Masters
Wednesday, Aug 23, 2006
Morning Work
My neighbor laughed at my miniature orchard and wished me well yesterday. Perhaps he wasn’t humored so much by the trees but of my coddling them. You can’t just stick them in the ground and walk away. You have to pour money, I mean, special soil into them and give them lots of attention, especially in the beginning.
These trees need lots of water and tender, loving care. I still wonder how a puppy fits into the whole picture. Will I have time to stroke trees and a puppy? Remember, folks, you heard it here first: this is my husband’s dog. [Don’t fill the com-box with advice; my marriage issues are private, I tell you!] I can see it already, and I’m not even a fortuneteller. (They are bad and unbiblical.)
I decided that early morning is the best time to coddle my landscape. The sun is still bearable, the mosquitoes aren’t out, and the damp ground makes weeding easier. I noticed I was unusually hungry this morning. It seems early morning chores are good for the metabolism! (This, of course, applies to everyone except the recently pregnant woman, who always has those last few unmoving pounds. Nothing will help her except the flu.)
Housekeeping
A few posts back, some of you wondered aloud how to keep a house well when it is full of little ones. There are many methods and FlyLady tricks floating around the internet (none absolving you of plain hard work though), so I will just mention the one thing that keeps us together here at the Scott house.
Do not allow the children to go onto another room or activity without cleaning up the current one. (I hope the dog learns this rule quickly.) This means, at any given time during the day, you have only one room that is a federal disaster area. I could elaborate, but all the male readers (except Tim) would click on out of here. Just try it, and see if that doesn’t change your whole house.
[Okay. Well. Just one more little thing. Get rid of clutter! But you already knew that.]
Pollution
An often-quoted Bible verse (besides the regularly misinterpreted “Judge not” one) is James 1:27: Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress… However, there is actually more to the verse. I just noticed the end of the verse yesterday: and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
Real Reformed folks embrace the whole counsel of God, not just the grace verses. And so, I try to make an honest daily habit of examining my allegiance to Christ. Do I love him wholly? What “of the world” do I allow in my life? Can a person serve two masters? We know it is impossible.
The follow-up question here is: Can a dumb dog serve two masters? Because we all know that he’ll have two of them, not one.
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Yes, a dog can. My dog dutifully serves me because I’m the one home all day, and I make her respect me. She does not serve my kids quite as well, they do not make her respect them. But she respects my husband as well. No questions asked.
Comment by Lisa (August 23, 2006 @ 6:14 pm )
Thank you Lisa.
I might add, for the record, that my dear wife has floated the idea of getting a dog for years. Now that I have finally caught on to the idea she gets cold feet. Go figure.I think she was playing the good guy with the kids - but I’ve called her bluff. Now I’m the good guy! Score one for the Daddy!
This comment has been edited for content - our marriage issues are private.
Comment by Greg (August 23, 2006 @ 8:59 pm )
You may not have time for the puppy and for trees. But I guarantee you your puppy will have time for trees. He will help you water if he doesn’t dig them all up and chew them to bits. Dogs, especially puppies forget they are not browsers like goats.
Sorry Greg. You can ban me now!!!
Comment by KS Milkmaid (August 23, 2006 @ 10:59 pm )
I don’t know whether to laugh or cry about it but I keep having thoughts of a puppy chewing up a small orchard!
Comment by Tim (August 24, 2006 @ 1:39 am )
There is still time to back out of the dog, especially since he’s unnnamed. But you have to dissuade Greg using other means because the trees are outside the fenced area.
I wonder if everyone is afraid I’ll take to posting about the dog too frequently.
Comment by Amy Scott (August 24, 2006 @ 8:01 am )
We had a stubborn dog, who thought she was above me in the family chain. She infuriated me! Since her we have 2 other dogs, and yes they listen to both of us!
