School in our house
Wednesday, Mar 29, 2006
My husband, who reads my blog, says that I have horrible grammar. He tells me that sometimes my word choice is bad and that my sentence structure needs restructuring. It’s a good thing I’m not overly sensitive.
In my defense, I usually point out that I’m writing a blog, not a book, and that in order to post something within the lingering 32 minutes of naptime, you just have to take the unpolished version. In addition, I know that I shouldn’t end a sentence with a preposition, but truthfully, I don’t know how to fix it. But I like the first excuse better.
Yes, I am the mother, the teacher, the educator of my husband’s offspring. (Poor word choice?) I am the one who sees to it that his son reads well, his daughter writes well, and that his preschoolers color well. In the future, I will be teaching all of them about prepositions, times tables, and photosynthesis.
I will also (theoretically) teach them not to switch verb tenses in the middle of a sentence. My husband says I do that all the time, too.
Hi Amy, I am just starting to homeschool and I was wondering what kinds of things you do. Do you use a curriculum or use a variety of methods? I know there is a lot out there to choose from. It can be overwhelming. My kids are 5 1/2, 3 1/2, and 10 months. The older 2 are doing pretty well with reading already. Any thoughts? ~ Wendy
For over a year of typing here, I’ve never mentioned our homeschool method or philosophy. I hear you’re supposed to stick to writing on things you know about.
Education, however, is a subject I should know something about. I am a homeschool graduate. [Insert all sarcastic jokes here.] If that’s not enough, I’m one of those “professionals.” In other words, I have a piece of paper from the state of Florida that says I can educate kids. In theory, this means that I have an education since my degree is in education, but that isn’t necessarily so. Educated people know about prepositions and verb tenses. I’m sure of this.
But truly educated people possess more than a working knowledge of verb agreement; they possess wisdom. The goal of our children’s education is that they gain wisdom. This is done by teaching them God’s character (as revealed in the Bible) and what God requires of them. This is why I consider myself still learning, still growing. Educating requires more than just doing the opposite of what I was taught in a public university’s School of Education (though, one could get far on that method), rather, it requires renewing one’s mind according to God’s Word.
In order to choose a curriculum, you must have a goal. What do you want your children to learn? If you answer the “what and why,” the “how” becomes more obvious.
For us (and this is particular to our family), a focus on the “three R’s” during the primary years is a good method (but it is not the end). Right now, we use Rod and Staff for language and Saxon for math. The children also keep a journal. I keep things simple so that they have many opportunities to read, read, and read some more all day long. In the very early years, I did nothing but read aloud to them. Now that I have a seven and a six-year-old, they take over a lot of the read aloud time to the little ones.
We keep a simple schedule and stay home a lot. This is not only to save time, money, and energy, but also because a simple schedule allows for evening devotions, family time, and read alouds. This is the core of our curriculum, the primary means by which we disciple our children. Nobody imagines we’re doing “school” when Dad reads aloud from a chapter book, the family prays, and we hear a chapter from the Bible.
My son took a day off “school” this week and began repairing a riding lawn mower, salvaged from a neighbor’s trash. He wants to convert it to a go-cart, but my husband has visions of a new Lawn Boy in his head. Either way, the professionals disagree with me, but I think small engine repair with Dad is more useful than whatever is going on in second grade science chapter 5. We do read science books, but we don’t follow a formal science curriculum. We read G.A. Henty books, but we don’t have a formal history curriculum. This is what works for us.
Because of the lawn mower project and my husband’s plan to build a shed from scratch next month, my son got his first set of real tools. The curriculum, of course, is not just engine repair or building construction, but ultimately, family repair. Dad is teaching his son that a man takes responsibility for his family and works hard. The method is repairing engines and building things, but the agenda is always there, always underlying everything we do: be the man (or woman) that God has called you to be. Get wisdom. Work hard. Love God.
While there is more than one way to skin a cat, this is our current method. When it stops working, we’ll reevaluate. In the meantime, I’ll be picking up a good book on English grammar, and I’ll use my degree as a bookmark.
