The Christmas Humbug
Wednesday, Dec 27, 2006
Now that another Christmas season is over for everyone except the garbage collectors and returns clerks, I feel obligated to offer my post Bah-Humbug commentary.
For several years now, I’ve had The Christmas Humbug. This bug ironically coincides with the fact that since I have a bazillion kids, I’m on the giving end more than the receiving end. Or maybe I’m in a humbug mood just because I’m smarter nowadays and more uncommercialized. I can’t say for sure.
Greg, the optimist in our marriage, frequently quips, “Christmas cheer!” to his realistic better half as she pitches the fourteen-foot-high stack of overpriced, oversexed advertisements in the garbage. “I’m over it!” I protest, but Greg’s Burl Ives’ CD is on repeat performance. Have a Holly, Jolly Christmas? Sure, if you own Wal-Mart.
Thanks to the Wal-Mart generic gift aisle, I own a fancy assortment of funny flavored mustards. It’s stuffed back onto the top shelf in my laundry room, a Christmas Cheer casualty from six years ago. Lava lamps, ch-ch-chia pets, purple mustard wrapped in fluorescent Santa paper—welcome to America! Anyway, I can’t think of anyone I know who likes Honey Flavored Mustard Relish. And besides, how would one find this information out? Excuse me. We just met, I know. But I couldn’t help but notice that you might possibly enjoy this green-tinted Dill Spring Mustard!
I’ve tried to protest the Tickle Me Elmo craze for a couple years now, but I only succeeded in making myself annoying. In the end, I didn’t feel any holier, and I don’t think God thought I was either.
It’s best just to let the batteries die and then not replace them.
But ‘tis the season, really. Except for in mall parking lots, everyone seems to be in a better mood at Christmas time. I talk to strangers that I normally wouldn’t have much to say to. Talking about nothing and anything and everything and something is so much easier during this holiday. Too, when I’m on my front porch in the summer, I usually just wave politely. But now I have something to shout—Merry Christmasssssss!—and it just feels a whole lot better. We are closer with our neighbors now —due to inflatable snowmen.
When it is all said and done, my Christmas Humbug appears to be morphing into something else entirely. I can’t say for certain, but it looks an awful lot like the everyday, ordinary saying that goes, “If you can’t beat ‘em, you might as well join ‘em.” Except for the Elmo part.
Christmas cheer.
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I hear you. That’s one thing all our parents know NEVER to get us under peril of excommunication: toys with batteries. The parents don’t know quite how serious I am about excommunication. In any case, I’ve been enough of a threat I can count on one hand the number of battery toys brought into the house in the last 12 years!
I don’t have any brilliant ideas about what to do with Elmo, but I say make the mustard into salad dressing.
Honey Mustard is the favorite around here. Amy, you can eat almost anything if it has enough sugar. lol
6 tbsp mustard
6 tbsp honey
4 oz rice vinegar or V of your choice (something exotic please)
lots of oil with a dash of S&P.
Shake, invite the people who gave you the stuff for dinner, and smile as you serve a BIG salad for supper with SIX different kinds of honey mustard dressing. aaah. Life is good.
Comment by Janel (December 27, 2006 @ 2:31 pm )
Well, this was the most layed back Christmas I ever had, except maybe for last year, when it was the first one without my Mom. I was really overly sad last year. I still missed her this year, but it was not as hard.
God gave us one child. He is now 22. We got him some jeans, some guitar strings and a Snickers shaped like a soldier. We did buy a little something for my Dad and my husband’s parents.
On the receiving end, my son bought his Dad a bass guitar. He had mentioned one time that it looked like it would be fun to play. My son and his friends play bluegrass music. My husband has never played a musical instrument. Hmmmm…. My son bought me an Ipod. I am not really even sure what one is, but I now own one. Maybe there is room up by your mustard to store our gifts. =)
Comment by Marci (December 27, 2006 @ 2:53 pm )
We went a little overboard this year because 2 years ago hubby was unemployed and then last year we moved 3 days before Christmas.Was a nice day despite the fact it rained.