Comment by Kelly Bowland (August 24, 2006 @ 9:19 am )
Amy,
You will LOVE your fruit trees! Be patient. The fruit will come sooner than you think. We live in Southern Illinois, and we planted two peach trees, three apple trees, one pear tree, and one cherry tree. I don’t know the names, but my husband knows all the names and whether they need two for pollinating, etc. Obviously the pear and cherry are fine on their own. We just harvested the apples and pears and the eating is sublime! The peaches this year were the best! They were big, juicy and practically bug-free. We do very little spraying, in fact none at all this year. I would rather not have the pesticides and risk a few bugs. The birds did eat many of our cherries last year, but I fixed that with aluminum pie pans hanging in the tree this summer.
Mostly I make pies with our bounty. The cherry pie is my favorite. We have bright red, sour cherries - not sure what they’re called, but they make a pie that is to die for! Ditto with the peaches and apples. Last Sunday I made an apple pie that was eaten down to the last crumb. Of course I take samples to those I love too, and I (secretly) love the oohs and aahs. I’m the only one in our family (on both sides) who still cooks from scratch, so I’m popular at meal time. We tend to have drop-ins (my dad, his dad) right around lunch or dinner time. Anyway, good luck with the trees. Believe me, they’re worth every minute of work. Ours have been in the ground for about five years, and now my husband only prunes them a little in the fall and spring. We rarely ever spray them. The waiting is the hardest part! We have deer that like to eat them too, but mostly they get the ones that fall to the ground. We haven’t had to put cages around them, although one peach tree was eaten when it was a mere sapling. We replaced it, and haven’t had that problem again. I don’t know what kind of wildlife you have in Florida, but those little wire cages do come in handy if needed.
Carla
Comment by Carla J Hays (August 24, 2006 @ 9:42 am )
Amy, do you have “a fenced-in area”? I remember a skit on Saturday Night Live a few years ago involving a “fenced-in area” (”You don’t LAUGH at a man’s FENCED-IN AREA!” Billy Bob Thornton was the guest that night), and how my husband and I both laughed heartily, while simultaneously realising that we didn’t _quite_ understand the concept, which seems to be a Southern thing in the States.
Anyway, re. the dog: The darned thing is you’ve gotten a pet without opposable thumbs. That _may_ slow down the room-cleaning thing. Although he’s got two good jaws, so there’s really no excuse, right?
Comment by Mrs. P. (August 24, 2006 @ 9:47 am )
“However, there is actually more to the verse…”
Yes!
My husband and I just came by this one the other night as well. We were especially interested because he manages a christian bookstore and, while the company spouts the first part of that verse all of the time in support of their Orphans and Widows “ministry” we wish they would get a clue as to the second part and keep themselves unpolluted from the world…well, it’s to late for that they’re already polluted but a good repenting could help… When you come across a verse that seems to have been “edited for content” by mainstream christianity you know you’ve come across something important…
Comment by Shelby (August 24, 2006 @ 9:58 am )
as far as your “relationship” with the dog, i think it will be affected by your attitude…just like all human relationships are. if you resent it, your attitude will show…just like it shows in many of the comments made. of course, you don’t have to have a close, loving relationship with the dog, but resentments will show up in comments made, in the attitude you have re care of him, etc.
in a family with 5 children, there are bound to be some that will adore the dog and will be so glad to have a pet to love. i’m speaking from experience when i say that i missed a lot of opportunities to minister joyfully to my husband and family by dealing with a little more discomfort in this area of life. what is christian mothering all about? our convenience? our control of the choices in preferences? some of us can be very charming and find great ways to charmingly get our way. training a dog is a nuisance. there will be accidents. for many of us, we are absolutely willing to put up with that in a human, but not in an animal. for our spouses and some of our children, the love of an animal can’t be duplicated and it is a place they learn new things about unconditional love. i realize i don’t understand this…but i was involved in a bad accident with a dog at a very early age so i know it had an effect. find a way to enjoy this event with your family as a true heart act of submission. of course, you don’t (and shouldn’t) do all the work of maitenance of the dog. if done right, he will become a part of the family in a good way.
