On a more serious note
Tuesday, Sep 11, 2007
For years now, I’ve called my grandmother weekly. We have this ritual, and it goes something like this: “Hi Granny.” “Oh, hi, Honey. My knees are really aching me. It’s going to rain, you know.” It’s always about to rain, even when it’s not. Then, she’ll tell me about her back, her neck, her heart, and all the other aches and pains her 81-year-old body is enduring.
I don’t mind, as I imagine that I’ll probably moan worse later on about my aches and pains. My husband would tell you I’m very bad about it already. Yesterday, though, it occurred to me that for the first time, my own list of pains was quite longer than an old lady’s list. After she finished with her ailments (but before she went into her speech about what’s wrong with this country and how Hitler once had all the answers), I mentally noted my own long list: nausea, back pain, acid reflux, sleep deprivation, various cold symptoms, and general feeling of wanting to jump out of my skin. I didn’t mention it aloud, of course.
My husband has been reading selections to me in the evenings from Piper’s Life as a Vapor. After he reads, he’ll tell me that I shouldn’t despair about my uncomfortable state, and then I’ll say, “Easy for you to say when you’re not the one throwing up.” But then I’ll concede that the point he just read is valid. We are made for God’s glory, and we are here for only a short while.
Life is a vapor, and I’m reminded of this at every turn. Our friend, a young mother, was taken to eternity recently without warning. We expected death later, and we were shocked when it encroached on us earlier. Holly wrote yesterday about visiting the graves of infant children, and I was reminded of a similar experience and reaction. When we visited an old graveyard last summer, I noted to Greg the remarkable number of children and infants who slept there. It is not that way anymore; newborn, infant, and childhood death is a rarity. But how do we repay God for His sparing us modern folks this once common heartbreak? Often, with immature theology and no respect for His omniscience.
This two-minute video sums it up nicely:
The message of the tiny book, Life As a Vapor, I think, is that since our time is short, we ought to live (and suffer) in such a way that makes Christ look great. Since we are His and He is ours, our satisfaction in Him (which includes the tiniest details of how He orders things, including our troubles) brings Him the most glory. The heavens declare His glory and we ought to too. It’s what we were made for.
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You know, my aim is to always be the first commenter here.
Funny how it always happens.
It’s hard to keep things in perspective when you are feeling poorly, Amy. I sympathize. But I think you need to keep conceding with your husband.
Praying for you–really!!
Comment by Andrea (September 11, 2007 @ 3:51 pm )
Andrea,
You must have a super-charged feed reader, as it’s not even appearing on my own Bloglines yet. Or maybe it’s you and Greg that are worth a few hundred hits a day?
Greg says that he’s gotta make sure I’m not a heretic, and then other times, he says that he doesn’t read that soap opera smut. I know he’s good for a few hits each day though. 
Comment by Amy Scott (September 11, 2007 @ 4:07 pm )
Piper’s sermon: well, I happily admit I came to Christ b/c I didn’t want to burn in Hell.
Piper sees that as less than “spiritual” I guess. I don’t.
It was only as I came to know and love Christ better that I began to appreciate Him personally.
Comment by Elizabeth (September 11, 2007 @ 4:26 pm )
Elizabeth,
I don’t know that the danger is so much in new believers who come to Christ for less than noble reasons (though the seed is more likely to fall on rocky soil in those cases), but that the gospel is peddled in such a way by people who ought to know better. (See today’s sidebar links.)
I’ve never thought about it, really, from the one perspective, so I’m willing to consider it. Non-lordship salvation from the pulpit is really no gospel at all, on the otherhand.
Comment by Amy Scott (September 11, 2007 @ 4:35 pm )
Thank you for a reminder which I dearly needed today… I think just an hour ago I was complaining about a headache I have from lack of sleep due to a certain sweet baby boy! Now, I believe I’ll go thank the Lord for my headache (and maybe take a Motrin too!)
I’m praying for you in this last trimester - as I have all along. That sweet baby boy I referred to earlier was my most difficult pregnancy (what is it with sixth children?) and I had a lot of sickness and “woes” during those nine months. It is a joyful thing to be carrying a precious baby… but it ain’t always easy or pleasant!
Keep up the good work!!
