Summer jobs
Saturday, Mar 3, 2007
The way I remember it, the air was hot and still. These were the Florida summers of my childhood, after all. It was wet even when it wasn’t raining. When it did rain—which was every afternoon at 4 o’clock –steam would rise and sizzle off the sidewalk and driveway. Then the sun would return with less force, but the mosquitoes made up for the sun backing off. It was brutal.
That didn’t stop us, though. My neighborhood girlfriend and I set up a car wash in my driveway and waited there for customers each summer. Our sign was a chalkboard that read “CAR WASH” in our fanciest, swirliest, girliest writing. Our clientele consisted of the last stay-at-home moms of the 80’s. They were a dying breed even back then, but there were a few who passed, felt sorry enough, and turned around. We washed, Windexed, and vacuumed for two bucks, which was a great deal even considering inflation and the fact that scrawny ten-year-olds were the ones wielding the elbow grease.
After our first customer of the day left, we’d close up shop. Splitting the two bucks one-and-one, we’d hop on our bikes and race to the convenience store at the entrance to our neighborhood. We’d blow all our money —me on beef jerky and a popsicle, her on a Laffy Taffy—and ride home. On the way home, we’d pedal slowly, while I caught the drips off my twin-pop.
Alongside our car wash business, we tried lemonade stands and mowing lawns. Both yielded pathetic returns. It wasn’t until I turned eleven and got my first babysitting job that business started to pick up. I became popular and continued to be all the way through college. Once, three moms in a cul-de-sac collaborated to have me watch all their children full-time for the whole summer. I was only fourteen. Desperate housewives existed back then; they always have.
It wasn’t good enough to work all day; when someone called in the evening, I’d take that job too, falling asleep on someone’s couch sometime after midnight. I worked a lot, not understanding that there’d be plenty of time to do that later. But I had other reasons too, so in some ways, it was a good thing.
Besides the fact that I was not mature enough to raise other people’s children, there was another annoying part of the job. Before I got my driver’s license, I had to catch a ride home from whomever I was working for. Nine times out of ten, the parent or boyfriend was drunk. They’d hunch over the steering wheel every time, drive 10 mph, and tell me stories that I didn’t want to know. Even back then, I despised drunk drivers, as I’d known a few cases up close and personal already. It never occurred to me to opt out of the situation because like the summer air, it was all just a part of living.
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When I think back to the babysitting that I used to do, I can’t believe I was allowed to watch kids at age 11! I would never let an 11 or 12 year old watch my kids, but I remember watching three kids, age 6 and under, for hours at a time when I was only 12 or 13. And getting something like $20! It was a fortune. It still is
Comment by MicheleinNZ (March 3, 2007 @ 2:11 pm )
When my children were all small and I didn’t yet have my own personal built-in babysitters, I always used to say that I would never hire a teenage babysitter because I used to be a teenage babysitter! I look back at myself at that incredibly young and naive age and I wonder, what were those parents thinking??!!
Comment by Lady Why (March 3, 2007 @ 4:34 pm )
My parents only ever let me babysit for people they knew–mostly church families. I think my dad would have killed anybody who got drunk while I was babysitting for them. He certainly would never have let me go back.
Comment by ruth (March 3, 2007 @ 8:12 pm )
Oh, sounds just like my life in middle school when I was the only teen in the neighborhood who babysat. I was good at it too! Kids loved me and I truly loved them. I especially liked the houses that had candy and ice cream and the Little Mermaid on VHS. That was the life! And I could just walk home, since it was the neighborhood. I blew most of my earnings on slurpees at the 7-11. Would be nice now to get $20 bucks every Friday and Saturday night to spend on slurpees and Dairy Queen.
and all that babysitting really did help prepare me for motherhood. When I had my first baby, I already knew how to hold his head properly, how to change a diaper, how to cram his little feet into those cute white shoes…….nursing however was a whole new ballgame!
And we have never left our kids with a teenage babysitter. We are blessed to have families in our church who love to babysit. It’s great to know a husband and wife team are taking care of our 5 little ones, but the downside is we have to come home early so they don’t get too cranky at someone else’s house past bedtime.
Comment by Stacey (March 3, 2007 @ 9:46 pm )
Some people will always amaze me. When we first moved to the country almost two years ago, the very first time our neighbors met us they asked my little sister (who was 13 at the time) to babysit their eight year old all during the summer. They didn’t even wait a few weeks to find out if we were crazy people or anything. I have found my parents have always been far more cautious about who my sisters and I babysat than most parents are at choosing a babysitter.
Comment by Rhonda (March 3, 2007 @ 11:13 pm )
I can totally relate to this! I was not much older than the children I used to baby-sit. Fortunately for the parents, I loved children and was very reliable, but what if I had been a typical kid watching their kids? I can relate to the drunk thing too. Many times I watched kids so that their parents could go to a party and get drunk.
Comment by Valerie (March 4, 2007 @ 10:58 am )
How sad!
My daughters lives as babysitters have been completely different then my own. We have always told them that they could call us to pick them up if there was a need, but because they were generally babysitting for our church friends there has never been one.
We also, because of homeschooling, have encouraged day-time jobs over evening ones, only allowing them to babysit evenings for our closest friends on an exception basis. This has reserved family time, plus they make alot more money being available to work in church nurseries during the day than what an individual family will pay. In addition, I worked hard to train them to be good babysitters (I think I mentioned that here before).