my husband had a dog (fluffy)for all of his childhood. fluffy grew up with him and survived my husband’s father’s heart attacks and sudden early death at 47. they did everything together as he grew up. the w/e my husband came home from college for his grandfather’s funeral, fluffy died and ron buried him in the backyard. (it was hard…WI…January…frozen ground.) when we used to travel from FL to visit his mom at the family home, the marker in the backyard was there just like the tombstones for all the family members were in the cemetary…only homemade.) now our youngest daughter has turned out to be a huge animal lover. she has a dog and a cat. (way more than i would be able to deal with!)
i’ll never be an animal LOVER. but i love someone who has loved his dogs. we haven’t always been able to have one and our pets have usually been one at a time. some people need an animal to talk to, to tell everything to, etc. think of doing this as an act of love toward your husband and along with that, an oppotunity to teach some responsibility re care/feeding of animals to your kids. of course, it is something you didn’t want to do. that’s the way a lot of things are in life. but even as a non-animal lover, i’d have to say, that dog is adorable. go with that for now.
pardon the terribly long ramble. i wish i could say things more concisely. martha
Comment by martha (August 24, 2006 @ 9:58 am )
I’m just jealous because the wife and kids don’t want a dog and I do! Can you believe that my two boys have never wanted a dog? I think the infamous words: “You’ll have to take care of it and clean up after it.” discouraged them. Of course, the neighbors dog getting lose and killing my youngest sons dwarf rabbits didn’t help matters.
I planted two peach trees several years ago. It took exactly one month for my oldest son to drive the riding lawnmower over the top of them.
I had three plum trees but fire ants killed two of them and the third needs hospitalization.
However, I’ve found the secret to growing great tomatoes!
Comment by Tim (August 24, 2006 @ 10:00 am )
I kid you not, pick up Dog Training for Dummies. Just having the title in your house will add a new dimension to it.
My parents swear by it. Especially the Alpha Dog stuff. Worked for them and they had problems in the beginning. Yup a dog can have two masters.
Comment by Janel Messenger (August 24, 2006 @ 10:14 am )
If you are feeling at all skeptical about your li’l pup, take heart. I’m a sucker for a dog that needs a home - which is why we have THREE dogs (this in a 1230 sq. ft. home with 3 kids and one large kid I call my husband).
Our latest ‘catch’ is a 4 year old Great Pyrenees (read: BIG) named Rosie. Ah, she is a delight though … such a delight.
Don’t have any orchards - we are cultivating an ‘apple tree’ from seeds though - and my oldest is working on getting some seeds from a pear she ate the other day going.
Comment by Heather Sanders (August 24, 2006 @ 12:15 pm )
Hubby wants a dog. I do not. I will have to keep him away from this website so he does not get submission ideas;-).
Comment by Leigh Ann (August 24, 2006 @ 12:45 pm )
I totally agree with the ‘one room messy at a time’ theory. Only problem is, I only have one living room (and a kitchen)…..so it doesn’t really work for me!
Comment by Susanna (August 24, 2006 @ 1:57 pm )
What kind of nanny, nanny, boo-boo comment is that?! Do share!
We have Boxers for Dummies so that seems like the next logical choice. I actually have a little dog training experience already, but I just haven’t told that story yet.
Susanna, I actually include this rule for their bedrooms and for outside. So they wouldn’t be able to go swimming or ride bikes until the house is spic-and-span. Sorry I didn’t elaborate; does this make sense?
Comment by Amy Scott (August 24, 2006 @ 2:58 pm )
I was going to share but I didn’t know how to spell maneure…
You get the idea. But not just any kind of (that stuff) you need horse _______ and compost to put around your plants. It doesn’t burn as hot as cow or chicken.
I have access to Dictionary.com I’m just being lazy.
Comment by Tim (August 24, 2006 @ 9:43 pm )