Comment by Lady Why (September 11, 2007 @ 4:37 pm )
Some ramblings…..
I’m in awe of your ability to think “right” while feeling so lousy!
I also read Holly’s blog yesterday and was reminded of a similiar experience. While searching for an ancestor’s grave, I came across one family that had lost 6 babies. That heartache is almost unimaginable. We are very blessed today.
And as for those night noises……I wonder if there will be coyotes in KY? I have woke up in the night many times sure that one of my babies was crying for me, only to realize it’s a pack of coyotes.
Praying for you….not too much longer now!
Comment by Amanda (September 11, 2007 @ 7:41 pm )
Amy, here’s hoping you feel better soon. It is hard when we’re in the middle of things to remember our purpose, but I’m pretty sure that’s why we have prayer!!
If anyone is interested in that book (I think I’m going to order it!), there are several copies on amazon under $2.50, just FYI.
Comment by Brea (September 11, 2007 @ 8:22 pm )
“Easy for you to say when you’re not the one throwing up.”
I think I just said that my husband the other day
Thanks for the reminder that I have much, much to be thankful to God for despite morning sickness!!
Comment by girlymama (September 11, 2007 @ 8:29 pm )
Amy,
Thanks for the reminder to put things in perspective. My parents both live with chronic pain and my phone calls with them are often very similar to the one you described. They are faith-filled people and yet the pain and frustrations really distract them from enjoying the day-to-day, and living life abundantly. I’ll have to check out that book, Life as a Vapor.
Hope your aches and pains are short-lived.
Comment by Kim of Kim & Jason (September 12, 2007 @ 12:36 am )
Your post hit me right between the eyes; it was exactly what I needed to read today. I often give the same reminder to my own family, but today I needed to be reminded that life is short, do God’s will and give Him the glory in everything. I was telling my husband last night that I am realizing that so many times, too many, that my eyes see my situation with worldly eyes, not from God’s perspective. I’ve got work to do on that.
Comment by Lela (September 12, 2007 @ 8:09 am )
Life is a vapor, it can last 80 yrs or only 20 some as it did with my brother and sil. Things like this literally slap you in the face. Your life takes on a whole new perspective after things of this nature happen. You realize, even though you may “know” it, that anybody can be taken at any point in their lives. God has a reason for taking these two, I may never know it, but I do take comfort in my sovereign God.
Comment by Kelly (September 12, 2007 @ 9:18 am )
I awoke to some crying off in the distance when we were up there. I pounced up and yelled for Greg (who was on the front porch on his cell phone) to help me find the baby. I thought he’d escaped his crib again and was lost. Turns out, he was soundly sleeping and I was only hearing animal noises. It was hard to settle into sleep again after that.
Comment by Amy Scott (September 12, 2007 @ 9:37 am )
Thank you for this post. We do have so much to be thankful for, and so many reasons to call him Lord of All!
Comment by Kendra (September 12, 2007 @ 11:24 am )
Good thought provoking blog!!
Comment by Tammy (September 12, 2007 @ 12:43 pm )
Yes, there are coyotes in Ky, not that we embrace them!! I loved John Piper’s comments. It breaks my heart to see new “christians” come into our church and within 6 months they can’t be found. While on a mission trip to Poland we learned that you must wait a year to be baptised and be a member of the church. They watched to see that you were truly changed. I don’t think that’s a bad idea.
Comment by Tracy from Ky (September 12, 2007 @ 3:35 pm )
Um . . . Hitler? Oh, dear.
Comment by Mrs. P. (September 12, 2007 @ 4:08 pm )
I just love John Piper, his messages always cut through my heart. Thanks for sharing this!
Comment by Anita (September 12, 2007 @ 5:39 pm )
Love your blog Amy! And I love the overall point of this post, but I have to wonder about that Hitler comment. Certainly you don’t agree with her - please clear the air on this. It’s not the kind of statement that should be left hanging on there. Thanks
Comment by Beth (September 12, 2007 @ 5:49 pm )
I agree, that shame lies on those preachers and teachers that peddle salvation like it is a coat to put on when you need it and that you can hang it in the closet when you don’t. I find my eyes being opened (as I grow in Christ) that many are not offered the reality of a relationship with Christ. Thanks for the great post Amy. Also for the reminder that our lives are vapors. When I’m frustrated with my children I remind myself that my season as a mother is short and to remember to enjoy it, but much less often do I remember that my life is but a blink of the eye to the Almighty and to live each moment for His glory.
