Progress
Friday, Apr 20, 2007
I see that Greg has been keeping you up-to-date on our progress/lack of progress over here. It’s been a solid month of exhaustion, weight loss, and nausea and vomiting due to pregnancy—or hyperemesis. For weeks now, I’ve stayed motionless in bed with a Glad 6-quart plastic container as my companion. Two people reminded me about blood clots, and I’m grateful for the advice. This week I’ve upgraded to a sort of morning sickness—which just means that I feel nauseous and useless 24/7. This is very good progress.
Greg looks on the bright side of everything, which is why one of us in this marriage has to be the realist. The truth is, I don’t have that pregnancy glow. My skin is not radiating, and my hair is not shiny. Instead, my hair is a matted, greased down ponytail and my lips are cracked. I could play a junkie on TV and not need makeup or a change of clothes. I am prone to count my daily vomiting sessions, not my blessings.
Yet God’s glory is sometimes seen best in our weakness, ironically. God’s nod on my life happens not when I achieve personal peace and affluence, but when I am faithful and obedient to the task He’s set before me—however hard it is. God calls us to do hard things. James 1:12 says, “Blessed is the man who perseveres…”
The nuts and bolts of our faith is lived out in the dailyness of life. Sometimes we’re prone to believe that Sundays (except for that last one in January) are for Jesus; the rest of the week is for—you know—other stuff. But in reality, we need, live, and ask for faith everyday.
We are to live for His glory—to make Him look good—every single day of the week. Christian marriage, living, and faith stands or falls during these in-between times, often when nobody is watching on except the children. And boy, they are watching.
We shouldn’t be surprised by trials. If we are sick, we should drink Gatorade and pray for healing (James 5). Sometimes God’s answer for deliverance is yes, and sometimes the answer is no. But in praying for relief, we should also pray for faith. The faith to believe that God cares for His people and their lowly state, just as He does the sparrow. The faith to agree all the time (not just when death is preferable to our suffering) that to live is Christ and to die is gain. The faith to “consider it pure joy” (James 1:2) when our faith is matured.
If you would’ve asked me two months ago if we could “handle” a circumstance like this—even as small, really, as this one– I would’ve said “no.” What would we do with the one-year-old who is walking and loves to climb stairs? He is busy, busy, busy. How could we manage his safety when Greg has to work and I am not there? But as it happened, God would send tangible help and encouragement when it was needed and not a second before that.
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So glad to hear of ‘baby steps’ of progress!
I was reading Elisabeth Elliot’s The Path of Loneliness this morning; she said of a woman who suffered with poor health, “A pure faith would be worth far more to God than all the service she had planned to render if poor health had not interrupted her plans.” O, how I needed to hear that! Sometimes He tucks us away in painful dark corners in order to teach us faith and acceptance. “In acceptance lieth peace….”
May He strengthen your faith and fill you with peace today.
Comment by lizzykristine (April 20, 2007 @ 12:20 pm )
Good to hear from you again, Amy. And congratulations on the new little life growing inside of you!
~Stacy
Comment by Stacy (April 20, 2007 @ 12:41 pm )
Oh, God bless you. I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better. I have been pregnant once, and was sick 24/7 for 8 months. I do believe that I counted my daily vomiting sessions. That memory is still very fresh. I work full-time and for the first few months I would manage to get into work about 10:00. The quickest route to work (’cause being in the car made me sicker) was also the route where they repaving the freeway. Oh….the smell of hot tar…..
God’s goodness be with you!
Comment by Jill (April 20, 2007 @ 1:35 pm )
Praying for you sister, and your household. Thanking God for faithful churches who understand hospitality and service.
Comment by Margaret in VA (April 20, 2007 @ 1:35 pm )
I’m right behind you in my pregnancy at about 8 weeks. You’ve been through so much in these past few weeks and the fact that you’re still giving God praise through all this is really encouraging to me. God gives us a special grace to get through what seems like impossible circumstances, and you’ve shown that. Thank you.
