A bad day
Monday, Jun 5, 2006
Last week I had one of those days that began with the kids waking up too early. Carpet installers were scheduled to arrive early that morning, but the kids still got up several hours beforehand. (What does the government have in common with our family room carpet? Right, they’re both federal disasters.) As if on cue, my fourth child begins throwing up. (Yes, the day of the new carpet.) Oh, and I broke another toe too. At precisely 8 a.m., the doorbell rang, the baby’s diaper leaked everywhere, and the toddler threw up for the third time (on my broken toe) and me. If there was a boiling pot on the stove, I’m sure that would’ve boiled over too. Thankfully, I wasn’t efficient enough to have breakfast started.
In A Lamp For My Feet, Elisabeth Elliot writes, If a man or woman honestly wishes to be a follower, the opportunity will present itself. Christ will say, “Here is your chance. Now, in this situation, you must make your choice. Will it be self? Or will you choose Me?”
An older missionary said something to Amy Carmichael when she was a young missionary that stayed with her for life. She had spoken of something which was not to her liking. His reply was, “See in it a chance to die.”
I read these words that afternoon when the house mercifully quieted down. Sometimes I imagine that only missionaries have great work to do for God, but each one of us have the chance to die, to trade our lives for His.
I had the occasion to relearn this in the quiet of my home one day last week. The reason, of course, is that I didn’t dare leave the house with the way things were turning out. I just knew the keys would’ve been locked in the van too.
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It helps, oh how it helps, to know that others have these days!
Comment by Shannon Miller (June 5, 2006 @ 10:38 am )
Oh, what a day!!
Mary
Comment by owlhaven (June 5, 2006 @ 10:55 am )
Been down that road…
Comment by Wendy (June 5, 2006 @ 11:07 am )
Amy…you’re awesome.
It’s all about the little things, right?
Comment by Andrea (June 5, 2006 @ 11:11 am )
I frequently moan about my life in a truck. I live in an 8×10 cell that has no running water and no rest-room. There is sand and dirt in my bed and the food isn’t too great. Home is just a place I visit a couple of days a month. I hate it…
Then I read your blog and I wonder if I would trade places.
Probably not.
I’ll die where I’m at!
Have a great day.
Comment by Tim (June 5, 2006 @ 12:13 pm )
Amy,
Been there! And also with a broken toe! Last November I broke the toe next to my “pinkie” toe on my right foot…then, when some friends moved here they had to stay with us while finding a place to live…so I had ten children in my home with (at the time) only one bathroom. And our friends brought the stomach flu with them. So, here we were, me, my (still) sore toe, trying to avoid my toe being stepped on by 10 children (8 of whom were 6 and under!), and everyone was throwing up! I felt as if I should be handing out those tickets they sometimes hand out at the deli counter… one for the bathroom to allow people to throw up, and one for the toe to be stepped on!
I read that same devotional last week. Like you, I needed to be reminded of my opportunities to die to self…nothing like being completely stripped of all dignity to make that happen, eh?
I hope everyone’s on the mend now! God bless you!
Comment by Amy Howard (June 5, 2006 @ 1:45 pm )
Boy have we all had those days - and worse we will all again. So when it rains chances to die, it pours chances to die.
The one time i broke my toe was out of anger - kicking the front screen door - hard to complain when its out of your own sinfulness….you so know you don’t deserve anyones pity.
Comment by Bev (June 5, 2006 @ 2:05 pm )
We recently had dinner with friends with 3 kids, making 5 total, all under age 6, most of the night, but the neighbor boys (age 3 and 5) came over to visit for a bit.
It started out with me coming home from the store a bit after our guests arrived with our youngest having thrown up all over himself and his carseat. (One good thing about carseats, less throw up makes it on the actual car.) A bit later we had sand from the sandbox thrown in the eye of one child, it took a while to get it all rinsed out and the rinsing process was not fun for anyone. The night ended with some whining about who got to keep the “gold” the girls had found. When we went to look at the “gold,” we found it was some bits of glass they had found. Luckily, no one was hurt.
Actually, overall, we all enjoyed ourselves. At least no one broke anything!
