The first day
Monday, Jun 11, 2007
We headed out last Monday to our denomination’s annual synod meeting. We are members of the Associate Reformed Presbyterian church, and Greg attended as our church’s elder delegate. The children and I tagged along for fun, but as it turned out in the beginning, the only fun would be the kind that we created ourselves.
I’m not “into” family trips with lots of young’ns. Which means, I haven’t been excited to hit the road for nine years now. Greg is the optimist, which is easier to be when both boys in the family are either in diapers or able to take care of themselves in public restrooms. The girls are all mine. Moms with young girls will understand my sentiment.

Our first stop was at a working farm in South Carolina. Buying something that could support our family is something we’ve talked about for several years now. We enjoyed seeing an operation up close, and the owner gave us several hours of an upfront view. (We were potential buyers, not tourists.) The farm’s main product is pre-picked and U-pick berries. The small store onsite sells grass-fed beef, raw milk, and wheat berries from other local farms.
The children enjoyed the woods, the lake, and picking berries. Our two oldest even got to drive the golf cart around the property, and this was very impressive to them. I’m glad they are easily excited.
We had many questions which our host graciously answered. He started the operation just ten years ago as a city slicker too. He said most things are learned from the community of local farmers. It seems they are a breed that stick together and help each other. I’ve found this to be true in many rural areas here in the south, so long as you are genuinely interested and humble. We know nothing of running a commercial venture. Too, since my gardening knowledge is limited to a Florida climate, I find it incredibly easy not to act like a know-it-all.
From the farm, we traveled onto Flat Rock, NC, where the synod meeting would be held that week. We pulled into our hotel at 10 p.m. Since we’d been on the road since 5:30 a.m., it was good to finally end the day.
When we arrived, however, the hotel office was closed! Too appreciate this fully, you have to know that I’m expecting, and we have five small cranky children in the backseat. (There was nothing wrong with Greg, though.) We were a little baffled since there was no mention of the office closing at 8 p.m. on our reservation confirmation. So the baby is crying, there are no vacancies in town (due to synod), and the office is dark. We’ve traveled a long way, and while we sat there, I felt like Clark Griswold.
After several phone calls, we found out that they gave away our room too. In the end, our old pastor gave up his room to us and moved to another. We sorted all this out in a dark parking lot late at night. It took about an hour. Greg is impervious to pressure and so all this was no big deal. If you remember, he was a youth pastor for many years before we married.
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Amy, this was fun to read. My husband and I are members of an ARP church so I know what you’re talking about! We actually were up at Bonclarken for the first time last summer. We especially enjoyed visiting Carl Sandburg’s house.
Comment by Ashley (June 11, 2007 @ 10:45 pm )
We absolutely love road trips. We drove clear to Western Montana for Christmas in ‘05. We listened to many audiobooks and Mannheim Steamroller’s christmas album. I’d do it again if we could afford it.
Do you all fit in one hotel room? I guess you could put the girlies in one bed and the boys on the floor or portacrib. I’m curious as to how other big families handle the hotel thing. If you volunteer that you have a large number of children, don’t they make you get a suite or several rooms? Is there a law against how many kids you can have in a room?
I don’t do well with absent hotel managers late at night when I’m pregnant. Actually, incompetent and ignorant people in general really bother me during pregnancy. Lucky for them I’m too tired to do anything about it. If I had the energy, I’d be whacking all kind of folks upside the head.
Aren’t you glad November is just around the corner?
Comment by Jo (June 11, 2007 @ 10:57 pm )
NO!
I can’t WAIT to read more about this trip!!
Comment by Leslie (June 11, 2007 @ 10:59 pm )
I would have had steam coming out of my ears. Who is Clark Griswold?
Comment by Heidi (June 12, 2007 @ 1:59 am )
Your family just cracks me up! Your husband sounds like a gem in many ways!
Comment by Nancy (June 12, 2007 @ 8:13 am )
It didn’t hit me until the end of your post that you all went to Bonclarken! I love it there. I went there for all my high school retreats and have worked at camps there for the past several summers… it is such a beautiful place. Sorry about the reservation difficulties, though. :-\
Comment by Chelsey (June 12, 2007 @ 8:15 am )
Oh, Amy. I can SO relate! Not only to things going wrong, but husbands that are impervious to pressure.
Comment by Holly (June 12, 2007 @ 8:33 am )
Oh my goodness! And that was the first day!! I can’t wait to read about the rest of your trip!!
Comment by Lady Why (June 12, 2007 @ 8:48 am )
I’m holding my breath waiting to hear about the rest of the trip!
Comment by Carrie @ Three-Girl Circus (June 12, 2007 @ 9:04 am )
Oh, wow…what a small world! I’ve been delightfully reading your blog for about a year now, and now I find out you’re also a member of the ARP! My dad was there last week as well. He was our church’s elder designate. We’re here in Canada, not many ARP churches here.
Comment by Jaclyn (June 12, 2007 @ 9:12 am )
Oh My.I am glad that you were able to get a room.How nice of your former pastor to give up his room.The girls and restrooms-even at 48 I still hate traveling just for that reason!!
