Tis the season
Wednesday, Dec 5, 2007
I emerged from my postpartum cocoon this week and ventured to the grocery store. I was afraid that the bakery ladies had forgotten me (they didn’t), as it’s been months since I’ve done the shopping. That means, I’ve made it this far without being relentlessly assaulted with Feliz Navidad, cha-cha-cha. You already know I have the Christmas humbug every year; I am a reluctant festivity maker. There’s nothing you can do to talk me into thinking standing in a Black Friday line at Wal-Mart at 5 a.m. is a great idea.
It’s been our tradition to buy our kiddos a new pair of shoes for Christmas. Then, we give them each a bag of treats sort of like a stocking: kiddie toothbrushes, hair clips, and new crayons. Presents from other folks have filled their toy boxes, and so far, we’ve gotten away with this simple approach.
Now that they’re getting older, we will spring for a special gift. Any ideas for good, useful gifts? My son, the one who hates math, circled a math computer curriculum in a catalog. Anything to get away from his workbook, which isn’t going to happen. Our toddlers will probably get wooden puzzles for school time. There are special horse books hiding in the pantry for the girls. We don’t plan to buy a horse for the farm; the books will have to suffice. Our friends told us that horses are for people with more money than brains, so don’t remind me of this when we get one in two years.
I’ve gotten away from book reviews this year, but I wanted to mention The ESV Literary Study Bible in case you were looking for one this Christmas. I gave this one to my nine-year-old since he’s not had his own Bible yet. It seems to be the most readable for him, given that we want him to read a translation and not a paraphrase.
The study notes, which aren’t cumbersome and in every nook and cranny, help the reader understand the text in its context. The most helpful aid, in my opinion, is the discussion on how each book fits within the big picture of the whole Bible. Though, I’d say that the first noticeable and main distinction is that the text covers the whole page from left to right, reading like a book, instead of the traditional column format. My son digs this.
He’s used his new Bible so much that he wants a cover and something to hold his pen and notes. Sounds like a better choice than new math material to me.
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Am I first today???
I’m shopping for books on beekeeping, alternative nergy (solar, wind, water), hardcover editions of favorites that we’ve had in PB and are now tattered (LOTR for example), an art easel with real, actual paints and canvas–mostly stuff like that. My youngers want more duplos and since they actually use them AND pick them up–I suppose they’ll get them.
No Black Friday shopping for me either. It sounds somewhat sinister really–like a day to stay indoors….
Glad you’re out and about again. How about a pic of Elisabeth with her momma?
Comment by Lyn (December 5, 2007 @ 12:20 pm )
oops Energy! (blushing)
Comment by Lyn (December 5, 2007 @ 12:21 pm )
Good ideas, Lyn. As for the pics, I’m working on a slideshow to post. It’s being backlogged because I wanted to get a family picture in there, which just probably won’t happen…
Comment by Amy Scott (December 5, 2007 @ 12:25 pm )
Friends of mine have long used the gifts of the Magi as their model for gift giving. The Magi’s gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh represented something for the body, something for the soul and a gift of great worth (ok not in that order but you get the idea). Each year they buy each child three gifts. The something for the body often takes the form of clothing, something for soul encompasses Bible stories, or a Bible study aids (depending on age) and the something of great worth has been everything from a train set to small telescope over the years. They have said that for them, it helps to keep the season focussed and from a practical standpoint one big train set got played with a lot longer than five smaller gifts. I’m not saying it’s the answer for everyone, but I love the intention in this approach and it has certainly worked for their family. They even wrap the gifts in brown, purple and gold paper so the symbolism is not lost, even on the young ones.
Comment by Claire (December 5, 2007 @ 1:12 pm )
We get our kids ONE gift each (plus stickers, toothbrushes, bandaids in their stockings). This year everyone is getting a book. My son’s is The Dangerous Book for Boys. Everyone’s book has projects and ideas.
Comment by Myfriendconnie@Smockity Frocks (December 5, 2007 @ 2:08 pm )
we got our kids hooded bath towels with their names on them. last year it was rolling suitcases. i always try to make their gift something that is needed. they are still little so a rolling suitcase or a towel is very exciting.
Comment by Kimm (December 5, 2007 @ 2:49 pm )
I’ve heard that saying about horses too. I happen to think it’s completely true.
I was given a concussion by our horse and his attitude one summer when I was a teenager. I’m not bitter or anything. Let’s just say we didn’t keep him long…
-Andrea
Comment by andrea (December 5, 2007 @ 3:07 pm )
If you are looking for neat toys, MagnaTiles are our #1 choice. The girls and the boys, toddlers and older kids can’t put them down. They build everything from corrals for the plastic dinosaurs to airports for the model planes. They have built structures as tall as themselves, crashed them down and done it again. We have had these for a year now and not one has broken. Wedgits are great fun and Zoob is pretty good, too. We bought the kids Bare Books this year. They can write and illustrate their own books, cartoons, and even games and puzzles. We will use them for review of school material and for the older ones to make books for the younger kids. You can get different sizes of paper books or board books. We will see how they like them. Merry Christmas, everyone!
