Baby journal: Entry #1
Friday, Nov 9, 2007
I will try to make this as interesting as possible. Since the due date has come and gone, I am nothing more than a watched pot waiting to boil. But watching water boil isn’t very exciting.
The problem with a lot of pregnant women (and brides-to-be, if I’m allowed to say so) is that they are entirely myopic. The whole world is spinning but they’re oblivious. So, I just want to beg for forgiveness. I know it’s your birthday, I know that your computer broke, and I know that bugs are eating your lawn. But ….I’M HAVING A BABY!
Or at least I thought so.
I woke up in the early hours of my due date yesterday with a huge baby shift. Finally, maybe Baby got out of that posterior position. Good thinking there, kiddo. Contractions began in earnest first thing in the morning about 7 – 10 minutes apart. Understanding how these things work and knowing that I’ve had only about four weeks of this same prodromal drama, I decided that today was different because the calendar said so. I stayed in bed with my bucket and Greg stayed home from work.
Lying in bed all day, I was storing up my energy for the big event that was surely coming any minute now. But when my friend, Tracey, offered to bring over a Toffeenut Mudslide Frappachino, I decided that maybe getting out of bed was a good idea after all. I sipped my caffeine infusion over contractions and enjoyed the nice buzz afterward. When she left, I told Greg, “NOW, I’m so ready.”
He ordered a babysitter, and Kristen came over around 5:00 p.m. We drove to an Indian restaurant next to the hospital, bringing our bags because contractions were now about 4 – 7 minutes apart. During dinner, they shifted to 3 minutes apart and I was unable to talk through them—a great dinner date. Things were crankin’ and I was getting uncomfortable. Not so uncomfortable that I didn’t finish my Chicken Tikka Masala, nan, and veggie pekoras. (I have priorities, and I know that people languish in starvation in the hospital.) I’ve heard stories about eggplant and labor, so I didn’t share any of the eggplant pekoras with Greg. No way.
So we decide to walk around the hospital fountain, just to get things going really good and just because it was right there. I was still making jokes, and that’s not a good sign, yet the contractions were still strong and hard. In order for me to be in a strong labor pattern, I have to be concentrating, really annoyed, and pseudo-cussing. When our path brought us around to the entrance, I waited for my water to break so it could be like the movies, but nothing happened. And I mean nothing. Everything SCREEECHED to a halt and we got back in the van and went home.
Sometimes I wish my life could be like the movies.
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I’m sorry. That just stinks. Not even Indian food can make up for the disappointment.
Comment by Melissa (November 9, 2007 @ 2:15 pm )
Oh, Amy… I’m so sorry. Been there, done that, sooooo not fun (only the whole family drove up since we were “in labor” - only to turn around and drive 2 hours back home). All in His time; but yes, I know, you wish His time was yours right now, don’t you? Praying for you and your little one, whenever he/she decides to finally grace you with their presence.
Comment by Laura (November 9, 2007 @ 2:28 pm )
Oh, I have felt your pain. My last month with my last baby was just like that. After 10 or more hours of contractions, I’d think, “Hey, this is really going to go somewhere,” only to have them suddenly stop. I have finally learned about myself after 4 pregnancies that it just isn’t serious until my water breaks. Nothing I did made any difference- it just made me miserable when they stopped and all I had to show for them was fatigue.
I’m keeping you in my prayers. It can’t be much longer. I’m looking forward to reading about a really wonderful birth experience.
Comment by Laura (November 9, 2007 @ 2:35 pm )
(hugs) I feel your pain, well, not really at this time, but I have btdt. Praying for you and your little one, that you WILL meet soon!
Comment by Rebekah (November 9, 2007 @ 2:49 pm )
Rats! I was hoping that jolt would really gets things happening. Maybe a DQ blizzard today?
Comment by Tracey (November 9, 2007 @ 2:49 pm )
Sorry labor is moving so slow. Hope all goes smooth and quick. My labor broke like the movies, it’s not that great.
Comment by Chelsea (November 9, 2007 @ 2:53 pm )
ohhhhhhhhh…..so sad!!!! So sorry!!!! I kind of laughed at the end b/c our bradley instructor always told us that baby’s know when you get to the hospital….e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. STOPS. CRAZY!!! What a good friend Tracey is!!! : )
Comment by shawnda (November 9, 2007 @ 3:10 pm )
Amy, [hugs] you poor thing! With our fifth (my last) we also did a first-time mom thing, driving to the hospital to have the baby only to have the nurse find me in bed knitting a few hours later. We left after a few more hours after that, turning down the midwife’s offer to break my water to help kick things into real gear. But I didn’t want to risk a possible c-section, so we went home. That was the first prenancy where I was taking castor oil and blue cohosh to try inducing labor before my husband left for CA to sing in some concerts. I guess it caused a false labor similar to the real thing. My husband ended up getting out of the singing engagement and was there when I really went into labor three days later.