Comment by Elizabeth B (June 5, 2006 @ 2:28 pm )
I know the point of your story was not the broken toe, and I really did appreciate your point (thank you thank you), but I just had to share my “broken toe” story. When I was 36 weeks pregnant, I took a tumble off a friend’s front porch and landed on my belly, hitting my head, and hurting my foot. My toes dangled suspiciously, if you know what I mean. I was convinced the baby was fine, and I wanted someone to fix my foot. Everyone else was in uproar over the baby. They were right, I was in shock. (I think God gave me the foot thing to distract me from being panicked.) By the time we got to the hospital my contractions were a minute apart. Because my boy was breech, he was delivered by C-section, and they discovered the nuchal cord wrapped tightly around his neck. My doctor, a believer, whispered to a quiet delivery room that God WANTED me to have that baby today, any longer could have been fatal for my boy. In the end, my toes were only dislocated, but the entire hospital knew my story. I left the NICU two weeks later with a healthy baby and a limp. Now, ten months later, I still guard that toe over much, but it reminds me of how blessed I was on the day I “broke” my toe.
Comment by Lora Lynn (June 5, 2006 @ 4:34 pm )
I love it…that makes total sense! Very inspiring post! Thanks!
Comment by Angie (June 5, 2006 @ 4:54 pm )
We had the stomach flu in April (”we” being the two kidlets)… it started with our 4YO son puking on our 1YO daughter from head to toe while they were sleeping, it ended with him puking all over the car four days later, a day after we thought the bug was gone. In between we washed the cover on the couch 3 times, the bedsheets twice, went through a new bottle of laundry soap (32 load size), and sweet daughter had leaky diapers I don’t know how many times (thank God for disposables). I really just wanted to crawl away somewhere and rock myself to sleep.
God gave me the strength to be selfless, when I wanted to be selfish (oh, how I wanted to be selfish that week).
Isn’t He good?
And isn’t it nice to know it doesn’t just happen to you? (My best friend’s daughter had the same thing, it started within an hour of my son’s… as soon as it was safe, we escaped for coffee to recuperate!)
Comment by Laura (June 5, 2006 @ 6:04 pm )
Thanks for sharing about your bad day, Amy. You know we can all appreciate it and sympathize. I think as mothers we are given many opportunities to die to self…I cannot remember where I got this quote, but thought it was applicable:
“The voices of our children are the voice of God calling us to greater sanctification. We, as parents, are called to presevere in this, as God preseveres with us.”
This could be for children AND circumstances in our home.
So our bad days are for our sanctification too, aren’t they?
Blessings,
Comment by Theresa (June 5, 2006 @ 6:29 pm )
Thanks Amy, for the reminder. I know that life presents us with many opportunities to either be self-serving or self less.
I pray that I will choose to honor God and die, if need be, in all the situations that occur in my daily life.
Blessings,
Christy
Comment by christy (June 5, 2006 @ 7:13 pm )
So, did your child throw up on the new carpet or the old? Just curious!
Comment by Sherri W (June 5, 2006 @ 11:55 pm )
i had that book several years ago by Elliot and loaned it out and miss it now.
It was so relevant
Comment by peri (June 6, 2006 @ 12:01 am )
Having one of those days…
Comment by Heidi (June 6, 2006 @ 11:50 am )
I linked to your post today. Glad to know that I’m not the only one. Of course, I feel your pain on the stomach flu… and the toe thing. Did both of those in 2003.
Comment by sprittibee (June 6, 2006 @ 1:38 pm )
We had the “flu” thing here, but it was so strange. We had 20 strait days of it, going from one person, lasting 4 days, and then moving on to the next person! And of course I was the one who got it last! I tell you, throwing up is bad, but it’s worse when your’e very pregnant. And you can imagine all the things that needed to and did happen in those 20 days. That was NOT a fun month!
As for baby, 4 1/2 weeks to go and counting (and yes, that includes 2 weeks of overtime). My mother-in-law is praying for a June baby, but I really don’t think that’s going to happen. I think he’ll come in July. And while I am praying for him to come soon, I’m mostly praying for the patience and attidude that I need day to day. Not to mention God’s will in all this. With three very active young children and a mother who is not, I so desperatly need His strength just to make it to the end of the day.
So, I’ll let others petition for a “sooner than later” birth. I’m petitioning for the saftey of the people around me and how I react with/to them.
