Parents should feed their kids
Wednesday, Apr 5, 2006
If you are going to take all five of your small children grocery shopping with you, it’s best not skip lunch and the toddler’s naptime beforehand.
Ask me how I know.
Usually I’m not this daring, but sleep deprivation must have squandered any good sense I had left. I’m not the only mom who stops by the bakery for free kid cookies with sprinkles and then at the deli for overpriced longhorn cheese to masquerade as lunch, am I? It’s not like I let them eat the produce before it gets weighed.
But I do regret opening the goldfish box. Things were going well without it. I just opened it because someone asked. It’s not as if my mind was on the shopping list, because that was left in the deleted file on my laptop. I was on a mission –divide, conquer, and pay. I thought the goldfish were a small token of my appreciation for keeping up with a fast-walking Mommy-on-a-Mission.
In keeping with my typical life, the toddler drops the entire jumbo box on the floor and wails. Of course, the Mom With One Kid From Aisle Two who asked earlier if my kids were always this good rounds the corner just in time to see the display. I smile, of course.
The lady who asked if they were all mine keeps walking. Then, I bump into someone from Real Life while sweeping up the goldfish with the side of my foot. She laughs and I force another smile. Then she hugs me, smushing the newborn in the Baby Bjorn on my stomach. The paper towels fall out, the baby wakes up, and I look for the man who tells me that I’m on Candid Camera. But he never shows.
Our regular cashier congratulates me on finally having that baby. The kids buy overpriced candy at the checkout with their own money while the people behind us get impatient. I forget the sour cream; I almost forget my purse; but I do not forget any kids. Yes, it’s a good day.
The Lord’s mercies are new every morning, and tomorrow when the sun rises, I hope to have another chance to request His mercy for the day. And then, I’ll do my own part and feed the kids before I take them out in public.
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Too funny, Amy! That is why I stopped taking everyone with me shopping. That & it got embarrassing putting back things at the till that somehow mysteriously just happened to jump into my buggy!
That’s my favorite scripture & chorus about the Lord’s steadfast love & his mercies being new every morning. I hung onto that promise as tight as I could!
Comment by Susanne (April 5, 2006 @ 7:57 pm )
Amy~
You deserve a medal for that feat.
Ask ME how I know.
I love how you capture many mom’s experiences and feelings in a humorous and thoughtful way.
Yes, His mercies are new every morning!
Comment by Andrea (April 6, 2006 @ 4:52 am )
It’s so fun to draw stares from people in the supermarket. Especially when your 5 and 7 year old boys are running up and down the aisles pretending to have a gunfight. Oh what fun it is!
Comment by Nancy Palmer (April 6, 2006 @ 6:24 am )
Amy, this was too funny but I felt bad laughing at your “misfortune”. I am just the sort of person to do this too though. I get this “she-woman” attitude and think I can’t be stopped. Bless your heart! Leave the kids with your husband next time and pick up a cookie for yourself
blessings to you.
Comment by Meredith B. (April 6, 2006 @ 7:12 am )
“From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” –Psalm 61:2
Amy, I had to give a knowing smile when I read your post. I only have 3 boys (so far) but they’re all under 3. I took them to the store recently for my “big grocery shopping day.” Two carts, a 2yo, a 1yo, and a newborn… and 80 pounds of dogfood under the carts. It was slowgoing. The teddy grahams I brought soon ran out and my arms were throbbing from the weight of all the cart pushing. Of course, I ran into an acquaintance who had just started visiting our church. She had a lot of questions. She needed someone to talk to… I wanted to help her. AMAZINGLY my boys sat still AND quiet in the carts until we were done with our lengthy conversation. I was praising the Lord for the rest of the day. I would have lifted my arms to do so, had they not been throbbing.
The above verse is one I cling to often. God is a rock, despite my emotional reactions to everyday situations.
Thanks,
christa
Mom of A, B & C, Wife to a Christian Cop
Comment by Christa (April 6, 2006 @ 7:19 am )
I must never have had good sense, lol. I took my 5 with me grocery shopping every week.
Comment by Joanne (April 6, 2006 @ 8:45 am )
I can sympathize! Once one of my (five) younger brothers hugged the bag of chips too tightly in one of the major aisles of Wal-Mart.
POP!
Comment by Natalie (April 6, 2006 @ 9:55 am )
I did a similar thing this morning, only grocery shopping was squished between two drs. appointments. I only have three kids–3, 20 months, and 3 months–but I think I can relate a bit to how you felt.
Skipping the two youngest kids’ morning nap is rarely worth the price.
*sigh*
Comment by brietta (April 6, 2006 @ 10:32 am )
You have to be able to laugh at hard times, or you’ll go nuts. I have a friend with 9 children who frequently accidently leaves at least one of them behind. For those who cry “child neglect,” I’d like to see them take care of 9 children and always have the pleasant attitude that this woman does.
Comment by Calla Lilly (April 6, 2006 @ 10:34 am )
Bravo, Amy! You did the impossible and survived to write about it with good humor and a lesson learned. My 6yod, aka Terrorist Baby for good reasons, delights in causing a spectacle while we shop. Thankfully she does her best to charm the adult customers in the store by striking up conversations with any who come alongside our cart, but her real pleasure lies in pretending she is a dog whenever she sees another child. Picture a long-haired blond leaning precariously out of the shopping cart barking and panting. Every head naturally turns (she’s very good at it) and children’s voices echo in our wake, “Mommy, look at the dog!”