Our sixth is due Mar. 1st. I’m actually half-hoping that I hang on till March so this baby has its own bday month. Otherwise it will be our 3rd Feb., child, which also is fine.
Maybe Feb. 29th! That’d save on bday gifts ;-).
Comment by Molly with Two Mills (November 9, 2007 @ 3:15 pm )
You poor thing. I’ve been there…waiting up all night because I thought it was “the thing” only to fall asleep and wake up in the morning with no contractions. But a few days later I sneezed in the shower and whoa buddy! There was quite a pain. I went in for my check-up a few hours later only to discover that I was already 8 cm dilated (no contractions, nothing!)…so they gave me a few drops of pitocin and I was on my way! So…all that to say…maybe things were working and you need a little kick-start! Go on a bumpy car ride, eat some pineapple, some mexican, etc. He/she will make their entrance hopefully sooner than later!
Comment by Carmen (November 9, 2007 @ 3:15 pm )
Ah Amy, that is so funny!!! Just the idea of you sitting in a restaurant eating and walking around etc… I buried a good and very godly friend today. A brother in the Lord who has been very, very ill for nine years. Its all so sad and encouraging and joyful… God has been doing so much during the last couple of days encouraging us through it all. It’s dark now and I got into my pyjamas, wrapped a blanket around me, lit a coal fire, made coke floats for Sean (son 9) and me, and tuned into you… God is good!
Really do hope things will go well for you and your whole family.
Comment by Ruth (November 9, 2007 @ 3:24 pm )
Oh I’m so sorry… labor can be a pesky and illusive thing. But, I guess you know that already. As the eternal optimist, hopefully you are dilating away and doing the hard work of labor before labor begins!
Comment by Lady Why (November 9, 2007 @ 3:25 pm )
Hey Amy, I know you were probably more than a little disappointed going past your due date. Just hang in there. It won’t be much longer, and I’m certain you will have a fabulous birth story to tell this kid one day. One side note: I loved your “What the…?” intro to the Pat Robertson side link. I felt the exact same way!
Comment by terry (November 9, 2007 @ 3:26 pm )
Oh Amy! You make it sound so funny! And I know it must have been awful to go home.
Folks, 3 months ago I was laboring and emailing Amy between contractions, right until the transition hit and the midwife came…..
I am moving tomorrow and won’t get to check my mail for a few days……and I wanna know when the baby comes! But, you go right ahead and have her without me. I look forward to checking my mail next week and reading some good news…..
Picked a name yet?
Comment by Stacey (November 9, 2007 @ 3:46 pm )
I’m really praying for you that labor will go well this time. Can’t wait to hear - and I know you can’t wait to be on the telling side!
Comment by Shannon Miller (November 9, 2007 @ 4:15 pm )
Oh, that disappointment is great, and the frustration even greater! Surely, that baby will be on the outside soon.
I was thinking about posting something really annoying to help you get into that “really annoyed, and pseudo-cussing” mood. So, here goes:
I am so glad that Pat Robertson publicly endorsed Giuliani. I think that all Christians should be required to support whoever the Republican candidate is, even if they don’t believe that he is a Republican. It is just our duty as Christians to vote for “America’s mayor.”
If you take me seriously, you just might have that baby tonight!
Comment by Kendra (November 9, 2007 @ 4:31 pm )
That happened to me with #4. Only it was at 4 AM and the minute I sat down on the hospital bed everything stopped. I was so depressed I made my husband take me out to breakfast and we pigged out. I’m sure I cried that day too. If I keep on with these stories you’ll think I am the biggest cry baby.
I am, when I’m 10 months pregnant.
Praying!
Comment by Janet (November 9, 2007 @ 4:34 pm )
I have been where you are! It is so frustrating when things just stop.
Last year, when I had my 4th little guy, my labor would start and stop. I ended up in the hospital twice before actual labor. It was crazy. The night I finally went in, things started and stopped…and then started back up again!
I hope things happen soon for you!
Nothing is more depressing than having someone ask when your due date is and your answer is last week, lol.
Comment by Shannon (November 9, 2007 @ 4:41 pm )
Tracey, It is a quiet day with just uncoordinated contractions. Greg has the kiddos at the park and I am folding laundry. I think ice cream would be more of a comfort food than an energizer. (I’m just saying all this for reverse psychology on myself…) But give me a call if you’re on the island!