Comment by Kelli (September 12, 2007 @ 8:13 pm )
Beth,
My grandmother was a Nazi war bride, and she thinks Hitler was a great guy. Now, we’ve argued this point up and down, but she won’t concede the Holocaust happened, etc., etc. For the record, I don’t agree.
She has strong opinions and is quite communistic. She frequently tells me that every child after my first shouldn’t have been born… yada, yada, yada. Perhaps it’s one reason the snide comments about my reproductive habits from my Christian brethren don’t bother me much.
I’ve been told much worse. I don’t believe we’ve had a conversation in the last 7-8 years wherein she didn’t bring up my childbearing and its evils.
My side of the family makes for a very good Jerry Springer episode, and I do believe it is the Lord’s way of keeping me from a Christian “too good for you” bubble.
Comment by Amy Scott (September 12, 2007 @ 9:07 pm )
Hey Amy,
I, too, was bugged by the Hitler mention because I love the Jewish culture (my grandmother was Jewish as well as my husband). Though I’m a Christian and I know that Jesus is the Messiah, my roots are decidedly Jewish (anyone care for latkes?). The Holocaust was all too real, despite what your grandma says.
However, whacked out family members is something to which I can relate. My sis, bro and I have a very macabre sense of humor that we attribute to the family dynamics that existed in our home, the home of a pastor, no less. You know the saying, “I could write a book”? Well, I really might. I already have a working title. It is a story of triumph and victory in spite of the horrendous home in which we grew up. My only hesitation is that I don’t want to hurt anyone during “my catharsis” and I really do want it to bring glory to God. I’d love it even more if it became a best seller!
Let me weigh in on the “Memory Work” post that I just read. I still have two kids at home with whom I have a 10-15 minute time of devotions in the AM before they leave for school. We have always memorized passages. On Monday, we go over the passage for the week and I have them write it (ideally) the first couple of days. Additionally, I read either a missionary story or some other book (e.g., The Hidden Smile of God by Piper), we pray and they’re off to school. On Friday, the passage is recited, we have prayer and praise (sometimes their participation leaves me wanting, and even though I attribute their lack of participating to their depravity, in truth, it’s that they’re just waking up and it’s hard for them to think about anything) and we’re done. My b’day was in August and we have a tradition of telling each other what we appreciate about them. As the kids have married, gone to college and moved, it’s harder to get together, so everyone emails me and I cut and paste and disseminate it. SO, what am I trying to say? Just this–my adult son (who married in May), wrote that he still remembers passages that we learned together. That is a great reminder and encouragement for me to continue getting the kids up and spending time together with God in the morning (no matter how much I resist it at times) as I’ve been doing with kids for the last 28 years or so.
So, come tomorrow, when your kids are shouting Psalm 100, think about how marvelous it will be in 15 years when they tell you that they still remember it from when you taught it to them. They may say it sans the shouting, but they’ll still say it. And, for that, you’ll be eternally grateful.
Cathy
Comment by Cathy (September 12, 2007 @ 11:49 pm )
Can someone explain to me why the Hitler comment was offensive?
Comment by Amy Scott (September 13, 2007 @ 7:53 am )
Amy, we have a friend who says Jerry Springer could do a month long marathon on his wife’s family. I don’t think he is too far off.
Back to a more serious note (yes, pun intended) this post was excellent.
Comment by Rhonda (September 13, 2007 @ 8:05 am )
The Hitler comment was offensive because you made it sound like Grandma’s opinions were just harmless “old lady talk.” If you had gone on to say that you completely disagree with her and that you’ve asked her to please stop talking about him—then it would be different.
However, you left it hanging with no clarification or firm rebuttal on your part.
By making light of Grandma’s opinions on Hitler, you made it sound like you were making light of the Holocaust.
Personally, if my Grandma EVER talked about Hitler like that and continued to do so despite my requests–she would be getting a lot fewer phone calls from me.