Comment by Emily (April 6, 2006 @ 11:15 am )
I remember when my third was born and I had the bright idea to feed the 4 and 2 year old lunch at the grocery store. Afterall, that’s where all the food was anyway. I crammed them in together and fed them lunchables. I had never opened one much less fed them it to them. They wouldn’t eat it; and looking back I can hardly blame them. That was the day the 2 yr old spilled the jumbo size blueberries and then attempted to shove as many in her mouth as possible even as I kept shrieking “No, stop! Stop!”. Well she survived and so did I
These are the good memories we are making by just being a family.
Comment by Debbie (April 6, 2006 @ 11:16 am )
I love Anne of Green Gables’ quote, “Tomorrow is always a new day, with no mistakes in it.” Shopping with the kids can be SO stressful and embarrassing. And of course, when you have several with you it feels like everyone has you under a microscope.
Hubby and I have taken to doing one big trip on the weekend. We go in the morning before the store gets busy. We take two carts and split the list (we can’t fit a weeks worth of groceries into one cart anymore). We also split the kids between us to reduce fights and chaos. The good part is we get the shopping done in half the time and we’re good for the whole week!
Comment by Amy (April 6, 2006 @ 1:26 pm )
Oh Amy! I just love it here. I am ashamed that I have been a lurker (boy, that sounds creepy) for many months without commenting. (I just started my fist blog, and have figured out how helpful & fun comments are, so that is why I am leaving this one)
It is so encouraging to me how you can always turn the real-life crazy frustrations into cute stories and constantly point back to the Lord. I don’t know you, but my experience has been that those kinda trips aren’t very funny in the moment.You help make the memories of them a hoot!
I have at times wondered where I left my brain when I’d get those “great ideas” about taking everyone shopping (my first five were 4 and under).I finally decided it wasn’t God whispering those ideas to me. LOL Must have been sleep deprivation.
I’m glad you’re feeling brave enough to go out, though! Things must be coming around some. Blessings!
Comment by Seeking The Old Paths (April 6, 2006 @ 2:18 pm )
Amy,
You’re hilarious! I just discovered your blog (last week…?) and I’m madly reading all your archives with any spare time I have. You are intelligent, articulate, and witty- in addition to being a God-honoring, devoted wife and mother. I am encouraged and appreciate you sharing your life with so many of us!
~Stacy
Comment by reforming mama (April 6, 2006 @ 10:39 pm )
I had to have a secret giggle the other day while out shopping. A mum with a toddler in tow and a baby in the buggy was leaving the clothes shop at the same time as me. I thought the child looked a bit odd and realised that he/she (can’t remember) had several packs of what looked like under pants in his/her hand. I secretly hoped that mummy had bought them and child had asked to carry them. We were out of the door and turning to walk down the street when I heard the mothers horrified exclamation ‘What are you doing?’!!!!…….thankfully no alarm went off….I imagine it would be a bit embarassing to be stopped walking off with an armful of underwear!
Comment by Susanna (April 7, 2006 @ 7:57 am )
Comment by sprittibee (April 7, 2006 @ 1:51 pm )
I relate as well. But going shopping alone is too much work.
So I rotate & take one at a time. They love one-on-one Mom Time and I have help with the groceries!
I remember that completely overwhelmed feeling after #4 was born. {{HUGS}}
Comment by Janel Messenger (April 8, 2006 @ 9:01 am )
Hey! I’m a lurker too. I also have 5 little darlings (almost 9, 7, almost 6, newly 3, and 7 weeks) and do not like grocery shopping with all of them either. I didn’t like it when it was just 2 or 3 either. I would either buy nothing just to get out of the store or buy everything just to get out of the store. My other half has always taken any or all of them shopping with him. He *likes* it!
Keep hanging on to His promises!
Also Amy
Comment by Also Amy (April 10, 2006 @ 7:33 am )
I love how you capture the scene! I had to laugh and feel bad for you all at the same time! I’ve got 2 toddlers and am 4 mo pregnant….and it’s SO encouraging for mom’s to share stories like this b/c IT HAPPENS….and your sharing makes people like me…not feel alone or strange or incapable!! : ) Thanks for the encouragement! He is kind to give us the grace we need in the moment….even when it doesn’t feel like “enough”!!!!
Comment by shawnda (April 11, 2006 @ 1:06 pm )
I certainly could laugh WITH you on this one - NOT at you! LOL! And,we HAVE left kids behind - at church, in a Christian bookstore, at the grocery store and at a graduation party. It seemed to be one child in particular, and now that he is almost 13 he seems to have learned.
Just wait when you don’t take them ALL with you, and you get asked, are they ALL yours! I now can say I have one in diapers and one in college with 7 in between . . . or no, these are not ALL of them . . . I left some at home!
Blessings to you! Enjoy the goldfish . . . Loni
Comment by Loni (April 11, 2006 @ 9:53 pm )
For several years we only had one car and everyone felt sorry for me being “locked up at home”. My response was always where do you think I want to go with, at the time, four under five? Now we have 5 and frankly we don’t go anywhere without Daddy. It’s really funny, we like being together! By the way, we do have another car now.
Comment by Heather (April 12, 2006 @ 10:25 am )