>>>Kendra, good one!
Stacey, We’re going to wait until we see the baby to be sure.
>>>Ruth, I am so sorry for your loss.
Comment by Amy Scott (November 9, 2007 @ 4:47 pm )
How funny
You have a way with words
There is one other kind of woman that shares that myopic view (this is putting is nicely I guess, ha!) And that is . . . .the adoptive mom looking for “gotcha day!” We just got news that 3 of our 4 adopted children from Liberia are arriving Nov 20! I think you are just holding out for “this” special date 
Comment by Cindy S (November 9, 2007 @ 4:51 pm )
Congratulations, Cindy! This day has been long in coming! I’m so happy for you. Please send pics and keep me in the email loop.
Comment by Amy Scott (November 9, 2007 @ 5:03 pm )
Oh dear Amy! I’m so sorry for your frustration!
But at least you got a great dinner and date out of it, right?
Praying for you. Maybe tomorrow will be the big birthday…
Comment by Marsha (November 9, 2007 @ 5:04 pm )
Ooohhh, I kept refusing to look at the last line because I was hoping it wasn’t going to end like I thought it would. Unfortunately, it did
I’m so sorry. I had the same thing happen, well, there was no Indian food, no fountain, and no caffeine treats, BUT I did really think I was in labor and my mom drove 2 1/2 hours to get here. She ended up staying a week and going home with still no baby. A few days later and we were able to call her back for the real deal. Hang in there. You will have this baby sooner rather than later (in the grand 9 month scheme of things
Still praying for you and I’m glad you at least got a nice date with your husband out of it.
Tina H.
Comment by Tina H. (November 9, 2007 @ 5:21 pm )
The watched uterus never contracts.
Go to Taco Bell. Purposely inflame your innards. That seems to do wonders.
Comment by gretchen from lifenut (November 9, 2007 @ 5:42 pm )
So been there. Only I made ‘em break my water once I got there. Heh.
((((Hugs))), Amy. It’ll be very soon! Hope that bit of contracting gave you a head start on the dilating!
Comment by Susannah (November 9, 2007 @ 5:51 pm )
You got what we call a “due date”. Each baby we plan a date on the due date because my due dates come and go with no baby (except #4 which completely surprised us).
Comment by brooke (November 9, 2007 @ 6:03 pm )
Labour is so unpredictable, it makes many a woman crazy. My sister has this happen to her with each pregnancy so bad that she never even makes it to the hospital because she never knows when it is for real. I had another friend though that was going to camp out at a hotel near the hospital so they could make it in time and she ended up having an unplanned homebirth. It seems the contractions are definitely doing something to the cervix during all of this pre-labour business, so you need to get there quick when it is for real.
I love your way with words. Here’s hoping for a quick and easy birth for you, SOON.
Blessings,
Amanda Axelby
Comment by Amanda Axelby (November 9, 2007 @ 6:04 pm )
Amy,
I’m praying for you! We went to Indian food on Tuesday night, my friend had my girly and I was hoping, but nothing happened. It was also the same I found out from my midwife that I was only fingertip dialated after over a week of contractions. Yesterday we went out for dinner after a chiropractor appointment and silly me had caffeen. I was up till 4:30 am and then woke up at 7:30. I had dh stay home, partly due to my exhaustion, but I also thought today was the day. I had 3 contractions 5 minutes apart. I even called my mom, she has to drive 8 hours and is planning on coming tomorrow. Well nothing more for me either except the through out the day contractions that occasionally are regular for an hour or so, but mostly aren’t. At least dh is able to care for our daughter today and get some more baby prep done. My mom is going to drive today after work, she’s done with me calling saying it “might be it,” so she’s just coming. If you think of it pray for safety for her.
Comment by Maggie (November 9, 2007 @ 7:57 pm )
You certainly are a brave woman, eating just before you’re about to deliver- and Indian food at that! But then, I’ve always had a weak stomach and have only delivered two babies. You’re in my prayers!
Comment by Lauren at Faith Fuel (November 9, 2007 @ 7:58 pm )
Oh no. Don’t you just hate that. It’ll be anyday now.
Comment by Hadias (November 9, 2007 @ 8:13 pm )
With my third, we had “practice labor” three times before the real thing. The third time, we even had the midwife drive an hour to get to us before deciding it had stopped. So frustrating. My advice is to start a project that you really want to finish. Then he/she will come and interrupt!
By the way, my husband just asked me yesterday if you had decided on a name. We’re looking forward to hearing all about it!
