Three things
Monday, Aug 14, 2006
The old axiom, “Never say never,” is not just for the times you have to justify the third piece of cake your kid is wolfing down. There are many situations one shouldn’t make early pronouncements about (like, say, how you’re going to raise a perfect kid), but I still hold firm on a few items. There are three things I said I’d never do again, and I am resolved. Here they are in no particular order: ride a horse, go whitewater rafting, and own a dog.
I was 17 the first time I mounted a horse not in a pony ring. Before I got my feet in the stirrups, however, the horse got spooked and took off galloping. Before this moment, I imagined all the ways I’d hate to die, but I never included falling off crazed, galloping horses as one of them. I quickly amended the list.
I held on for a good mile–which I consider a valiant effort considering the circumstances—before I was flung off like an annoying gnat. The only reason I got back on the horse a half hour later was because I couldn’t walk back. My tailbone was something sore, and I didn’t get out of bed for over a week. Nowadays, I admire horses from a polite, safe distance with a weak, nervous smile.
The second thing I don’t plan on doing again is whitewater rafting. My children need a mother, and I’ve had enough adventure to hold me over to the next life adventure: raising teenagers. I like to live on the edge, but I don’t like falling off.
The event that scarred me forever was a run on a Class IV rapid on the Ocoee River. I fell out of the raft, and went under in the churn. When the river spit me out, the raft was still over me.
The river spit me out a second time (or I should say, God, in His mercy), but it was downstream. I was far ahead of the group. This meant I was going down a river of Class IV rapids without a raft. I was rescued with a line, but not before I made peace with never going again. I get heart palpitations just thinking about it.
The third resolution has nothing to do with dying, just wasting away. I don’t own a dog because I can think of other ways to waste my money. For instance, I could just flush a few bills down the toilet, buy a lottery ticket, or support most any government program. And at least with these methods, there is nothing to clean up in your yard. All it involves is a quick trip to the garbage can; just throw the money away.
I already have enough folks in my lap, wanting to be fed and their backs scratched. However, when my husband noted that a well-trained dog (particularly, a Boxer) was a cheap security system layer, I started to hum a different tune. That baseball bat all-of-the-sudden seems kind of puny. My dear husband knows all my buttons, doesn’t he?
What he doesn’t know is that I found a dog barking motion detector for $59.99. But I will submit to my husband’s fancy anyway. After all, I like to live on the edge, and it keeps me humble when I have to retract my words.
I’m not moving on the first two issues, though. I’m not.
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“I do kids–not pets.” That’s my motto and I’m sticking to it.
Comment by Michelle-This One's for the Girls (August 14, 2006 @ 11:32 am )
As a life-long dog lover and most-of-my-life dog owner, I would have to say that yes, they can cost a lot of money, yes, they can take a lot of work and be frustrating at times, but they can also be very rewarding and loving. Good luck!
Comment by Michelle (August 14, 2006 @ 11:49 am )
We have a dog and the kids spend a lot of time playing with her. Having a dog, has also been a good opportunity for them to learn responsibility; helping feed and care for her. She only barks if someone she doesn’t know comes into our yard, so it is a good security too. Once you get a dog (if you do) I’m sure you will find the good out weighs the bad.
Comment by Wendy (August 14, 2006 @ 11:52 am )
I had a list of ‘never agains.’ ‘No dog’ was on mine as well because of several near death experiences (I almost killed our dog several times). But a tiny, pathetic puppy abandoned on the side if IH-35 changed that.
She turned out to be a really good dog mostly because my kids are old enough to do the chores in taking care of her and love to spend time with her. Everyday my kids will water, feed, and scoop poo. Hopefully your experience will be as positive. I strongly, strongly, strongly suggest buying a kennel and using it, however.
Comment by Amanda (August 14, 2006 @ 12:25 pm )
Hey! Michelle! That was MY motto all while raising our five.
{not to mention the allergy issues}
OI!
Comment by Dawn (August 14, 2006 @ 12:28 pm )
We have tried dogs twice–both ended up in nice homes–SOMEWHERE ELSE!! Maybe it was trying to potty train puppies and kids at the same time, I don’t know. I do know that I will go white water rafting before we own a dog again:)
Comment by Another Heather (August 14, 2006 @ 1:00 pm )
I echo Michelle and Dawn, lol! I like dogs - when they belong to other people. We have allergies/asthma anyway so I have an easy out
Comment by Amy (August 14, 2006 @ 1:07 pm )
[...] Amy, at Amy’s Humble Musings, has some excellent reasoning again dog ownership in her post “Three Things” she will never do. The third, which she has just compromised, is own a dog. I agree with her sentiments and hope I won’t give up on it: I don’t own a dog because I can think of other ways to waste my money. For instance, I could just flush a few bills down the toilet, buy a lottery ticket, or support most any government program. And at least with these methods, there is nothing to clean up in your yard. All it involves is a quick trip to the garbage can; just throw the money away. I already have enough folks in my lap, wanting to be fed and their backs scratched. [...]