Comment by Tammy (June 12, 2007 @ 9:42 am )
LOL - well, I have all boys - so they belong to Dad. Mom getse off with a free pass when it comes to bathroom visits. My husband has ALL the poop stories.
Comment by brooke (June 12, 2007 @ 10:13 am )
I cannot imagine. I only have 2 little ones, and I’d be completely stressed out! The stop at the farm sounds like fun though. I bet the kids had a blast!
Comment by Melissa (June 12, 2007 @ 10:31 am )
I hate rode trips now with a 2 yr old…. I can’t imagine taking more children on such a long trip! Ya’ll are brave! Glad you’re home and safe!
Comment by Lu (June 12, 2007 @ 11:32 am )
Do you live in Florida? I do too so I was wondering in what area you live in?
Comment by Tina (June 12, 2007 @ 12:03 pm )
I love that line “There was nothing wrong with Greg though”.
Ah yes….I too have sat in very similar circumstances with cranky children and their cranky mother somehow wishing SOMETHING would dampen their perfect father….misery does love company. It is usually at that time that my husband says “Well, the Lord has a plan for this too” and I very respectfully roll my eyes and sigh.
Comment by Barbara (June 12, 2007 @ 12:13 pm )
“…so all this was no big deal.” [to Greg]
*grin*
Ack! I can imagine the big deal it was to you.
I would have been near-to-pulling-my-hair-out!
Can’t wait to hear the rest of your story!
~Stacy
Comment by Stacy (June 12, 2007 @ 12:39 pm )
An optomistic husband—pretty much the only reason I survive day-to-day.
Comment by Elizabeth (June 12, 2007 @ 12:41 pm )
our family is constantly living the life of clark griswold. sounds like a typical trip with kids so far. can’t wait to hear the rest of the tragedy.
Comment by chickadee (June 12, 2007 @ 1:19 pm )
May I ask where in SC this farm is located? We’re in Upstate SC and I have yet to find somewhere to get grass-fed meats and raw milk at the same place. Thanks! Oh, and I’m relating all too easily to your travel stories… we’re about to hit the road with 4 under 6. Fun times!
Comment by jkk (June 12, 2007 @ 1:54 pm )
“Moms with young girls will understand my sentiment.”
Do I ever!! With 5 girls (no boys) I understand perfectly. The 5th is still in diapers & the 4th were working on…
My family lives in MS. & we are in PA. so we have the “pleasure” of taking those loooong trips at least twice a year. I absolutely HATE taking my girls into public restrooms!!! One thing that has helped the germ freak momma (me) out is to take a port-a-potty along (the kind that pump flush & everthing can be closed off). Make sure to take hand sanitizer along also.
Comment by Ruth (June 12, 2007 @ 1:57 pm )
We are on the central east coast.
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Yes, we were at Bonclarken, but we stayed at lodging across the street. So it wasn’t the camp’s fault.
Clark Griswold, played by Chevy Chase, is the guy from an 80’s movie, Vacation. (I probably saw it when I was like 12.) They drove a zillion miles to Walley World, but when they got there, the park was closed for the season. Clark flipped, got a gun or something, and forced the workers to let his family in the park. It’s a comedy (with some off-color jokes, if I remember correctly). Anyway, on the way there, everything is a disaster…I think you’d have to know the movie for this to be funny. Over the years, Greg and I have seen some pretty bad hotels. On our honeymoon, he booked one, sight-unseen. When we walked in, I moaned, “It’s a Chevy Chase hotellllllllll…..”
Jo, You have 4 boys. I don’t want to hear it!
Actually, the hardest part about road trips are children under 2. After that, they’re “easier.” Babies crying in carseats and arching their backs when you strap them in can make for a miserable 500 miles.
We outgrew the single hotel room thing with #5. Now, the best option (for the money) is a suite. None of our babies just go to sleep in a noisy room, so somehow we have to block off a section somehow. The thing that makes hotels and road trips difficult for us is the baby’s needs. We never lie about our number, but we don’t offer it either. I don’t know the laws; I’d guess they’re particular to each state. (?)
When there are only two double beds, we lay the children horizontal on the bed and put chairs at the edge for those whose feet go over. (Does that make sense?)
I emailed you the link privately, as the farm is not publicly for sale, and I wouldn’t want to put the info out without their permission.
Yes, we did that too. Glad to hear from all our ARP friends; it’s a small world.
Comment by Amy Scott (June 12, 2007 @ 2:03 pm )
Let’s see…pregnant lady, no room at the inn…where have I heard that story before?
Seriously…Greg is amazing. I cannot imagine anyone being that cool under that kind of pressure.
Comment by Valerie (Kyriosity) (June 12, 2007 @ 2:36 pm )
Amy,
You are absolutely hysterical, especially the line about Clark Griswold. Your blog is my comic relief. I loved the post about Dairy Queen and McDonald’s. My husband and I were cracking up b/c we have learned that lesson too!