Comment by Elizabeth (September 13, 2007 @ 9:20 am )
I have been reading your blog for a few weeks, and have really enjoyed it.
I didn’t find the hitler comment offensive.(i don’t agree with hitler at all) I took it for granted that you did not agree with your grandma, seeing as you haven’t said anything that would cause me to think otherwise. (again I have only been reading you a few weeks, and maybe you have a few very pro communist posts hidden in the archives. I guess that’s a gamble.) But I took the comment to be sort of humorous of how crazy people can be about what they are so sure is right. I also don’t think that just because she continues to say things you don’t like, you should quit talking to her. She is your grandmother, and she is old. It’s a good thing God doesn’t quit talking to us just because we say things he doesn’t like.
Comment by Jennie (September 13, 2007 @ 10:00 am )
Amen and amen
Comment by Tracy from Ky (September 13, 2007 @ 10:16 am )
I am in agreement with Elizabeth. When I read the Hitler comment, I thought that your grandma might be part of a fringe element within “Christianity” whose “theology” is anti Semitic. It wasn’t that I thought you were sympathetic to your grandma’s beliefs, but you said nothing to refute it, and for me, that was a bit troubling. You’re free to write what you want, but Hitler’s “truth” involved the slaughter of Jews (and others) and his place in history is due, in part, to those heinous acts.
Sorry that I posted my earlier comment twice. It was inadvertent. My apologies.
Comment by Cathy (September 13, 2007 @ 10:44 am )
I didn’t take any offense to your comment on Hitler. You didn’t say one word to defend any action he took.
Comment by Rhonda (September 13, 2007 @ 12:26 pm )
let’s be clear, though, that by NOT refuting evil we are silently agreeing to it.
esp. in regards to Hitler, there were many, many people who saw the smoke from the concentration camps, smelled the burning flesh, saw the boxcars full of deported Jews and turned a blind eye!
yes, sometimes we respectfully allow extremist ideas to go unchallenged b/c we don’t want to spark controversy. other times, we MUST, WE MUST speak out!
i daresay to remain silent in such situations is to be complicit in the evil itself! just because the speaker happens to be Grandma, doesn’t make it any less wrong.
furthermore, per Jennie’s comment #25–God DOES stop talking to us if what we are speaking is evil and abhorrent. what sort of theology says that God turns a blind eye to evil speech?
Comment by Elizabeth (September 13, 2007 @ 2:54 pm )
If you are truly saved He WILL speak conviction to your heart
Comment by Tracy from Ky (September 13, 2007 @ 4:34 pm )
Elizabeth,
OK, I’ll take the bait.
One major problem with your problem here…I’ve only went over the Holocaust-really-did-happen and Hitler is burning in Hell (assuming he didn’t repent) conversation about one gabillion times with my grandmother. Moving on.
As for my pointing out its obvious evil here, I figure the readers here already know that it was bad, bad, bad. I’ll need to amend every single post where I mention any evil without supposedly refuting it. One could never just say “the devil” without couching it in “now he’s a really, really bad dude and I don’t agree with him or anything…” Come on.
Now, I’m torn. There is a part of me that is loathe to make any offense except the cross, but there is another part of me that doesn’t understand the offense in the first place.
I’ve been tapping out my worldview for a few years here in cyberspace, and I can’t imagine that I’d have to offer a caveat that reads, “No, folks, I don’t agree with her. Hitler was bad, bad, bad. Murdering people is wrong.”
But to another issue: why I continue to talk to a zero-population communist Nazi when she is the antithesis of everything I believe in. The reason is this—because being self-righteous isn’t the same as being holy. My holiness is not at stake or hampered in any way with our dialogue. I could storm off in a huff of pseudo-holiness at all this offensive talk, but for what?
She is a sinner who rejects the grace of God. She’s consistent. Not only is she anti-Semitic, she’s anti-large family, which equals any child after the first making it very personal with my children around me. With a weak heart and smoking several packs a day, she’s here on borrowed time. As far as I’m aware, I’m the only person in her life who urges her to get things right before she dies. She’s always saying, “This is my last Christmas. I’m going to die,” but by God who is giving her time to repent, she doesn’t die.