Comment by Samantha (April 20, 2007 @ 1:38 pm )
Hi Amy! It’s so nice to hear from you
(((hugs)))
Love Janet.
Comment by Janet (April 20, 2007 @ 1:40 pm )
Amy,

What an surprise to see the Humble Muse picked my Humble Blog for weblog of the week…I’m so very honored…seriously!!
I am relieved to see you posting. Yes, I was having withdrawals, but, really, I was worried.
Funny a few months ago I was thinking of asking you how you endure the morning sickness and was going to ask you tips. I know you get it bad. My last pregnancy was much like this one is for you in the beginning.
And now I see that you answered that question: “to be faithful and obedient to the task. To make Him look good.” Yes, that’s the way to endure.
Praying for you, still. Praising Him, still.
Comment by Andrea (April 20, 2007 @ 1:52 pm )
Amy,
I am praying for you! wow, hang on there!
Grace be with you
Comment by Jenny in Ca (April 20, 2007 @ 2:02 pm )
Hello again!
I don’t want to sound like I’ve done a great job this whole time. My family will vouch here. Perspective is easier now with some time between those dark days. Most definitely, I had some depressive thoughts during the worst of it. To comfort oneself during the flu, you tell yourself, “It’ll all be over in another day or two.” Instead, I began wallowing when I realized that I was only eight weeks into it.
I’ve learned over the years never to make big, impactive, or long-term decisions when I was in a crisis. I thought I’d drown when I we had three babies, but the sun came out and moving, sterilizing, daycare, and so forth stopped going through my mind. For sure, we needed to make changes to get through it, but they were the type of changes that I would’ve made in my right mind. We made it and learned a valuable lesson along the way.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 20, 2007 @ 2:11 pm )
Amy, Greg is entertaining but I’m very glad to see you back! I’m also encouraged by your willingness to submit to the Lord’s plans and keep having babies when you get so much sicker than any pregnant woman I’ve ever known. May the Lord remind you daily of his goodness to you in blessing you and Greg with many children!
Comment by Lisa (April 20, 2007 @ 3:41 pm )
…and not a second before that.
A good word. His grace IS sufficient. Welcome back.
Comment by grafted branch (April 20, 2007 @ 4:46 pm )
So glad to see you posting again! I feel awful for you…. I wouldn’t ever want to have such sickness with my pregnancies. You handle it very well. You and your blog are such a huge encouragement… Your hubbie did well in your absence! Take care!
Comment by Lu (April 20, 2007 @ 4:47 pm )
Glad to hear from you again. I’ve been praying and waiting to hear from you again. Don’t overdo it, Mommy. Thanks for taking such good care of her, Greg. Keep up the good work!
Comment by Another Heather (April 20, 2007 @ 5:18 pm )
Good to see you back!
Blessings,
Theresa
Comment by Theresa (April 20, 2007 @ 5:47 pm )
Thank you. My situation is completely different, but I needed to hear this today. Actually, right now.
Comment by Jessica (April 20, 2007 @ 6:25 pm )
Oh Amy, bless you for persevering–as if there was another choice?!? I know you’ll be excited to meet your new little one in many months. I pray that you feel a little better every day! I know how you feel. I was completely out after an unexpected c section. Thank God for my 15 year old daughter!
Comment by Nancy (April 20, 2007 @ 9:09 pm )
Amy, A very late congratulations and I’m so glad you are feeling “better”. (So much of life is relative, isn’t it?) I hope you continue to improve rapidly in the coming days and God blesses you with an uneventful rest of your pregnancy.
Hugs,
Sallie
Comment by Sallie (April 20, 2007 @ 9:14 pm )
Amy, I am so glad to see you back, and hear that you are doing some what better. Also, thank you for the wonderful post today. Many Christians (myself included) forget that we are to bring glory to God in every day things.
–Rhonda
Comment by Rhonda (April 20, 2007 @ 11:23 pm )
So glad to hear you are feeling a little better! I found your blog not too long ago, and I have been following your husband’s posts. I know all too well what you are going through, and what a blessing it is to have a wonderful husband like that!
