches deep down and stirs me. I needed to read this. (Today was a bad day with very spirited almost 4 year old little boy!) Thank you for your encouraging words. I pray older moms reach out more to younger moms. Some of us really do need that.
Comment by Kate (February 28, 2006 @ 8:12 pm )
Oh Amy, talking about reproving someone, you sure let me have it, but thanks. I love my calling that God has placed on my life, but sometimes I do find myself looking for “Me time”. I realize I am being so selfish. I have repented and started something new for me and my children, Pray for me that I will fulfill the plan God has for me and my family. We want to do things God’s way. I am legally blind and sometimes it is a little more difficult for me and my call as a homeschool Mom, do you have any suggestions? Again, thanks for being God’s mouthpiece to me.
Comment by Traci B. (March 2, 2006 @ 5:11 pm )
excellent.
Comment by nenana (March 3, 2006 @ 5:37 am )