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Amen, Amy. I’ve always said if I have to choose I’ll pick that my children have a love for the Lord and relationship with Him rather than a lot of head knowledge.
Comment by Jeana (March 29, 2006 @ 3:12 pm )
Well, I don’t know you, yet you have one of the most enjoyable blogs to me. I’ve never noticed any glaring errors (not saying much), but I consider grammar foibles simply “artistic license”.
Keep writing…we’re reading!
Comment by Emily (March 29, 2006 @ 3:14 pm )
Amy,
I enjoy all your posts so much even though I rarely comment. I am an “older” homeschooling mom (57) and have used various curricula over the years but have been most satisfied with Rod and Staff, Saxon math, and lots of reading aloud (sound familiar?). The emphasis has definitely NOT been academics and yet none of the children have suffered in this area. The main point is to train up our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. I just want to encourage you to keep on with following Him in all areas of life.
Oh, btw, I am currently taking an online course in proofreading and want to quote something from the “Chicago Manual of Style” - “The ‘rule’ prohibiting terminal prepositions was an ill-founded superstition…As Winston Churchill famously said, ‘That is the type of arrant pedantry up with which I shall not put.’” That should warm your heart!
Comment by Violet (March 29, 2006 @ 4:03 pm )
Great post…I always enjoy reading your blog!
Comment by Jessica (March 29, 2006 @ 6:33 pm )
We use the “same curriculum”. My husband has taught small engine repair to our boys for years. Now our oldest son has gone on to automotive repair. We too have done the building of barns, decks, and repairs. With this “curriculum” our children are learning more than most that go by the books so closely. Thank you for YOUR encouragments - AGAIN!
Loni
Comment by Loni (March 29, 2006 @ 10:08 pm )
What does a rocket scientist know about writing??
I’m an editor, and I think your writing here is fantastic. I only discovered your blog a few weeks ago, but already I can tell that you have a wonderfully distinct and compelling voice. So tell your DH (submissively and respectfully, of course) to stick to rockets! 
Comment by Amy (March 30, 2006 @ 5:34 am )
Great thoughts Amy. I ask a similar question to new homeschoolers. I ask “What do you want your children to become?” It is along the same lines as what do you want them to learn but it is a little different.
As a Christian I desire my children to become wise. That is a little beyond just learning. It is when a parent understands what biblical wisdom is that they can decide what they should learn and how.
Think of it this way, anyone can learn how to make a table to eat on. But when we learn what wisdom is the table becomes the means to show hospitatlity to our neighbor. Wisdom says invite them over for a meal.
This keeps curriculum in perspective as well. I encourage parents to do a study on wisdom and the fool from Proverbs. It will give them discernment when looking at curriculum. All that is out there may produce knowledge and learning but not wisdom.
As far as the grammar, my husband is the same way. He’s always saying something about how I write. His blog is impeccable in grammar. I told him any time he wants to be my editor to go right ahead.
Comment by Spunky (March 30, 2006 @ 6:42 am )
As always Amy, great ENCOURAGING reads!
I, too, homeschool our two boys. It’s amazing to me the different reasons “why” people homeschool. The “why” will definately impact your choice of curriculum or methods of teaching. Thanks for the refreshment near the end of a long school year!
Comment by Julie (March 30, 2006 @ 7:28 am )
Oh dear! Your hubby hasn’t read my blogs. I don’t have much time to edit and proof read. Often, I have help typing my blogs from a beloved child too. My grammar stinks. You do a fantastic job much better than I do.You write very well. Keep up the good work.
Comment by KS Milkmaid (March 30, 2006 @ 7:52 am )
Before kids, I taught English at the High School level. I fully agree with Winston Churchill who remarked, “From now on, ending a sentence with a preposition is something up with which I will not put.”