Comment by Tammy (December 27, 2006 @ 2:57 pm )
now there’s an idea! that’s one i hadn’t tho’t of:) another idea is to just throw out those things you don’t have room for, even if they are food, rather than wait the requisite year until you haven’t used them before tossing. for clothes or toys, i’m starting the give away pile earlier than i once did. we’re in a smaller place now and i just don’t have a place to tuck those things in while i wait for them to not get used. it has taken me a long time to learn from my more organized friends who have less clutter, but the clutter is beyond my ability to manage!
i do enjoy the increased friendliness in the stores. i makes waiting in lines more palatable when you can visit with someone:) martha
Comment by martha (December 27, 2006 @ 3:01 pm )
Du, du, du..Another one bites the dust!
I’m still not handing over anything to WalMart, Target, or anybody’s Bed or Bath that’s Beyond…
It’s okay though, my neighbors are Jewish.
Blessings in your journey,
Comment by Emily Gunn (December 27, 2006 @ 3:43 pm )
Thank goodness our’s are still little enough that they don’t remember all the things they were given. We sent them to bed and sorted through the madness, with toss, return, & keep piles. I think the 26th will forever be the day that mamma organizes the stuff with labels and tosses things that don’t fit any of the labels.
Thanks for the post Amy.
I have to admit, it is so much easier to relax though, and just enjoy the time and do what husband wants to do than trying to control the flow of stuff in, or where we go or when we leave or what we buy. Let him be in charge (psst…he’s supposed to be!); I tend to forget that sometimes.
Comment by Meagan (December 27, 2006 @ 4:00 pm )
Ah, yes that BALANCE: Bah-humbuging it or enjoying it. I try to find it. Like you, I am too cyncial about it all. But I look for the good parts. Glad you can, too, Amy!!
P.S. Merry Christmasssss!!
Comment by Andrea (December 27, 2006 @ 4:08 pm )
We are cutting way back on Christmas busyness, too. We have had much more relaxed and truely worshipful Christmases for the last two years just because we don’t do everything family, church and dh’s work want us to do. We devote the entire month to reading, reviewing, and otherwise focusing on our Savior’s birth and why He had to come. We read your link to Dave Black’s article from last year’s post and it has given us a lot to think about. I expect most think we are “Scrooges”, but we are happier for it. Merry Christmas, all! Glenn Beck, (I think) was wishing everyone Happy Rama Hana Kwanzmas. Isn’t that horrible?
Comment by Another Heather (December 27, 2006 @ 5:06 pm )
So does that mean I should get the TMX Elmo from Aunt so and so out of the back of my van and let my kids have it after all?
Comment by Carole (December 27, 2006 @ 5:21 pm )
Love your musings…even the bah-humbug.
Years ago we tapered way back on Christmas “stuff”…when our children were home our resources were limited, hence our expenditures were also limited (we don’t “charge” things–our motto is “use it up, wear it out, make it do, do without”).
After our children were grown and married we decided to limit Christmas gift giving. We drew names with our children and their spouses and we let other family members know not to buy us anything, and that we would not be buying gifts for them either…I think they were relieved…less financial pressure…I also whittled down my Christmas card list to include only those people that I don’t see regularly and who are special enough to not want to loose touch. I do purchase token gifts for my Sunday School teacher and the occasional widow lady or neighbor who is special. We also make a special offering to a worthwhile Christian organization. I revel in the luxury of having little to do for Christmas as I watch everyone else madly spending, trying to find the perfect gifts…
And for those gifts you’ve received and don’t use: get rid of them…give them away, throw them away….regift them if possible. To those who oppose regifting, I say, how is it any different than returning the unwanted gift for a refund and then purchasing the same thing to give to someone? Regifting eliminates the return/refund process. Why keep somehing you don’t want, hate, will never use? Of course, discretion is required so as not to offend the original giver…but what purpose is served by retaining the unwanted…penance is not necessary…forsake the thing!
I think the real issue for many when it comes to regifting is more about rejecting the giver so to speak. If you feel it is “wrong” to not want/like/keep something you were given, then you should not regift. I’ve received many gifts I couldn’t use or hated, but that did not minimize the joy I had in receiving the gift or my appreciation to the giver…and keeping the gift that I disliked or could not use did not increase my joy. The gift became an albatross…something to endure.
We keep it simple and in so doing enjoy the Christmas season more. The first year of cutting back is hard…you feel almost “cheap”…but it is such a relief, that when you get past the “cheap” feeling (which really is “pride”) you’re so relieved the pressure is off.