Comment by Christa @ No End in Site (November 9, 2007 @ 8:35 pm )
Oh, Amy. I’m sorry to read that things came to a screech.
I’m hoping that I am late in responding and that you have already had your baby. If not, I pray for such an amazing patience and sense of peace for you.
If it has not already, I hope your pseudo-cussing begins soon.
Comment by Mary Beth (November 9, 2007 @ 9:03 pm )
i so understand. my labor never began when i wanted it to, no matter how hard i concentrated. all 3 of mine were late arrivals. it’s so frustrating to wait on those babies to make up their minds.
Comment by chickadee (November 9, 2007 @ 9:16 pm )
Oh Amy! I practically cried with frustration for you while reading that, I swear I’m feeling sympathy contractions now.
I’ve gotten the impression that some of the hospital staff think I’m just a whiner when I show up, barely able to stand because of the painful contractions, only to be told they’re “not real” and sent home.
It makes me feel somehow better to know that you have such similar experiences (not that I wouldn’t rather you have wonderful, easy, no-doubt-you’re-in-labor type births… but you know what I mean!)
I hope you’ve had that ice cream, and lots of rest, and that little one makes a nearly-effortless appearance SOON!
Comment by Kerrie (November 9, 2007 @ 9:54 pm )
Perhaps some praise aerobics with brother what’s his name will get things going?
Comment by Lisa (November 9, 2007 @ 11:09 pm )
Amy,
Not to rain further on the halting of your contractions, but did you tense up with fear as you came to the entrance door of the hospital? You said that you read Grantly Dick-Read’s book - I am actually just getting to that one too…..just wondering.
I am with you on the “I am having a baby!” and I am only 24 weeks into this and have no where near experienced what you have, but my stomach is pushed up, I am breathless because my lungs are pushed up and I could mention other discomforts but I will stop there, but I am only 24 weeks…..sigh. “Count is all joy”…..is a hard one to live up to. Does pregnancy get harder with each child or is it just my imagination? Because our last three, no make that four, have been rather rough.
Our last two were “late”. Our fifth was a week and a half overdue with the stop and go contractions - I always have that stop and go for my labors. So annoying! We waited and waited and once we arrived at the hospital I was 8 cm dilated! Our second son was born less than 45 minutes later with one push. Hope you have such a birth as that, Amy!
Comment by Theresa (November 9, 2007 @ 11:13 pm )
At least you got an awesome meal out of the deal! When I was pregnant with my 1st baby, I thought my water had broken, only to go the hospital and be told that it hadn’t. Don’t ask. Anyway, we ended up at a Thai restaurant and justified it by saying it was our last hurrah before becoming parents.
Comment by Melissa (November 9, 2007 @ 11:33 pm )
Oh man. Good meal, though!
The one I’m holding in my arms right now brought me to the hospital and checked in before everything just stopped. Kinda embarrassing, especially for number four.
But I live 45 minutes from the hospital and have a history of very short labors. I was so scared of having her in the car…
Comment by Dana (November 9, 2007 @ 11:46 pm )
I had a halt-screecher with #4 so I took a nap and when I woke up, I had three contractions, my water broke and he was here 2 hours later. Maybe you’ll get a good night’s rest and get your babe in the morning:). Here’s hoping!:)
Comment by Tonya (November 9, 2007 @ 11:48 pm )
How disappointing! I was induced early with both my kids, so never had to go through that waiting game. Doesn’t sound like a lot of fun.
Just found your beautiful blog and look forward to reading more! Hopefully baby comes soon.
Wendy
Comment by Anonymous (November 9, 2007 @ 11:51 pm )
Oh AMY!!!!!
So sorry for the halting stop to labor! My Lydia was born 11-10 and I highly recommend you have the baby tomorrow and name her Lydia! ;o)
Hey, you didn’t mention where to get a Toffeenut Mudslide Frappachino!?!?!?!? When there is chocolate involved a female needs this information–ya know?!?!?
Ha-ha! Happy Labor Day sooner than later! Hugs for the waiting for God’s perfect timing for you wee one’s debut to the world and your beautiful smile!
Julie in Indiana married to the best UPS guy around!
Comment by Julie (November 10, 2007 @ 12:23 am )
Amy, anyone who can’t forgive you for being myopic must have never had a baby. It’s possibly the most exciting thing in the world, or in the top 3 at the very least. I can’t relate to the waiting part - both of mine were a little too early for comfort - but I hope you don’t have to wait much longer!