I frequently use incorrect grammar on my blog. Some of it I’m aware of and it just sounds better, some of it I’m not. In reading your blog, I would say that you are a better gammarian than me, and I taught it. But that kind of attention to detail is a trait as much as anything–one that I really don’t possess.
Comment by Leslie (March 30, 2006 @ 7:57 am )
Amy,
Your writing is some of the best I’ve seen in a blog. You intimidate me. I was an English major and worked briefly as an advertising copywriter before “retiring” to raise my children. My mother was a grammar fanatic and throughout my school years, I generally knew far more grammar than did my teachers.
I can neither type nor spell, so my blog is atrocious anyway.
Concerning ending sentences with prepositions–that can be taken too far and become awkward. Winston Churchhill was once criticized for ending a sentence with a preposition, and he allegedly replied, “That is a criticism up with which I will not put.”
Comment by ruth (March 30, 2006 @ 9:27 am )
Thank you for these words Amy. I have been struggling with this lately - trying to fit in all the different subjects and feeling guilty for missing science and history sometimes. I’m sure my children are learning a lot more than I think but I feel the pressure sometimes to make sure they’re not missing anything.
Spunky, thanks for the words from Proverbs. We’re reading through that right now and you’re so right about the fool. The fool’s eyes are constantly wondering but the wise man has his eyes fixed steadfastly ahead, not looking to the right or the left. Great words!
Blessings to you Amy! Kiss that baby for me!
Comment by Meredith B. (March 30, 2006 @ 9:49 am )
I didn’t think that grammar mattered in the blogworld!?! Does it? Isn’t it just like capitalization doesn’t matter in e-mail? Who has time to proofread? Blogging is just the bonus…not the entire day!
And what did Winston Churchill REALLY say…?
Comment by Holly (March 30, 2006 @ 11:56 am )
Amy,
I have been silently reading your blog for months and I want to thank you for telling a little about your homeschooling methods. I have a 2 1/2 year old, only child, and want to homeschool her. I live in a desperately liberal area, and run into far more pagans than Christians who homeschool. I am always interested to read your “Christian” perspective on things, and of particular interest to me right now is how you homeschool. Thanks for mentioning what curriculum you use, just one more tidbit for me to research!
Comment by Amy from Maine (March 30, 2006 @ 12:02 pm )
Small engine repair is SO much more educational than verb tenses. My boys are planning forts at the moment. Hoping we get moved soon so the plans can come to fruition.
BTW, you sure do have quite a following for someone who has grammar woes!
Comment by Lyn (March 30, 2006 @ 12:27 pm )
OK, perhaps I should’ve mentioned (in my husband’s defense) that I asked for the critique and that I sometimes send him my posts before I hit the spelling/grammar check on Word. Too, he told me that the somewhat entertaining content makes up for the errors, but I didn’t mention that part because that wouldn’t be in keeping with the humble content. (Run-on sentence)
Spunky, In my original version, I wrote, “What do you want your children to be?”
But then I thought to myself, “Self, I think that you’re supposed to avoid the use of passive verbs, especially ‘to be.’” But now that I think of it, “to learn” is the passive form of the verb “to be.” (Isn’t it? I think… No?)
Hmm. I think I need a history book too. Am I the only one who’s never heard Churchill’s famous quote?
Comment by Amy Scott (March 30, 2006 @ 12:48 pm )
I have been reading your blog for a couple weeks now and have been encouraged by your entries. I am homeschooling my 4 blessings age 9 and under. My son likes to read your blog with me and was thrilled with the lawn mower idea.(Although we don’t know of any broken ones we can take apart) It’s great to hear that I am not the only homeschooling mom who doesn’t do the science, social studies, textbooks, etc. Education is done when we sit in our house and walk by the way, when we lie down and rise up. Thanks for letting us all peek into your family. Your children are so sweet!
Comment by Charlotte (March 30, 2006 @ 1:53 pm )
I hadn’t realized you too are a homeschool graduate! Small world.