Jennifer
Comment by Jennifer D (June 6, 2006 @ 4:32 pm )
I am 7 weeks postpartum and also have a 3 1/2 yo in the house. I had one of those days today. Not enough sleep, an early riser and a fussy baby…I knew I shouldn’t have had that Mexican food for dinner…she screamed for 20 min straight. I know that may not sound like a long time but she is otherwise a quiet baby. I give God all the praise for allowing her to sleep for her first 8 hour stretch missing another painful mexican meal in the middle of the night. She only suffered through two. It really amazed me that God allowed her to sleep so long and truly credit Him for protecting her delicate stomach from my “selfish” eating that night.
Also we took a turn in disicplining our 3yo, trying something different, and that proved to be a long trying day that I had to die to my selfish desire to take the easy way out.
Thanks Amy for sharing your real life ups and downs. It is comforting to know we are not alone. That is what Christ meant for the body to do work together and minister to one another in their time of need… I was in need of your wisdom today!! Thanks!
Comment by Mrs. Dutch (June 6, 2006 @ 10:07 pm )
Thanks all, for the stories and such. Sorry to take so long to get back, but I know ya’ll understand. (I still can’t believe we just had another baby. I keep calling him a newborn, but he just turned 3 months.)
Lora Lynn (com. #9)–that’s amazing!
It seems to have been an odd fluke. Thankfully. After she ate breakfast, it was over.
The old!
Yea!
Comment by Amy Scott (June 6, 2006 @ 10:08 pm )
Amy,
I so appreciated this post. Sometimes when I have a bad, I feel like I am the ONLY ONE who has a bad days. It is good to share the good along with the bad so that we can identify with one another.
I loved the quote you gave from E.E. Looking for a chance to die…such a strange thing that we are called to. The wisdom of God is so far above what I can comprehend. All I know is that His ways, however “illogical” they seem, always (ALWAYS) are the best ways.
Thanks for this, Amy.
Amanda
P.S. I have gift cert. for Amazon….think I’ll get that book you quoted from.
Comment by Amanda (June 7, 2006 @ 7:49 pm )
Amanda,
EE wrote a biography on the life of Amy Carmichael titled (surprise, surprise), A Chance to Die. I found it good, worthwhile reading. It’s been at least ten years that I read it, but I remember something about Amy C. doing missionary work and the ladies were using dolls or some other craft to entice women to come (so that they could hear the gospel). I remember it like yesterday. She said, “The gospel needs no frills.”
I wonder what she’d say about the modern church and the seeker sensitive movement…
Comment by Amy Scott (June 7, 2006 @ 10:32 pm )
Thanks, Amy! I couldn’t find A Lamp for My Feet on Amazon. I’ll have to check for A Chance to Die.
Amanda
Comment by Amanda (June 8, 2006 @ 4:58 am )
What a great thought, Amy. I do wonder sometimes why we feel the need to entice others into a relationship with Christ. Isn’t just being with Him enough? And another question….with the seeker sensitive churches, how many people are actually being discipled in those situations? Or are they just coming to church for the “gimmicks”?
Questions to think about…….
Have a great day!
Christy
Comment by christy (June 8, 2006 @ 9:27 am )
Amy,
I’m new to blogging and ran on to your blog a few weeks ago. I have so enjoyed your perspective on life. My husband keeps urging me to comment and let you know what strength you have given me just in the little tidbits of “I can relate.” But I’m the type that usually just hangs back and listens (or in this case reads). Unfortunately I’ve been having one too many of those bad days recently capped off by, of all things, a broken toe last week. When I read your post after hobbling around myself with leaky diapers and sick kids, I knew it was time to come out of the wings and say thank you for your perspective. It really has helped me to feel like I can make it one more day.
Ann
Comment by Ann (June 8, 2006 @ 6:15 pm )
Ann, That is very kind of you to mention it. Thank you for writing. (Leaving a comment wasn’t so painful now, was it?)
Comment by Amy Scott (June 8, 2006 @ 10:30 pm )
Amy - what you’ve hit upon is the Lutheran doctine of vocation - God put you in this place and serving him here is just as noble as living in a monastary. We are all masks of God wherever we are.
Comment by Polly (June 9, 2006 @ 12:01 pm )
I’m a missionary. After four years on the field, I have to say that my greatest work for God is in dying to my self every day for my husband and two young children. I imagined that I would do so many great and exciting things in cross-cultural ministry. The truth is, being molded into the image of Jesus Christ is the most challenging and exciting part of life - no matter what continent I am on. But, being totally out of my comfort zone did seem to put me on the fast track of realizing my utter dependence on Him.
Comment by Another Amy (June 12, 2006 @ 1:37 am )