I can think of few things that are considered universally bad anymore. Being anti-Semitic (unless you’re an Arab) is one of those. But what’s with the outrage and knee-jerk reaction? She already knows my position–we need to rehash it at every nuance (which again, I’ve already gone that route)? In the end, failing to repent is the ultimate sin, the ultimate offense.
You sit next to people at work, on airplanes, and in the doctor’s office who think nothing of abortion. They are under the illogical notion that their rights supersede another’s rights simply because they are stronger. And they will reap what they’ve sown when they are in their old age and no longer the strongest. What about them? Are you “turning a blind eye” because you don’t speak out when they pop their birth control or morning after pill while you’re sitting there?
[I hope God is merciful for all the times I've spoken and shouldn't have, and conversely, remained silent when I should have spoken. This is being led by the Spirit and something difficult to wrestle with in a blog comment. For these things, I repent and hope to do better.]
In contrast, what about the folks who commit adultery and cheat on their taxes yet still refer to themselves as “Christian”? These are the folks that we ought to ostracize, as the Bible tells us to reject this group of people (fornicating people who wear WWJD bracelets) while embracing the other (Holocaust deniers).
How about a third angle? What if in a moment of postmodern insanity, I sit and stew because you didn’t assume the best of me? I mean, shouldn’t I be offended that you were offended? Why didn’t you assume that I had the best intentions in making the innocuous remark? For the record, I’m just incredulous. I have two words, “Say what?!”
Let us all put our offense where it properly lies—with sin and with those who mock the grace of God by continuing in it after tasting the heavenly gift. You won’t offend me with cursing, smoking, drinking, fornicating diatribes…so long as you don’t claim Christ as well.
Comment by Amy Scott (September 13, 2007 @ 9:20 pm )
Amy,
I was going to respond earlier, but I have this tendency to go on and on (just ask my kids) and didn’t want to be a big blow hard.
I think you were offended, but you asked an honest question with regard to why some of your readers were “offended” by your Hitler mention, and you were given honest answers. I wasn’t “offended,” but I was taken aback by it. Of course, my Jewish background MIGHT have come into play.
There is a brouhaha in the news right now over Kathy Griffin (a “comedian” who isn’t funny) because she said some pretty unsavory things about Christ. A representative of the Catholic church has taken issue with what she said as have some Christians. Yeah, it was extremely offensive, not to mention sacrireligious. However, we shouldn’t be surprised. She doesn’t know Christ and that’s how she is “supposed” to act. I don’t get up in arms over issues like that. Why would Christians expect that the unbelieving world should have a Christian world view or mind set?
To me, this was different. We’re believers. Since there was a perceived issue, then you were asked to clarify it. If you put yourself out there and there are folks (like me) who may misunderstand, don’t you want to explain yourself? It isn’t that I wasn’t giving you the benefit of the doubt (in fairness, I haven’t been reading you that long), I was merely honestly answering your question.
Cathy
PS I also think you should keep the lines of communication open with your grandma since the Gospel is the ONLY thing that will change her heart.
Comment by Cathy (September 13, 2007 @ 10:01 pm )
Amen, Amy! At least I believe I am getting what you’re saying. Plus, I am not clear on how others are reading so much into what you haven’t said. You’re ruffling feathers over here like you’re an old pro today. Perhaps the boys at Pyro ought to let you post a guest blog spot one of these days since they’re the ones typically getting this sort of heat.
Comment by Alison (September 13, 2007 @ 10:04 pm )
HI Amy, Beth again from comment # 18. I am sorry to hear your side of the family is so dysfunctional. I didn’t mean to imply for a minute that I thought you supported Hitler or anything like that, it’s just that you so seldom see things today saying someone, ANYONE, agrees with Hitler, that the sentence stopped me cold. I think Elizabeth summed it up pretty well when she said you made it sound like Grandma’s opinions were just harmless “old lady talk.” I know that wasn’t your intention though and it wasn’t at all the point of the post.
By the way, before I became a fan of your blog, I was one of those people who would meet a large family and make some comment like “gee, don’t you know what causes that?” I will never do that again. You have convinced me that a large family can be a blessing and I should just smile at them and mind my own business.