I enjoy reading your blog and hadn’t noticed any bad grammar errors. Maybe, it’s because I do the same ones. Someday, Lord willing I marry, I hope to homeschool my children about the same way you spoke of. (oops, there’s a preposition!) Anyway, raising up a strong Christian is more important than raising an academic genius, right?
God bless!
Comment by Sarah (March 30, 2006 @ 2:12 pm )
Amy I definatly wouldn’t say that I am experinced in engligh, even though that was my major in college. I would however, suggest the Abeka language cirriculum if you are interested. I have only been exposed to the 6th grade edition, which I taught for 3 years. As far as your homeschooling plan, it sounds like you are using some of Charlotte Mason’s ideas. If you haven’t heard of her, I would say look her up on line. She’s got some great ideas.
I was also wondering when you started reading chapter books aloud to your children.
Thanks for always sounding normal and just like the rest of us moms. I am always encouraged!
Comment by Carrie (March 30, 2006 @ 3:14 pm )
Amysters, it’s nice to hear about other moms doing the same thing. We do the 3 R’s around here, too, in our own version and way…and I love it. No pressure, no hassle, no huge curriculum costs, and bright-eyed children who think learning is a lot of fun.
Comment by molly (March 30, 2006 @ 6:01 pm )
Sounds like a great plan. We love the Saxon math curriculum too. We are using A Well Trained Mind as a roadmap. I am sure my wife will be reading this great post tomorrow.
Thanks for sharing.
-a homeschool dad with two degrees and knows nothing of prepositions and sentence structure. My blogs prove it.
Comment by Bryan (March 30, 2006 @ 7:15 pm )
Thank you - today this was balm to a weary homeschooling mom’s soul. What a WONDERFUL reminder that there are things more important that what we “accomplish” today.
PS Oooooh, that sweet child #5. Kiss he for me. : )
Comment by Dawn C (March 30, 2006 @ 7:35 pm )
I was going to leave the Churchill quote but it seems I’m a day late and a dollar short.
We have a new lawnmower that broke after 3 or 4 uses last summer. It was probably under warrenty, but we lost the receipt. Anyone in the DC area/northern VA area who needs some small engine help is welcome to come on by! Papa and Daddy will be taking it apart in a couple of weeks when Papa and Grandma come to visit, and our 4 year old daughter is a little young to really benefit. Plus, she likes cooking and playing with water better than engines, although she does like to watch Daddy work on the cars and is a good tool fetcher.
Comment by Elizabeth B (March 31, 2006 @ 7:13 am )
Amy, I’m a mostly quiet reader, but I absolutely love reading your stories. You are a great story teller, and you are always encouraging. I haven’t noticed any glaring grammar problems, and I am a HUGE grammar queen. I drive my dh crazy, since spelling isn’t his strong point
My mom is a grammar queen, and my grandma majored in English Lit, so I even have a heritage of writing critique.
I am also a homeschool graduate, and currently I am a mechanical engineer. Not quite rocket scientist, but I do enjoy the engineer stories of your hubby! Keep up the good work! =)
Comment by Elizabeth (March 31, 2006 @ 7:40 am )
Amy,
Thanks for the great reminder to keep things simple. God has been speaking that word to me through others and now through you. Thank you for faithfully sharing.
I didn’t know you were a homeschool graduate. You’re a great advertisement, then, for homeschooling! You’re not only a good writer, but a good thinker. So–what curriculum or approach did your mom use with you?? I’d love to know about high school, especially, as it’s getting very close in our home.
Jeanne
Comment by At A Hen's Pace (March 31, 2006 @ 9:13 am )
Hey Amy~ I’ve been mulling over verb tenses with my own blog…..It’s just too formal, don’t ya think?
Thanks for the encouragement to keep on keepin’ on! We love Rod & Staff English and hope to never change, have always focused on the 3R’s and life is grand.
Blessings to you and your sweet family.
