Post-Convention thoughts: The Method
Tuesday, May 30, 2006
Every club has their “one question.” Here’s what I mean. If you’re into CB radios, the question is, “What’s your handle?” If you find yourself in the slammer, you ask, “So, what-are-you-in-for?” College kids ask each other about their major. And if you find yourself at the mercy of a group of homeschool moms, the question is, “What’s your method?” [Dun, dun, dun, dunnnnn.]
Yes, I’m a homeschool mom, but it’s only because I happen to homeschool my kids. It’s not because I wear denim jumpers and bore people with mono-discussion about curriculums. (I drive a large white van, but we’ll keep that part a secret.) I like talking with homeschool moms about things of substance, but in order to get there, it’s an official requirement to ask another homeschooler about their method.
So, it came as no surprise when walking the crowded halls at the FPEA convention that The Old Schoolhouse editor, Jen Ig, asked me about The Method. It’s weird that I don’t have a canned response for The Method, so I gave her a thoughtful, reflective, insightful, and enthusiastic reply instead.
After a lengthy pause, I said, “Ummm.”
Noticing that this isn’t one of the standard methods, someone in our entourage (either Kris or Kate, I can’t remember, so I’ll call her “K”) tried to rescue me from total embarrassment and decided to prime the pump, “You know. Do you school your kids using the Charlotte Mason approach, classical, unit studies….?”
I felt like a doctor without a scalpel. A baker without a spoon. A lawyer without a lie.
So, “K” mercifully allowed me to save face (I only have one side, you know) and gave me my out, “…or do you use an eclectic approach?”
Bingo. The eclectic approach allows us rebel types to shelter under the safety of a respectable label. Yes, the eclectic approach. Just to make sure, I took an online quiz last night to see What Kind of Homeschooler Are You.
I ended up with the Unit Study label. I felt like a fraud.
I’m not sure we’ve ever done a unit study before. We don’t even have a Konos catalog.
Since we agree that education is conversation and that wisdom begins with the fear of the Lord, I’d like to contemplate the Deuteronomy 6 Method of Education. It means that we read good books and talk about them. It means that when my husband found a cocoon yesterday, that we examined it and held an impromptu unit study. It means that we talk and tell and practice God’s ways from the time they are born. (And that we apologize when we do not, which is often.) We teach the three R’s and use the same books you do.
We also like to start ‘em young and use all our available resources:

In the end though, Jen Ig and K, that does sound kind of eclectic. I think I got it all sorted out now. I’m going to be ready fer ya next time.
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aha! i *knew* you had a method! anyways, it was so fun having lunch with you and seeing your most cutest adorable huggable little squeezie-pie. I hope we can hang out next year. I promise to not ask any loaded questions…
Comment by JenIG (May 30, 2006 @ 2:51 pm )
The “K” was me. It was nice to meet you and I am sorry we made you feel uncomfortable by our controversial question. :+) We will do better next time. :+)
Warmly,
Kate
Comment by Under the Sky (May 30, 2006 @ 3:08 pm )
Amy,
I agree wholeheartedly…I took the same (I’m assuming) quiz and felt that it didn’t quite fit the bill for us either. It’s been a long road to figure out what our “style” or “type,’ (or whatever) is…but we simply found out that we are God’s type. You know, the type that wants to know Him better and make sure our children, first and foremost, love and obey Him all the days of their lives.
It’s all really rather simple to homeschool…more simple than all the companies marketing to us homeschoolers want us to think it is! Know what I mean?
Comment by Amy Howard (May 30, 2006 @ 3:29 pm )
hi Amy
this is off topic, but I noticed that the pdf file on raising sons was off your “Worth Reading”. Could you tell me where to find that again?
thanks
andrea
Comment by Andrea (May 30, 2006 @ 3:50 pm )
My husband and I were just discussing the whole “pick your approach” thing. We decided (maybe because we’re not comittal, just don’t know, or don’t fit into any one group)that it’s part of the beauty of homeschooling. We don’t have to fit into one approach. I like eclectic…thanks for sharing.
