Comments on: “Honey, I think it’s just a woman thing.” http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/ Family life commentary by Amy Scott. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:17:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Mrs. P. http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70609 Mrs. P. Tue, 31 Jul 2007 20:31:41 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70609 I must say that my husband and I had agreed right off the bat that, had we decided to have children, he would have, during labour, remained in the hallway until someone came to get him. Same for any other male of the species. I don't apologise for that. Women. ONLY. I must say that my husband and I had agreed right off the bat that, had we decided to have children, he would have, during labour, remained in the hallway until someone came to get him. Same for any other male of the species. I don’t apologise for that. Women. ONLY.

]]> By: whimsy http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70606 whimsy Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:41:02 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70606 My DH puts it this way "wouldn't this be better for one of your sisters to handle?" Birth is not the only thing that falls into this category. :-) My DH puts it this way “wouldn’t this be better for one of your sisters to handle?”

Birth is not the only thing that falls into this category. :-)

]]> By: Janet http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70478 Janet Sat, 28 Jul 2007 16:59:56 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70478 Great post as always, Amy. I can totally relate. I remember when I delivered my fourth (our first boy!) my OB wasn't available and some doctor I had never seen before came in and sat at the end of my bed, watching my private parts. Hate is not too strong a word for what I was feeling. Imagine how I felt when HE was the one who ended up delivering my 10 1/2 pound, 3 week overdue daughter, after telling me my dates were wrong and she wasn't going to be more than 6 pounds. I comfort myself knowing that he is probably dead and gone by now, and in the LORD's hands! I can also relate to the other comments regarding frivolity in the room. NOBODY is allowed to have fun when I am in labour. With my 11th delivery (the best!) my friend just happened to be there so I let her come in. That was fine, but then she and my dh were chatting and joking about something, and I said through gritted teeth, "DON'T LAUGH!" Of course, that made them both laugh. But I didn't like it. :) Blessings, Janet Great post as always, Amy. I can totally relate. I remember when I delivered my fourth (our first boy!) my OB wasn’t available and some doctor I had never seen before came in and sat at the end of my bed, watching my private parts. Hate is not too strong a word for what I was feeling. Imagine how I felt when HE was the one who ended up delivering my 10 1/2 pound, 3 week overdue daughter, after telling me my dates were wrong and she wasn’t going to be more than 6 pounds. I comfort myself knowing that he is probably dead and gone by now, and in the LORD’s hands!

I can also relate to the other comments regarding frivolity in the room. NOBODY is allowed to have fun when I am in labour. With my 11th delivery (the best!) my friend just happened to be there so I let her come in. That was fine, but then she and my dh were chatting and joking about something, and I said through gritted teeth, “DON’T LAUGH!” Of course, that made them both laugh.

But I didn’t like it. :)

Blessings,
Janet

]]> By: Stephanie http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70449 Stephanie Fri, 27 Jul 2007 19:52:31 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70449 My husband also has other "strengths." I think that's why he's done with us birthing babies - just doesn't want to go through the delivery again. Ha! He's got the easy job! My husband also has other “strengths.” I think that’s why he’s done with us birthing babies - just doesn’t want to go through the delivery again. Ha! He’s got the easy job!

]]> By: Christine http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70446 Christine Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:43:34 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70446 In my first and second births (in the hospital), I certainly had my fair share of extra people in the room. I was so elated to decide exactly who could attend my third birth (homebirth). It was just Hubby, my midwife, my doula, and I. Cervixes tend to open best when there is no fear over who is in the room. I have found no better atmosphere for birthing, than at home. Since having my first homebirth, two weeks ago, I am completely sold on this wonderful method. Blessings! In my first and second births (in the hospital), I certainly had my fair share of extra people in the room. I was so elated to decide exactly who could attend my third birth (homebirth). It was just Hubby, my midwife, my doula, and I. Cervixes tend to open best when there is no fear over who is in the room. I have found no better atmosphere for birthing, than at home. Since having my first homebirth, two weeks ago, I am completely sold on this wonderful method. Blessings!