I hope your days continue to get better!
Comment by Circus Mom (April 21, 2007 @ 12:33 am )
So glad to have you back Amy. I can totally relate to the “morning sickness” thing. HA~~”morning”, try 24/7. You had it real bad this time. Was it as bad with your other children?
Comment by Robin (April 21, 2007 @ 8:06 am )
Ah, so good to see you, Amy. I’ve prayed for you so much!
Still praying, friend.
Comment by Holly (April 21, 2007 @ 8:19 am )
Oh, Amy, so glad to see you functioning a little! Have been scared for you! I can usually keep my vomiting sessions down to a few a week using the meds so you’ve been worse than me and I’m just so sorry!
Sorry about the greasy matted hair too. I was able have a friend come to my home to cut mine after I could sit up long enough. It was pretty damaged from snarls so about 5-6 inches came off. It was very helpful, I highly recommend it. ;0) I really admire your attitude! You help me see I’m not nuts for thinking forward to the next time!
Comment by Lyn (April 21, 2007 @ 8:58 am )
AMY!! So glad that you are back among the living again!!! I’ve been praying for you during this most difficult time. I know you’re not back to your old self just yet but I hope you are able to see a light at the end of the tunnel!
Comment by Lady Why (April 21, 2007 @ 11:02 am )
Robin,
This is by far the worst time ever, but I’ve never escaped with feeling great on the others. Usually, I’m miserable all day long with only occasional vomiting. This time was different, as there were several days that I wasn’t able to hold down anything. The severity hit a lot earlier too.
Before this pregnancy, my worst time was with our first son and the “easiest” time with with our last one, Charles. So it doesn’t seem to be a boy/girl thing with me. Some people theorize that the extra estrogen from girl babies make the morning sickness worse.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 21, 2007 @ 12:13 pm )
1 Peter 4:12, “Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you.”
Thanks for being such an excellent witness.
Comment by Michael (April 21, 2007 @ 1:37 pm )
Amy, I have not been following your blog too very long, but your faith and courage through this trial resulting from this great blessing is a big encouagement to me. Thank you for your example.
Comment by Bessers (April 21, 2007 @ 1:43 pm )
Your post today is so right on and it is so joyous to read the truth, even if it is difficult. Have been praying for you and so happy that you are better. Greg sounds like “the glass is half full” guy, just like my husband. We are so blessed! And the sentence about the children are watching…if only I would remember that more often. All for His glory and honor and praise because heaven is our goal and our true home.
Comment by Lela (April 21, 2007 @ 3:37 pm )
This is my first time to comment, but I do not get online without visiting you. And, boy have I missed you! Thank you for always turning my eyes back to God, and recharging my spirit. Hope you are on an upward swing, and you start to feel better!
Comment by osohappy (April 21, 2007 @ 4:27 pm )
It is hard, hard, hard to want anything but relief during the tough times. But what I’m finding (through some incredibly difficult situations of my own) is that not only does He give sweet relief in ways unexpected, He also gives strength of character and a deepened love for Him–something that makes any trial worth walking.
Of course that’s easy for me to say. I’m not the one throwing up.
Comment by Sarah's in the midst of it (April 21, 2007 @ 11:35 pm )
Glad to hear from you!!
Comment by Tammy (April 22, 2007 @ 2:49 pm )
Now THAT is one of the funniest things I’ve read in a while. So true, so true…
And so glad to see you back and with your wit still shiny even if your hair isn’t.
Comment by April (April 22, 2007 @ 7:03 pm )
This is by far the worst time ever
Comment by Tonya (April 22, 2007 @ 9:34 pm )
Oops. I blocked the wrong part. LOL!:)
Comment by Tonya (April 22, 2007 @ 9:35 pm )
I’ve been reading your (and Greg’s) posts with sympathy, early on thinking “I’m so glad we’re done with THAT!”. Surprise! I’m actually about 6 weeks along now, and just this weekend had a bout of the “can’t keep anything down” Friday and yesterday. This is our fifth pregancy, I lost the last one at 11 weeks, so we’re not telling anyone yet. It’s hard to explain to the kids why Mommy’s sick AGAIN without telling them why. I never had this with any of the others — just sthe 24/7 queasiness with maybe one or two bouts of vomiting the whole pregnancy! This is a whole new ballgame, and now I am empathizing instead of sympathizing!