Keep up the good work, Beth
Comment by Beth (September 13, 2007 @ 10:46 pm )
Amy:
First, you will note that I made no reference to your Hitler remark in my first comment (comment #3.) That’s because I DID assume the best about you.
However, when you asked for someone to clarify WHY the remark was offensive, I gave you my best and most honest answer as to how your remark may have been perceived. I was not “baiting” you. I’m sorry you took it that way.
Secondly, I can respect your decision to continue speaking with your Grandma. Good for you and may God bless you for it. I would probably do otherwise, but then again, we both know I’m not as holy as you!
As to whether I rebuke complete strangers? Not usually, unless their behavior is blatantly morally repugnant. I don’t think this makes my a hypocrite, just prudent. At least, I like to think so.
That said, I HAVE made bold and public stands against abortion and gay marriage, for example. One of these was published in a major media publication.
I hope your incredulity has abated somewhat since we are, by most measures, in agreement.
Thinking only the best,
Elizabeth
Comment by Elizabeth (September 13, 2007 @ 11:11 pm )
Hmm. I don’t understand why feathers are ruffled, either.
Amy, you are showing great grace and love to continue a relationship with your Grandma. I understand that. I relate to the family comments. I live that. It is God working thru you.
It is the Grandma you know, and have only known. You have buffeted offense from her often, it seems, and gone on to love her as Christ loves her.
That doesn’t excuse her thoughts, of course not. Nor does it excuse those who think racism is okay, or adultery, or fornication. Yet, as you say, do we need to jump on every person we know or meet who does these things? Every time? When the conversation has already been had, many times?
What about the friend who has had an abortion and has not repented? Do we continue to bring it up? I mean - what else could possibly be on par with Hitler? Abortion has killed many many more innocent souls than Hitler did.
And clearly, for the record, I must unequivocally state: I am against Hitler. He was evil. He was a horrid man. Those who followed him bought into an evil plan.
Comment by Holly (September 13, 2007 @ 11:59 pm )
Your Hitler comment did not personally offend me, but I was surprised by it. My first thought was to make light of such an evil man is sure to offend anyone from Jewish descent. I am a bit sensitive to such issues as I have an adopted black son. I also have a racist family. Such comments are occasionally made about the KKK. I have had to communicate to grandparents and others that if those comments are continued in my families presence, than we will have no choice but to limit our exposure to them. I will not have my adopted son offended in such a way by his own family nor do I want my biological children exposed to such sin and to get the impression that it is acceptable. We do come in contact daily with non believers. We do not have a rule which states our children may never associate with them. But, we also do not allow them to be influenced by those who refuse to acknowledge their sin. We have a neighbor with children the same age as ours. They are going through a divorce. Their children are unsupervised and I have seen many inappropriate things happen in this home. The children are allowed to watch R rated movies and violent and sexual video games. They are 6 and 9. Do you think I allow my children to play in their home? NO!! Sin is sin and I will not allow my children to be influenced by those who refuse to temper their behavior in my children’s presence. Do I think you should cut contact with your grandmother? No. But I would be careful with your children to make sure they realize prejudice is a horrible sin. I would also be sure that your grandmother knows you find it unacceptable in the presence of your children. (If you do.)I do not know you, but assume from your writings that you do not take such things lightly. I just wanted to add my two cents worth from someone who has had to deal with similar things.
Comment by Julie (September 14, 2007 @ 9:37 am )
Bravo, Amy. I don’t think you need to justify anything you’ve said.
I have a precious Granddad who is 93 years old, has Alzheimer’s and is in the nursing home. He is a WWII veteran and true patriot, and while he despises Hitler, he also has always had many unkind things to say about Germans, Japanese and Italians (because of the war). We “kids” (I’m 32!) were raised in the era of emerging political correctness, and were always shocked at his remarks. Yes, we would point out how his prejudice was wrong (as effective as beating a dead horse). However, we never stopped visiting him or loving him because of this. In fact, the thought never even occured to us that we should cut off communication with him because he wasn’t “PC”.
As an emergency room doctor, I encounter ALL KINDS of people, some that have beliefs so different to mine that I can’t believe we’re on the same planet. Yet, it is my job as a doctor and my duty as a Christian to be compassionate anyway. I certainly think I would owe my own Granddad the same compassion.