]]> By: Elizabeth http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70444 Elizabeth Fri, 27 Jul 2007 18:06:14 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70444 After our first birth, we had a nursing student who HAD A COLD and then DROPPED OUR BABY!! Thankfully, my baby girl was just a few inches above her hospital crib and when the SICK NURSING STUDENT DROPPED HER, she only slipped/fell back into the crib. I was FURIOUS! We made it clear that student was never to enter our room again. Period. After our first birth, we had a nursing student who HAD A COLD and then DROPPED OUR BABY!! Thankfully, my baby girl was just a few inches above her hospital crib and when the SICK NURSING STUDENT DROPPED HER, she only slipped/fell back into the crib.

I was FURIOUS! We made it clear that student was never to enter our room again. Period.

]]> By: Amy http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70441 Amy Fri, 27 Jul 2007 17:35:38 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70441 Three words: Doula for backup. Even though my second birth went fast, and she didn't have much time to do much, I was so glad she was there, helping us, focused only on us. My birth story is at my blog: http://sonshinecottage.blogspot.com Three words: Doula for backup.

Even though my second birth went fast, and she didn’t have much time to do much, I was so glad she was there, helping us, focused only on us.

My birth story is at my blog:
http://sonshinecottage.blogspot.com

]]> By: Amanda http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70436 Amanda Fri, 27 Jul 2007 14:49:34 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70436 Hmmm.....when I delivered my twins - 11 years ago today! - I have no idea how many people were in the room. They just kept coming in, gowned up, not sure if they were all female or not! Well, I KNOW the doctor was a male. Hmmm…..when I delivered my twins - 11 years ago today! - I have no idea how many people were in the room. They just kept coming in, gowned up, not sure if they were all female or not! Well, I KNOW the doctor was a male.

]]> By: Tammy http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70434 Tammy Fri, 27 Jul 2007 14:36:49 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70434 Our daughter was born at a military hospital-Air Force to be exact.We didn't get too much say about the labor and delivery.We had many people in the room.We even had a doctor come in and his only job was to stand against the wall and watch.If there had been a problem this doctor would have taken over-reason being our doctor was a second year resident. When we had our son 3.5 years later it was nice to have the nurse,doctor who came just in time to "catch" the baby and my husband.A nicer experience! Our daughter was born at a military hospital-Air Force to be exact.We didn’t get too much say about the labor and delivery.We had many people in the room.We even had a doctor come in and his only job was to stand against the wall and watch.If there had been a problem this doctor would have taken over-reason being our doctor was a second year resident.

When we had our son 3.5 years later it was nice to have the nurse,doctor who came just in time to “catch” the baby and my husband.A nicer experience!

]]> By: Mrs. H http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70431 Mrs. H Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:36:23 +0000 http://humblemusings.com/archives/2007/07/26/%e2%80%9choney-i-think-it%e2%80%99s-just-a-woman-thing%e2%80%9d/#comment-70431 I actually stalled in labor with my 3rd because a male doctor showed up for the delivery...my female ob was off that day. It took pitocin and breaking my water to get me going again, and I truly believe it was because I didn't want to deliver with a male Dr. As for my dh, his job is to 'run and fetch' during labor...ice chips, blankets, a nurse, the Dr....whatever I need. I like to labor alone in a quiet, darkened room, so dh just sits quietly in the corner unless I need something. When it's time to deliver, his place is behind the head of the bed, holding my hands, head down, praying the whole time, lol. He doesn't want to watch, catch, cut, or anything like that. However, as soon as the baby's born, he's underneath the Dr. and nurses, checking out the baby and grinning, telling me weights and lenghts, and trying to find the camera. He's actually exactly what I need, and he doesn't add to the drama by being overly excited or jumpy when I need quiet to concentrate. I actually stalled in labor with my 3rd because a male doctor showed up for the delivery…my female ob was off that day. It took pitocin and breaking my water to get me going again, and I truly believe it was because I didn’t want to deliver with a male Dr.

As for my dh, his job is to ‘run and fetch’ during labor…ice chips, blankets, a nurse, the Dr….whatever I need. I like to labor alone in a quiet, darkened room, so dh just sits quietly in the corner unless I need something. When it’s time to deliver, his place is behind the head of the bed, holding my hands, head down, praying the whole time, lol. He doesn’t want to watch, catch, cut, or anything like that. However, as soon as the baby’s born, he’s underneath the Dr. and nurses, checking out the baby and grinning, telling me weights and lenghts, and trying to find the camera. He’s actually exactly what I need, and he doesn’t add to the drama by being overly excited or jumpy when I need quiet to concentrate.

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