Comment by Gem (April 23, 2007 @ 9:59 am )
Yes, but is it twins???????
No, seriously, I’m glad to see you enter the land of the living, if only for a moment. Hang in there. Praying for you.
LL
Comment by Lora Lynn (April 23, 2007 @ 9:00 pm )
Amy,
If I could reach across the miles and give you a big ‘ol Texas hug, I would do just that. You know that I “KNOW” how you feel and my heart has just gone out to you over these last weeks. At 27 weeks I am still so thankful for the meds that help me function through this pregnancy and I wish that now that I am feeling so much better that I could be there to help you along as well. Many Christians often ask me “why” we keep doing this (getting pregnant) when I get so sick. Many of them wouldn’t understand if I said, “to bring glory to God.” But you do understand and I understand you and for that…I am thankful. Trusting God’s providence for our lives can be so difficult to embrace sometimes, but you always seem to keep such a wonderful perspective. Hang in there girl!
Comment by Michelle (April 23, 2007 @ 10:07 pm )
Yay! You are back!!! I know, I know….YOU are not back, but some of your words are : ). I CANNOT imagine what you have been through!! Just mere “morning sickness” (aka all day sickness) is HORRIBLE….I can’t, can’t, can’t imagine what you’ve been through! I’d be right there with you counting the vomit sessions vs the many mercies of our Lord! I’m SO sorry!!! I’m SO thankful the Lord has provided through Greg and others for the care of your family! What a gift, indeed!!!!! May He continue to show you His love through others and may He give you the grace to continue to see His love and many mercies even as you battle getting even one thought on something other than the awful way that you feel!
Comment by shawnda (April 24, 2007 @ 2:38 pm )
Oh, Amy, I ‘m so happy to see this post today! YAY!
I’ve never been that sick through any of my pregnancies. You are an amazing woman for being willing to go through that gauntlet time and time again!!!
Wow. God bless you!!! You so totally ROCK!
Comment by Elizabeth (April 24, 2007 @ 4:28 pm )
I like to say that pregnancy is a means to an end- the end being a joyous meeting of a new life. Some can enjoy their pregnancy journey, journaling and dreaming and making belly casts, but many of us cannot think of much good about it except the baby at the end. I’m in that latter group, just waiting for d-day. Glad you’re back.
Comment by Valerie (April 24, 2007 @ 5:48 pm )
De-lurking to say…I’m so glad that you are feeling at least a little better!
Comment by Leigh (April 25, 2007 @ 9:21 am )
OOH Amy!! I don’t even know if you will read this, but you have my prayers. I am pregnant right now too……….and doing anything is difficult. I am not as sick as you, but……this is my fourth and I don’t remember signing up for this!! I will keep you in my prayers!! I haven’t been able to get on the computer much either because I have been too sick.
Love,
~Candi (Homekeeper at Heart)
Comment by Candi (April 25, 2007 @ 4:10 pm )
Thanks for the link to the Orlando Article. I grew up in Orlando in the 60-70s worked with Orlando Police Department in the 80s. Now we are moving back to the area to be near family in our retirement years.
>>The nuts and bolts of our faith is lived out in the dailyness of life.
Comment by Robin Sampson (April 26, 2007 @ 9:30 am )
Congratulations, Amy. I’ve been praying for you and your family these past few weeks - which probably seemed like a few years to you. Thank you for staying strong even in the midst of great difficulty.
I’m not sure if it’s been mentioned, but you aren’t carrying twins, are you? I just know that the moms I’ve known who had twins had a much, much harder first trimester and the nausea was incredibly worse than usual. The thought crossed my mind when I heard how badly you were doing.