Also, we have Blokus and enjoy it, but we found one we like even better, called “Ingenious”. It’s along the lines of Blokus, but a little different. You’ll have to check it out:)
Comment by Julie (June 12, 2007 @ 3:27 pm )
Amy,
Great to hear of your travels. Would love to hear more about your denomination, have you any links? I’m from Northern Ireland and I don’t believe we have that denomination here though we have many Reformed Presbyterians of which we have some links (we’re Reformed Baptists). We had some special meetings this past week and our visiting Pastor was from South Carolina, small world.
Regards
Mummymac
Comment by Mummymac (June 12, 2007 @ 3:42 pm )
Mummymac,
Here is a link to the ARP. It is a very small denomination, one I hadn’t heard of before our own church.
Comment by Amy Scott (June 12, 2007 @ 3:58 pm )
Oh wow! I’ve been reading your blog for months– we have just joined an ARP church this February and had never heard of it before our little neighborhood church. I’ve wanted to visit Bonclarken–Maybe next year we can go to Bonclarken for the church’s Family Retreat but this year we’ve planned another trip.
Hearing about your adventures is heartening– I still want a big family (we’ve just begun…) What a generous pastor!
Random ARP question: does your church put flowers in the sanctuary? Is this a Presbyterian thing to not have them (hubby and I grew up Methodist)? It’s a family issue at the moment (the fact that our church doesn’t have flowers anywhere). Weird question, I know, but where I grew up every church had flowers you could designate in memory or in honor or someone. That issue and the fact that our son is getting baptized (and not “christened”) is really stirring up our extended family phone lines at the moment.
Thanks for all your stories!
Comment by Allison (June 12, 2007 @ 4:29 pm )
Somehow the song from National Lampoon’s vacation was running through my head today.
Comment by Tina (June 12, 2007 @ 8:33 pm )
when’s this next trip up this way?
or do we have to visit Florida?
I think I would have totally lost it in the parking lot with no room in the inn. Things like never. going. anywhere. again.
My very own Bleak House dvd came today!!! Ya know what I’m doing tonight! lol
Comment by Lyn (June 12, 2007 @ 9:24 pm )
I can’t handle things like this very well although my hubby has a cool head on his shoulders! You would have found me crying and wanting to go home.
We have some mutual friends so I feel like I know you a little. We’re at a CREC church in Bristol, TN. Love reading your posts as they are very applicable, thoughtful, and “real”.
Comment by Sonya (June 13, 2007 @ 10:50 am )
Amy, I’ve been enjoying your blog for a while now. Imagine my surprise to find out you go to an ARP church. I grew up ARP, and in fact, my dad was there last week at General Assembly. He’s the moderator of Synod this year. We weren’t able to be there, but I’ve heard all about it!
Comment by Beth Cooper (June 13, 2007 @ 7:35 pm )
Beth,
Your dad could have been my dad, sort of. Your dad and mine went to High School together in Collingswood. Your dad dated my mother a few times when my dad was away in the Coast Guard. My dad says your dad tried to steal his girl, but I think he has gotten over it in the last 55 years or so.
Your dad has a great story about my grandfather, who was traveling for Covenant Seminary, seeing him singing in church in Alabama. You have to ask him about it.
It was great to meet your dad. He seems like a really great man. We were all introduced to the rest of your family during the proceedings - sorry you couldn’t be there.
Comment by Greg (June 13, 2007 @ 9:45 pm )
BTW - this is Greg - Amy’s husband.
Comment by Greg (June 13, 2007 @ 9:46 pm )
Sonja, Who are our friends?
Yes, our church does this. I don’t think it’s some doctrinal thing; probably more of a case that nobody has undertaken the cause.
On the otherhand, this is very much a doctrinal thing…
Comment by Amy Scott (June 14, 2007 @ 10:30 am )
Can’t believe I’m just now catching up on the blog and missed out on your trip info until now! And, to think if you knew me well enough and had my cell #, I could have had a million friends and family hook you all up in Greenville, SC which they could have been to you and had you tucked in beds probably before the hotel situation was ironed out.
Oh well. See, you oughta’ know me better. - haha. Hindsight is 20-20. (Oh yeah, there’s also an apt complex that I could have put in a call to for the guest suite there too just up the road from Flat Rock within 20min more drive, but maybe that’s just rubbing some salt in the wound? Just kiddin’ with you!)
Anyway, what did you guys think of the Flat Rock area? I think I’d settle for you moving near there. It’s not too far from me.
Comment by Alison (June 14, 2007 @ 10:58 pm )
Alison, We really liked Flat Rock. The weather is perfect there. I’ll have to touch base with you before our next trip.
Comment by Amy Scott (June 15, 2007 @ 11:17 am )
There is an ARP church “just across the river” (Mississippi) from us that we would like to visit, but by the time we find the right ferry and so on, it will take two hours to get there! As the crow flies, it is probably only 45 minutes or so. The next closest one is in AL! (We are in IL.) You are right when you say that it is a small denomination.
Comment by Another Heather (June 15, 2007 @ 12:58 pm )
i live near columbia sc and would LOVE to know where the farm is for beef and raw milk…i get my raw milk from a dairy in Saluda SC but would love to get beef as well…do you mind emailing it to me?
Comment by Aimee (July 3, 2007 @ 3:17 pm )