Angela
Comment by Angela (March 31, 2006 @ 10:21 am )
Don’t put your self down too much, Amy. At least you know what a “preposition” is. If push comes to shove, I could tell you what a noun is. But I’d really have to think about it. Forget the pronouns, verbs, adverbs….and I’m not being humble, I’m being honest. I supposedly graduated high school and yet I don’t know the structure of our language. There’s public school for ya. And I’m supposed to teach this to out children? My eldest is 5, so I have a little time to “brush up” on what I should already know. Thankfully, my husband not only knows that stuff, but understands it too. So perhaps our children have hope yet.
But, in my defense, when my children are all done with school, they can sew a mean button on. I may not know my way around the English language (and we won’t even talk about Math), but I know my way around a needle.
Jennifer
Comment by Jennifer D (April 1, 2006 @ 8:13 am )
Is it possible your husband is picky? Because I wouldn’t call your grammar even “questionable,” never mind “horrible.”
Comment by Michelle (April 2, 2006 @ 3:26 pm )
Nope. Not even close to possible. He’s total missionary material: easygoing, adaptable, doesn’t mind messes.
A few comments up, I mentioned that he sometimes sees a post or two before it’s been run through the grammar checker. Too, it was only a passing comment that I solicited (that’s spelled wrong, I know).
My poor, dear husband really does love me. He doesn’t secretly abuse me and malign my self-esteem with grammar remarks. Really.
I taught myself all I know by reading textbooks. Wouldn’t suggest that approach, however.
Many people use the Robinson Curriculum method successfully with high schoolers. You can read more at the website. Nothing really new about the approach.
“What about high school?” is a question that seems to be fading with the advent of DVD instruction, internet classes, etc. The choices are much better than when I was in high school. Actually, when I was in high school, THE question wasn’t about high school or the infamous socialization question; rather, it was, “Homeschool? What’s that?”
This probably doesn’t answer your question.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 2, 2006 @ 3:53 pm )
Hmm. I spelled “solicited” properly. Even when I’m right, I’m wrong.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 2, 2006 @ 3:57 pm )
I just love this post, Amy. Thanks for letting us know about your “curriculum”. I think you’ve done a splendid job of explaining it, and I agree with you 100% - God’s role for your life is more important than any text-book. I love that quote by Mark Twain that says our current education system is producing a mass of people who can read, but can not distinguish what is WORTH READING.
May God continue to make your curriculum selection “WORK”. Mine, too. I love your humor - you are a great writer - even if your grammer isn’t perfect! I’m sure mine isn’t either! Just remind your husband that in Czech, it would be wrong to NOT use a double negative!
In some language, your writing would be perfect. The point of the matter is what you’ve set out to do - ENCOURAGE other homeschooling mothers. And your doing it!
Comment by sprittibee (April 2, 2006 @ 7:21 pm )
YOU ARE doing it… you’re - see? Even I’m not perfect.
Comment by sprittibee (April 2, 2006 @ 7:23 pm )
Amy,
I am new to your blog, but I know already I’ll be coming back. You have made me smile, but more than that, I am inspired (edified) and find my strength renewed for the task of schooling and, more importantly, raising my young ones.
This was my first year of homeschooling and we had just added our third child at the beginning of it, so I chose a complete curriculum to sort of get my feet wet. Now that I’ve done that, I think next year is going to be more relaxed, with much more delight-directed reading. Thank you for the peek into your homeschooling days.
Amanda
Comment by Amanda (April 10, 2006 @ 10:46 pm )
Hi Amy. I’m new to your site, but I enjoyed and agreed with your home school formula (for lack of a better word at this very moment!) I am the mother of an almost two year old and I’m looking forward to more children, though as I shared with a friend this morning, sometimes it’s also a terrifying thought!
I greww up around home schooling, and my husband and I are still struggling over that decision for our children. I tend to lean much more towards the home schooling solution, but regardless of all that, I enjoy hearing and reading about others who are home schooling sucessfully.
Keep up the blogging. It seems you have a gift for sharing and encouraging!
~R
Comment by Rebekah Walker (April 24, 2006 @ 3:30 pm )