Continuing to pray for you…
Comment by Crystal (April 26, 2007 @ 5:04 pm )
Thank you again, everyone, for your sympathies. I think I misspoke when I said we were making progress. It has been a week of baby steps.
We had an early ultrasound last month and… no twins! Higher levels of HCG are found with multiples (often blamed for “morning sickness”) in case anyone is wondering why several people asked about it. We don’t have any family history of fraternal twins, so I didn’t suspect it. I just assume I’ll get the worst of it because whenever I read that some weird condition only affects 1-5% of the population, it is easy to know that I’ll be in that number.
While I am extremely grateful for the help we are receiving, I look forward to a nausea-free life in the next coming weeks hopefully. At least, somewhat. I mean, I’m trying not to think about all that needs to be done to get back on track. The question is not, Will I ever update this site again? but rather, Will everyone still have sweaters in their dressers in July?
I don’t think I’ve cooked a meal in two months! Wow!
Comment by Amy Scott (April 26, 2007 @ 11:07 pm )
Ohhhh . . . .my dear, can I understand. Our baby is now 8 weeks old, and it was a LONG, rough pregnancy. I now weigh 60 pounds less than I did before I was pregnant - if that gives an indication of how sick I too was during the pregnancy. Now, I was definitely overweight, and this weight loss is welcomed, BUT it sure was the hard way to go. I spent the week before he was born in the hospital because of high blood pressure, and he was born a week early, with the struggles afterwards of him not nursing well. But worth it?!?!?!?! OH MY YES! I’d do it all over again for this sweet precious little boy. I just share this to say, I sure understand this “time out” for you.
Loni
Comment by Loni (April 26, 2007 @ 11:30 pm )
Oh, Amy, I am so sorry to hear you are so very ill, but I rejoice with you in your baby. May God keep you and give you His strength.
Warmly,
Kate
Comment by Under the Sky (April 26, 2007 @ 11:31 pm )
Congratulations on the pregnancy! And your thoughts are so true.
Last week in the delivery room, my blood pressure took a dive. It was kind of surreal…all the activity around me and the vague notion that I should perhaps be more concerned than I was. But I was battling the temptation to fall asleep even though I was in the final stage of labor.
I was not physically capable of real fear at the time, but it left me thinking about a lot of things following delivery, when the nausea finally cleared and all was well. We are often paralyzed by fear that does us no good, or by wishing things were different or just thinking we cannot handled what has been given us to handle.
But it accomplishes nothing. We have only to pray and be faithful.
Comment by Dana (April 27, 2007 @ 2:13 am )
I’m sorry its still rough. I had the similar sickness with my third child. I went down to 80 lbs! My sweet Grandmother spoon fed me mashed potatoes. Believe it or not one of the only things that kept away nausea was sipping lemonade.
We recently went through a health trial and I found this:
If we only endure our trials, then trials become our master, and we have a tendency to become hard and bitter. If we try to escape our trials, then we will probably miss the purposes God wants to achieve in our lives. But if we learn to enlist our trials, they will become our servants instead of our masters and work for us; and God will work all things together for our good and His glory Rom. 8:28.
(Wiersbe, W. W.)
God does something special in everything.
Blessings,
Robin
Comment by Robin Sampson (April 27, 2007 @ 7:20 am )
Oh yes, the fear of when you’re back in the game and there is everything to do!
I’m 18 weeks along and have been on bedrest since week 12 (before that I had first trimester sickness– though nothing like what you deal with– and a 2-week battle with strep throat in addition), so I haven’t cooked a meal, cleaned a bathroom, bathed a child, etc. in months. As anxious as I am to get beyond these present challenges, I’m not sure I’ll feel much better when it’s time to “dive in” again. I fear for what my home and family will look like by then!!
Comment by brietta (April 27, 2007 @ 12:16 pm )
Your progress, however seemingly small Amy, reminds me of a quote by Albert Einstein: “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as if nothing is a miracle, and the other is as if everything is a miracle.”
Glad to have you back! Take each day a little at a time!
Comment by Judy Schneider (April 27, 2007 @ 5:11 pm )