And one last comment …when it comes to home baked gifts….Unless the recipient knows you well and your “cleanliness” in the kitchen, refrain from giving home baked gifts. They’ll likely end up in the trash.
Comment by cathy (December 27, 2006 @ 9:26 pm )
Such a funny post.
Comment by Catherine (December 28, 2006 @ 3:31 am )
I really appreciate your sense of humor! You often say things I am thinking but am too chicken to give voice to…
And thanks for the link!
Blessings!
Comment by joythruChrist (December 28, 2006 @ 5:16 am )
So pleased to find your site
God bless
Maria in the UK
http://www.inhishands.co.uk
Comment by Maria (December 28, 2006 @ 7:28 am )
Hey Amy!
Having a bazillion kids will ‘pay off’ in about 5-10 years! lol… This year our daughters (12 and 16) worked alot with their Dad and made some good money.
They LOVED buying us all gifts!!! They bought more gifts than we parents did. And they bought good, ‘needed’ gifts, which makes it even better! I was a bit torn about it, I was happy that they enjoyed GIVING so much and I didn’t want to discourage that, but at the same time I don’t want them to get caught up in the “I HAVE to buy everyone something” trap. We really encourage making gifts, and other than our children, everything we gave this year was made. And as far as our children, we spent less this year than we ever have and we all just has happy!
I wish we could just enjoy family fellowship, good food, and remember His humble birth without all the hoopla! Oh and I am SO GLAD my kids are past the batteries and toys!
Many blessings to you and thank you for the good laughs all year long!
Kathy…who is still trying to find you some cheap land in Alabama!
Comment by Kathy, Jeff's Wife (December 28, 2006 @ 9:18 am )
Nobody called me on my regifting allusion?!
People keep telling me that the kids will grow up, but there’s always a baby in the house to make me think otherwise.
Glenn Beck is one of my secret sins; I listen to him when the kids are out of earshot. When the kids are older, I think I’ll be able to get a lot of object lessons out of him.
Yes, I’d be happy to store your Ipod.
For the record, I loved all our gifts this year. Our family took great thought and matched us all with the perfect gift. We are blessed to have so many people love us.
Christmas cheer, everyone!
Comment by Amy Scott (December 28, 2006 @ 12:20 pm )
Amy, I can understand the ‘Christmas humbugs’ as well. This Christmas, things were much better for some reason as well, and I’m thankful for it. I don’t need to be all ‘blah’ when we’re supposed to be celebrating Someone special.
Comment by Stephen (December 28, 2006 @ 2:40 pm )
My children heard Glenn Beck wishing everybody a Happy Rama Hana Kwanzmas, and have repeated it non-stop. They think it is hilarious. It’s meant to be a slam against political correctness.
We’re going to KSC and AHF. Wanna join us?
Comment by Jo (December 28, 2006 @ 5:04 pm )
Yeah, I knew that. After I submitted my comment I wondered if other readers would think that I thought he was serious. What I meant was that it was horrible that our culture was in such a mess that he could make that kind of joke. I personally don’t listen to talk shows because I hear enough whining and noise during the day. My husband likes them, though.
Comment by Another Heather (December 28, 2006 @ 6:46 pm )
That Elmo thing is scary!
My 11 month old grandson got it from his ‘other’ grandparents.
It was referred to as ‘demon possessed elmo’ at our family’s Christmas party.
My daughter stuck Elmo WAY back in her linen closet.
I received a nice set of wooden blocks for Christmas. My FAVORITE gift. My son-in-law made them for me.
I LOVE gifts like that.
(such a funny post!)
Comment by judy (December 28, 2006 @ 11:56 pm )
Amen to receiving needed items as gifts. Some of my favorites this year were a laundry basket, step ladders, a gift card to go get dish towels, and handmade matching mother/daughter aprons. My husband thinks I’m funny in a pratical way and my family thinks…well, I’m not sure what they think, but I’m glad they got me stuff I need!
Comment by Meagan (December 29, 2006 @ 6:14 am )
Amy,
Yes, you *could* regift honey flavored mustard relish, hmmm…I’m not sure it would go so smoothly…just make sure they know you didn’t buy it!
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