Is a babysitter ever mature enough to raise someone else’s kids? I suppose there are circumstances, but ideally parents should want to raise their own.
Comment by Rebecca (March 4, 2007 @ 2:08 pm )
My comment about raising other people’s kiddos wasn’t so much a knock on teenage babysitters; our babysitter is 15. I was more referring to the full-time aspect of it. A sitter for 2-3 hours a month is a lot different from a 14-year-old watching several children everyday from 8-5. Sorry to be unclear.
A long time ago, I reviewed a pre-published copy of a book on the subject of sheltering your children. The authors wrote ademently on NEVER leaving your children with anyone outside of immediate family. I wrote back explaining that I thought that it was a ridiculous stand to take, given that they had 3 grown children to rely on. I pointed out that it was quite tricky to have a baby in a hospital without employing a babysitter and other examples. (I know, I know, I should homebirth….) They took the babysitting part out, but I suspected it was more out of deference to young families than conviction, given that the rest of the book was really over-the-top–at least the pre-published version.
It’s not usual that I write without a point as I did here, but there really is a story underneath it. That is, before I even knew it, God was working through difficult circumstances. This doesn’t mean that He makes our lives easy, but in the end, nothing is wasted.
Comment by Amy Scott (March 4, 2007 @ 2:24 pm )
Amy
Thanks for clarifying your point. Quite honestly, I was wondering what it was, because usually your posts *do* have clear points, as you said.
I relate to your babysitting saga…I did much babysitting at the same age you were.
And, to your point, that you clarified–’tis a very good one, indeed.
Comment by Andrea (March 4, 2007 @ 3:15 pm )
I never really enjoy myself when we leave our children with teenagers. My husband is always telling me to relax. My response to him is “I used to babysit, you did not. I do not know what could be happening right now at our home.” Thankfully we have 1 or 2 very mature and resposible girls, but if i cannot get them I am always hesitant to leave.
Comment by Julie (March 4, 2007 @ 3:16 pm )
Hi! I have been reading and enjoying your blog for some time now and felt that I just had to put in my two cents on this subject. Not only was I an eleven year old babysitter I was also a nanny in NYC from the time I was 21 to the age of 27. I loved taking care of children and took classes on CPR and babysitting at the Red Cross. Things were different when I was 11. People were better behaved and manners were still encouraged. There was only one time that I was confronted witha drunk parent and I called my dad. Nannying is a whole ‘nother story and I wouldn’t do that again for all the money in the world, not that I have to since I am married with kids of my own. All that to say, babysitting is a good way for kids to learn responsibilty, if they have the proper training and appitude for taking care of kids. Thanks for a great blog Amy!
Angela
Comment by Angela (March 4, 2007 @ 4:38 pm )
I never really babysat other people’s children outside of our home until I was much older and then I can remember one time. I babysat my brothers and sisters ALOT! I am the oldest of 11 so it was alot of babysitting. i think some of the most difficult experience we had was when we had prayer meetings at our house and there was some children who did not listen at all. The one little boy when my sister brought him to his father had scratched her hands until they were bleeding by the time she got him there.
It did prepare me for mothering somewhat, but I think I would have loved being more of a child with a little less responsiblity for my brothers and sisters behaviour.
Comment by Martha (March 4, 2007 @ 4:47 pm )
I know that I had to go through similar situations with drunk adults, and I hope that you always instill in your children the knowledge that they don’t have to do as adults say in those situations.
Comment by anonymous (March 4, 2007 @ 8:11 pm )
I like your comment and reminder that “nothing is wasted”. Even down to the inebriated ramblings of an innapropriate adult. Truly God is in control of all things and it does us well to think on this.
Comment by Stacy (March 4, 2007 @ 11:49 pm )
I am not all that far removed from the babysitting age - I babysat from about age 11 up through my college years. Looking back on my own babysitting experience, I remember my parents always had to know whose children I would be watching, and if they didn’t know the family personally, they had to have “recommendations” from whomever gave that family my name. Until I reached driving age, my parents dropped me off and picked me up mostly, but I can remember a few of those questionable rides home from the parents I didn’t know so well. Babysitting was a great way for me to make money (plus I didn’t have to pay taxes or wear a silly uniform like so many of my friends did!) and once I had a group of “regulars,” I became like part of their family too. I will never forget having to find replacement babysitters to continue in my place when I left for college 300 miles away from home - one set of parents swore they wouldn’t go out unless I was home for a break (somehow I don’t think that actually happened). It was a great experience and really taught me about disciplining children, consistency, diapers, tv-allotment, and all that other stuff!
Comment by catherine (March 5, 2007 @ 10:33 am )
I babysat from the time I was 12 until about 10 months ago (am now 25) and always had a ball; I certainly would never mind a teenager as babysitter.
The experience also taught me how to manouvre my bike with 4 children on or in the direct vicinity of it (the joys of livig in Holland). Be thankful for your cars!!!!!!
Children always seem to want me to read to them…usually the same books over and over and over and… I babysat for my last family A LOT until all involved moved (four boys, now 7, 5 and 2 1/2 twins)as their mother worked. A LOT means being consulted on what groceries were needed and being dubbed ‘Mama Laura’. The funniest was when I took the two little ones to get their shots and a mother in the waiting room complimented me on my sons and how much they looked like me LOL! Sort of like a pet that looks like the owner after a while…
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