Anyway, I can’t believe the tangent that the comments have taken. I can only shake my head in wonder.
Comment by Valerie (September 14, 2007 @ 12:56 pm )
Another thing. Elizabeth, I couldn’t help but notice on your blog that you do not homeschool. I wonder what your children are hearing at school. Probably a lot worse stuff than anything they would hear at Grandma’s house.
And on a lighter note, I have a grandmother who tells me that my backside is as broad as hers (she has told me this ever since I was a size six and she was a size sixteen). I still visit her too.
Comment by Valerie (September 14, 2007 @ 4:26 pm )
Dear Amy,
I didn’t for one minute think you agreed with your grandmother about Hitler. I guess in my extended family and my husband’s extended family we have enough crazy people who will say just about anything that I just took for granted that is what you were talking about!
And of course you know that only God can change your grandma’s heart–or any of our hearts, for that matter! I’m thankful that He has the same grace for me in all my shortcomings as you do for your grandmother!
Comment by Beth (September 14, 2007 @ 7:01 pm )
And I have thought about those who are missionaries to foreign lands. What about them? They surely aren’t able to shelter their children from the negatives of the indigenous people groups.
Comment by Holly (September 14, 2007 @ 10:00 pm )
I, for one, am completely offended by Valerie’s grandmother’s “backside” comment. That would be the end of the line for Dear Old Grandmama if it were up to me! “Turn the other cheek” my right eye!
Comment by Smockity Frocks (September 15, 2007 @ 10:52 am )
Having at least one bizarre relative is a requirement for Southerners. As a native southerner I just assumed all families had a least one person who has wheels turning in spite of a dead hamster. Perhaps this is just another cultural difference.
Comment by CR (September 15, 2007 @ 10:34 pm )
My dad has Archie Bunker tendencies - I understand.
Comment by sara (September 16, 2007 @ 4:27 pm )
CR, I completely agree with your comment (#43) about the relative requirement for Southerners. However, I didn’t think it was just one … I thought you had to have at least 1/3 of all your relatives. Maybe it’s just my family …
And Smockity Frocks … HA!! Too funny!
Comment by Brea (September 17, 2007 @ 3:52 pm )
Thanks for posting this, Amy. I needed to hear this. I have had a rough pregnancy and am so tempted to complain all the time. I need to remember that I should be suffering in a Christlike way, even if I, too, feel like I want to jump out of my own skin due to discomfort. So thanks…I’ll be pondering what that looks like over the next few weeks, I’m sure.
Comment by Kathleen (September 17, 2007 @ 11:54 pm )
You know, I take my kids to a Jewish doctor and I misunderstood him recently when he said something about taking the kid in question to “Christian Hospital.” I didn’t catch all he said and I was confused as to what my being a Christian had to do with my child’s ear tube surgery. He laughed and told me not to be so sensitive about my religion. I laughed too because I wasn’t being sensitive, just deaf, I guess. Can we please remove our sensitivities from our sleeves and move on, please? We are in danger of making Amy second guess everything she writes. I for one enjoy reading what she writes and if we ever disagree or a comment gives me pause, (I can’t really remember this happening) I just chalk it up to the limitations of web chat and go on. Yikes!
Comment by Another Heather (September 18, 2007 @ 12:17 pm )
I think every time I take a minute to respond to comments, I always say, “Sorry for taking so long…blah, blah, blah.” But, er, sorry for taking so long!
Now, yes, for every 10 posts I hit “publish” for, there are a few that stay on my desktop. Not because I don’t stand by them, but because my internet time is so limited that I don’t think I could moderate them well enough. Usually I just let published posts stand as they are, and so the marginal ones are left unsaid. (which is probably best)
I can’t let this one slip by without saying “Thank you, Beth!” I try to walk the fine line of truly believing that every one of the children He has sent us is a gift, while acknowledging that I don’t always have it all together and that raising a small passle of them is difficult at times, especially when you are somewhat “chronically ill” as I have been these months.
Yes, and I did that in comment #20. As for going on and on about it, my next comment was addressed to Elizabeth, not the people who asked me to clarify. Hope that clears things up!
Comment by Amy Scott (September 18, 2007 @ 1:13 pm )