Comment by Stephanie (May 30, 2006 @ 4:02 pm )
how does homeschooling work in Florida? do you not have to report to a school or do standardized tests? I am not a mom yet, but my understanding from the homeschool moms I know (in Tennessee) makes me think your non-method wouldn’t fly here–they have to show completion of a curriculum, kids have to go in for testing, etc. I’m curious how things work for you that you are able to “non-school” like you do.
Comment by Amy (May 30, 2006 @ 4:10 pm )
Bravo, Amy! Sounds like you homeschool using the Spirit-led approach. Your blog has given me my daily chuckle more times than I can count. You must blog so that I don’t have to. In a nutshell, as with many of your posts, I’ve so been there.
Comment by Lindsay (May 30, 2006 @ 5:01 pm )
Amy:
I love this post. And like you, I hate answering that question. I always stumble. To me, public schooling is the greatest compartmentialization known to man. They take something so real and so natural like learning and box it in with labels and then try to mass reproduce it for an end result. The trouble is many home schooling families are recreating the public school which I relabel psuedo school and doing it right in their own homes. God created every family so unique, with unique callings and unique contexts. I think that is why it is so hard to categorize “the method”. I am sure you read Cumberland Book’s articles on the 3G’s that are so important over the 3R’s. Even the unschool or unit study label bugs me. But, that is a a whole topic that I should probably blog about. Keep up the good work.
Comment by KSMilkmaid (May 30, 2006 @ 7:24 pm )
Amy,
Too many times, that’s what I come up with.
We are just doing what works. We re-evaluate as needed, and pray pray pray for grace over anything we miss. This year for us was a “boxed curriculum” year, but next year we will be very much in the “eclectic” category!
Great answer. “Ummmmmm.”
Love your take on learning. As always, let the Bible, not world, set our standards.
Comment by Amanda (May 30, 2006 @ 8:18 pm )
Let me just encourage you that, after using much the same “method” you use for about 8 years now, I still LOVE the days with my kids and I couldn’t be more pleased with them. I don’t always get everything right, but God has honored what we’ve done.
Comment by Rebecca (May 30, 2006 @ 8:19 pm )
I’m an eclectic homeschooler myself, sort of. We also use several things from the Charlotte Mason method. I’ve been homeschooling for over ten years now and I STILL don’t really fit any catagory.
Comment by Birdie (May 30, 2006 @ 9:27 pm )
I am an eclectic homeschooler, too. However, I learned at the FPEA convention that there is now a term for us eclectic people - they are now calling us “worldview” homeschoolers. I kinda like eclectic better because it makes me sound like more or a rebel - LOL!
It was great to meet you … love the pictures of your family and kids!
Kris
Comment by Kris (May 30, 2006 @ 10:59 pm )
Good post….um, side question: do we own the same couch? I did a double-take when I saw them reading Math
- kind of reminds me of my kids and my couch - anyway, not the most important thing in the world, but I thought it was funny
(How’s that for a silly comment in your mailbag?) - Oh, speaking of mailbag, I thought about that post some more, and when I was up early this morning (can’t sleep - 3rd trimester!), I found some good thoughts concerning “having a backbone,” humility, conviction . . . after all, your blog title suggests you care about these things - be encouraged! Have a great week 
Comment by Kristi (May 31, 2006 @ 5:59 am )
Eclectic is such a lovely word. If you are an eclectic you can morph, you can develop and deepen, you can match each kidling to their own best way of learning, you can go with the flow, you can just teach everyday in everyway.
Comment by Laurie (May 31, 2006 @ 8:41 am )
I kind of like that: the “Eclectic Method”. I guess that’s what I did. I only did fourth grade, and only for two of my children, and for specific reasons, which was enough to get me banned from every homeschool league in town and left me with a bad taste in my mouth for the local homeschooling community. The words “judgmental” and “legalistic” come to mind, even though I am usually the one trying to dodge those labels. Also, the word “isolationist”. Anyway, it was made clear to me that my kids were NOT up to snuff NOR worthy of socializing with any of theirs. I try not to be bitter, but impressions have certainly been made. I really like you, though, about 99% of the time. The only thing that bothered me was when you wrote about the family coumpound.