Comment by Heidi (November 10, 2007 @ 1:57 am )
I love your blog Amy…can’t even remember how I found it. Anyway, I hope you (or Greg) can post a quick note when you are at last on your way to the hospital. You could have a whole army of blog readers praying for you during labor!
Comment by Sara C (November 10, 2007 @ 3:31 am )
(((many hugs))), Amy!! With my last one, I had real contractions and ’show’ for a few days, and then once my water broke, the baby came very, very fast!! We’ll all be praying for you, Greg, and the baby. God bless!!
Comment by Brea (November 10, 2007 @ 9:12 am )
So sad! I saw the headline in my browser and got my hopes up.
Comment by Kristina (November 10, 2007 @ 10:15 am )
Sorry, it’s not a chain, just a local coffee shop…
This is kind of standard operating procedure for me. I have never just “gone into labor.” I have weeks and weeks of prodromal labor. I cry blood, sweat, and tears for every quarter of a centimeter.
We are 50 minutes from the hospital I’ll deliver at (even though there are 2 closer…long story), and our babysitting situation is an hour from the first phone call. So, we have the 2 hour out situation too. It’s hard to judge and make a good decision about what to do.
I’m less afraid of having the baby in the car…it’s more so, I feel better about having pitocin and methergine on hand for right afterward. (Not that I want to have a baby in a car.)
Good one, Lisa.
That’s a good question, considering my history. But no, I wasn’t afraid at all. I’m so tired of the pain, contractions, and nausea, that I’m more into facing it than avoiding it. I waffle sometimes late at night, but in general, I am not afraid. (Something I never thought would come out of my mouth!) I’d say that I’m apprehensive about going through transition without any pain relief (if it happens that way), but I do not have knots in my stomach about it. I’m OK with it all.
For the record, I never did go into the hospital and get checked. I knew they’d keep me, and as has happened four times before, just start a pitocin drip. I’m coming to terms with it just in case, as my OB induces by 41 weeks–no exceptions. I never thought it’d be an issue since I have never gone over, but I still feel very good about our choice of an OB since I had to switch care providers in the ninth month. My particular OB is the most “natural” of all my choices here and doesn’t even have to look on the chart to know my name.
Comment by Amy Scott (November 10, 2007 @ 12:18 pm )
Ah, sweetie. These weeks and weeks of labor without really going “into” labor just stink.
Sorry. Can’t think of any other way to put it. Aren’t you just weary of it? I am, for myself.
I am so thankful that you aren’t feeling fear, though. That is what I’ve been praying for you.
(And me.)
Still praying.
Comment by Holly (November 10, 2007 @ 12:40 pm )
Well, it’s Nov 10 and I don’t know where you are, but here’s my two cents anyway.
I know exactly what you’re going through. All 4 of mine were late, with #4 being my “earliest” one. He was born the day after his due date. My 2nd child was 18 days late. So with this one, I know I can last 18 days past. But 19, I’m not so sure about…. We’ll find out in about 8 weeks (or more).
I have tried everything (and I mean everything!) I have ever heard of to try and start labor. Nothing has worked. So my advice to you, if you’re still playing the waiting game? Don’t go anywhere! I’m serious. There is nothing worse at this point then to be asked “when are you due?” and have to reply “______ days ago”. Or to hear “are you still here?”. Hibernate, my friend. Hibernate.
BTW, I know this won’t help you now, but perhaps you can tuck this away for future use. I know of at least two ladies who have suffered extreme nausia as you have for their first 3 - 6 pregnancies. For various reasons, they were both tested for parasites. Sure enough, both tests came back positive and they were treated for the parasites. Since then, neither of them have experienced the rough pregnancies that they had before. I’m not sure if you have ever been tested or not, but it’s something to look into if you ever “need” to again
Comment by Jennifer D (November 10, 2007 @ 12:42 pm )
I had stop and go labour for three days with #2, and she was also two weeks late. What is up with all these people having family come before the baby is actually there? Do y’all know that is nearly a garaunteed way to delay your birth? Don’t call ’til the baby is at least half-way out!! Grandparents don’t mind.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Amy. My first was delivered persistent posterior. I did have a homebirth, but boy, I worked HARD for it!! God be with you through the rest of this. It will be over soon!
Comment by E.W.E (November 10, 2007 @ 1:12 pm )
Parasites?! Ai-yi-yi.
Comment by Amy Scott (November 10, 2007 @ 4:07 pm )
They’ll probably just break your water first to see if that sets things off. It did with me.
Also, an 11th hour girls name…Beatrice. Was my late MIL name, she’d be 86 tomorrow…
Best wishes!
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