Pingback by A Healer’s Geste » Blog Archive » Dogs (August 14, 2006 @ 2:03 pm )
TWO nice, big dogs came with the home we bought in May. One was deaf and mean to small children. We suggested the former owner take him away. His sister was allowed to stay and she is wonderful with the children and has a nice, big pen to live in so the lawn is fairly clean. And she barks rarely–at things like coyotes, strange vehicles, etc.
I’m with you on whitewater rafting, but horses deserve another chance. There are some out there that are really fun to ride!
Comment by Lyn (August 14, 2006 @ 2:11 pm )
I echo Lyn when I encourage you to not judge all horses by one rogue horse
However, I will bet that as many people say to give horses another chance, just as many will say that whitewater rafting deseves another chance and… well try the horses first!
Comment by Jaylene (August 14, 2006 @ 2:48 pm )
Listen, I need some help here on the dog issue. Where are all the dog lovers?
Comment by Greg (August 14, 2006 @ 6:10 pm )
Sounds to me like just another mouth to feed and bottom to wipe.
Dana in GA
Comment by Dana (August 14, 2006 @ 6:19 pm )
We just got a Boxer (she was born the end of March), she is such a wonderful dog. Already showing the signs of being a good protector. We had a Rottweiler previously and loved her dearly, but it’s not worth trying to find a house insurance that will keep us with a Rottie on premises, and it’s already so “fun” finding house insurance in Florida, IYKWIM?!
Comment by Lisa (August 14, 2006 @ 6:20 pm )
Ooh! I want that Robo dog!…..
Since my general feeling about dogs has always been-”I’ve got kids,that’s why I don’t have dogs.” But I do have cats. (2 of them)
Comment by Andrea (August 14, 2006 @ 6:39 pm )
Thnk you, Lisa. Check is in the mail…
Comment by Greg (August 14, 2006 @ 6:41 pm )
The best dog I ever owned was a boxer named Jack. He protected me and the kids wonderfully. The kids sometimes too well. If dad wanted to wrestle with the kids, Jack was always there standing over him like a vulture. If it got to rough for Jack’s liking he put his mouth on DH’s arm.
Needless to say Jack had to go outside if spankings were necessary.
A stranger came up the driveway looking for a neighbor as I worked in the front yard. Since I didn’t know this man I felt it inappropriate to show him where she lived. He really didn’t appreciate my reluctance to help him. As he opened the door to his vehicle to get closer, Jack crashed through the screen door and stood next to me. The reality is that Jack was not an agressive dog, but this man didn’t need to know that. The stranger got back in his car and quickly left.
I love dogs, I think that they can be very useful. I do also understand the choice to not have them.
Comment by Jan (August 14, 2006 @ 6:52 pm )
BOXERS!!!! I LOVE BOXERS!!!! Oh, Amy!! Get the Boxer!! I work with our local Boxer Rescue and I’ve had many a boxer come through our home. Now, I must say that I have five children from ages 16 to 5. So, that’s a lot different than having all little ones. But, the children are capable from a fairly early age of taking on most of the responsibilities.
I can’t say enough great things about Boxers! They love children, notice strangers, are menacing looking but gentle as kittens! I love our Boxer!!!! (did I say that already?)… who happens to be the puppy of a mother dog that I was fostering for the Boxer Rescue. Did I mention that we have three dogs of our own and all three ‘used to be’ foster dogs… foster dogs sometimes never leave my home once they come in!! I wrote about one of them on my blog a few months back. Here is a link to that archive with a picture of sweet Isaac!! How can you resist that face? Scroll down to “We’re going to the dogs around here…” http://kittenwhiskers.blogspot.com/2006_01_01_kittenwhiskers_archive.html
Another great thing about Boxers is they are very quick to learn so they are very easy to train. It’s about a year of consistent effort and a good crate - use it faithfully! It’s easier to housebreak a dog than potty train a two year old!! Trust me, I know!!
In Him,
Angie in AL
Comment by Angie in AL (August 14, 2006 @ 9:45 pm )
My hubby wanted a dog, because he loves dogs, so I said, sure, how bad can it be? I have been living with a giant hair releasing stink bomb for 5 years now, and still have about 5 more years of this sentence. UGH! I do like the security she gives me, but I think next time, I will go with that motion sensor!
Comment by momanna98 (August 15, 2006 @ 9:30 am )
Oh, come on!!!
Dogs are GREAT!!! We have 5 children, and we have 2 Wheaties, a cat, a couple of parakeets, a saharan uromastyx, and a couple of beta fish to round it all out. I am sure that I sound like a zoo. BUT we just LOVE our critters. The wheaties bark, and I love having my Reilly-boy close by when DH is traveling. I can honestly say that my family will NEVER be without at least one dog and more than likely two. Good Luck with your Boxer!!
Comment by Angela (August 15, 2006 @ 1:36 pm )
Amy, you can still try and hold your ground in other areas. I had no problems with having a dog. In fact I love our dogs or at least one of them. However, I was NEVER going to have a dog in the house. Well, I was overuled. Now, I chase dog hair tumbleweeds. I swept up this past weekend with a broom instead of a vacuum. I showed my husband how much hair I swept up. He noted that it really was a lot and then went outside. =)
Comment by Marci (Farm Girl) (August 15, 2006 @ 5:12 pm )