When I started homeschooling, I ordered a languagee arts curriculum, a science curriculum, and Saxon Math. I thought I could wing it on my own with social studies and special area (art, music, gym–actually we signed up for various sports teams, dance classes, skating, gymnastics, etc. and took private music lessons on piano and a wind instrument, so that only left art, and that was fun). For social studies, we did American history and studied the presidents. They memorized them in order, read biographies about many of them, and did a one-page write-up of interesting and significant facts and happenings from each administration. We lived at the library. Saxon math was fastastic, but the science and language arts curriculums were awful. I threw out the language arts curriculum, and we read lots of library books and also learned about grammar (I made this up on the fly, but it really helped them in school later when they started taking French). The science curriculum at least helped me to figure out what sorts of units to cover–I designed our own course of study and experiments from *guess what* more library books.
I enjoyed the teaching part of homeschooling, but the social aspects just about killed me. There are not many like me left in the world–women who stay at home to be homemakers, but send their children to (gasp) public school. I teach Sunday school and pitch in at MOPS and VBS. It never ceases to astonish me that certain homeschooling moms can be thrilled with the way I teach their children in Sunday school and yet refuse to let their children associate with mine. If my kids are so rotten, how can they trust me to be a good Sunday scool teacher? I mean, I try my best to teach for the glory of God, but are they aware of that? And if so, don’t they realize that I raise my children for the glory of God, too? I spend my life teaching my children the Bible, praying with them, talking with them, and being involved in their education. It’s just that public school offers tremendous opportunies to our family. Also, I feel called to have a voice in the public school. . . which is ridiculous to expect if you aren’t using it.
Whoa, this is really long. I’ll stop now.
Comment by ruth (May 31, 2006 @ 9:10 am )
P.S. It would be nice if I could type. Sorry about the typos above.
Comment by ruth (May 31, 2006 @ 10:52 am )
Here’s the link.
Standardized test, evaluation from cert. teacher, or umbrella school.
We don’t non-school.
Nope; close, though. But I happen to know that Cindy and I do.
Ummm. Thanks… I think.
Kris and Kate–Sorry for the mix up!!
Comment by Amy Scott (May 31, 2006 @ 3:07 pm )
I’m an eclectic but would love to be an unschooler! lol I think unschooling is just learning without all that school wannabe stuff. well, anyway, I wish I coulda hung out with you all in Florida!
Remember that email I sent about possible good news? Well, its finally come! I suppose I’ll soon be a school-from-the-sofa approach! haha
Comment by Lyn (May 31, 2006 @ 3:17 pm )
About the couch: I think just about every family that bought a couch in the south in the last five years has that fabric. My in-laws had it, my parents have it. It’s perfect, that’s why. Don’t knock the couch. It matches all the burgundy, navy, and hunter green we have in our homes!
Comment by Lora Lynn (May 31, 2006 @ 4:41 pm )
Lyn,
Congratulations to you! Very good news!
Lora Lynn,
It also hides stains very well.
Comment by Amy Scott (May 31, 2006 @ 4:47 pm )
“I really like you, though, about 99% of the time.”
“Ummm. Thanks… I think.”
Sorry–that came across badly and you caught me. Maybe you could tell I didn’t spend a lot of time proofing that comment? I’m sure I would like you very much if I really knew you (in real life). What I meant was that I like your blog and your viewpoint 99% of the time, which I truly hope is a compliment.
Comment by ruth (May 31, 2006 @ 5:49 pm )
Yes, ruth, it is. Thank you.
(Group hug now, alright?
)
Blessings to you.
Comment by Amy Scott (June 1, 2006 @ 3:47 pm )
Very good! I like the term Deuteronomy 6 schooler.
Comment by Sharon - Momn4boys (June 17, 2006 @ 10:40 am )