Comment by Another Heather (December 5, 2007 @ 6:11 pm )
My younger children love Playmobil 123, Lauri puzzles and stacker pegs by Lauri.
Comment by Melissa (December 5, 2007 @ 7:39 pm )
I love reading everyone’s gift ideas. We decide WAY in advance (like in the summer) what ‘the’ gift is going to be for each child and then go about acquiring it. One year my husband built hope chests for our two oldest girls. I think that has been my favorite Christmas gift so far!
Comment by Lady Why (December 5, 2007 @ 9:01 pm )
Always, every year, everyone gets books! We’re a family full of bibliophiles, and books are constantly on our Wish Lists.
And speaking of books, I now want an ESV Literary Study Bible. This is the second blog today that posted something about that Bible.
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Comment by Dinah Soar (December 5, 2007 @ 11:18 pm )
We don’t celebrate Christmas like most people do. Meaning, we don’t have a tree, decorations or lights on our house (although I do have electric candles in the windows). But, I don’t decorate for the 4th of July or any other holiday either.
We actually don’t even buy gifts for our children. They get enough from the rest of the family that we don’t see the need for it. Our family here in town has 8 grandchildren, so for the family Christmas party names are drawn and each child get someone else’s name (and the adults have a “white elephant” gift exchange). That way, we are not all having to get 8 gifts per child. That would be 32 gifts for us (we have 4 children)! Most of the time, I make the gifts. For this year, we are making 2 of the 4 gifts. One is a set of camouflage pajamas for one of my nephews and the other is a quilt (w/out the quilting part) for my niece (my eldest daughter is doing most of the sewing for the quilt, w/ me at her side helping her). The other 2 gifts are toys that we got for a total of $5.
One year, I made blanket pillows for all the cousins. I have also made tyed-eyed sheets in their favorite colors and favorite cookies.
Well, 3 weeks and counting for #5!
Jennifer D
Comment by Jennifer D (December 6, 2007 @ 6:47 am )
One of our children’s favorite gifts was a Leap Frog Globe. It was very educational. (I learned a lot myself from “playing” with this toy). The fun part is it can be used as a game for several or just one. Plus you can use it in school. It cost around $100, but it is a gift that everybody in our home used from the adults down to the 4 year old.
grace and peace,
julie
Comment by Julie (December 6, 2007 @ 10:20 am )
How about a “Creativity box” with scraps of wood, fabric, you name it to make “stuff”? Or a weather station–barometer, wind vane, thermometer? Or special polar fleece blankets for when you read aloud or watch a movie together? A bird feeder, Field Guide to Birds, cheap digital camera and a notebook to track the birds in? Seeds to start an indoor garden? A specially burned cd with songs just for each kid?
I go nuts over the stupidity of most Christmas gifts!! I look forward to reading what others suggest here!
Comment by Lisa (December 6, 2007 @ 11:13 am )
We finally got smart and quit buying all the “fad” toys for our kids. The girls have baby dolls, doll house and dress up stuff. The boys have a train table, large cars and trucks, and legos. Everybody shares books, puzzles and outdoor toys.
It makes shopping so much easier. For Christmas and Birthday’s we just build on these “major categories”. For example our four year old is getting the Bitty Twins (she wants a boy doll) and outfits for her and her current baby that match each other. Plus another family for her dollhouse.
We just slowly build on stuff that will “go the long haul”.
The boys are getting a couple of new trains for their table and some extra track pieces. They also want a pirate ship. It’s just like doll house, but it is with trains, cars and pirates! They set it all up, make the cars, trains and pirates talk and visit each other. Of course there is more destruction involved, but really they like the same stuff. The boys also like playing dress up so they might get a cowboy hat, some boots,a wooden gun or a foam sword.
Of course we will fill their stockings with toothbrushes, toothpaste and a Christmas cookie. Plus our older daughter will get some cheap necklace/bracelet set like Hello Kitty from the Target dollar spot, and the boys a new bouncy ball, but we leave the popular stuff up to aunts, uncles and grandparents.
Grandma loves being the hero when she knows that she is giving the “desired” gift of Barbie this or My Little Pony that. Aunts and Uncles love that they can buy a Littlest Pet Shop or Hot Wheels present for under $5 and we all win. Christmas morning or birthdays may mean they put our gift aside and want to open grandmas to play with immediately, but almost without fail our gift is the one that is played with the most and for the longest span of time. “Popular whatever they wanted” lasts for a couple of weeks, a month tops.
This has worked for us. We wasted a few years wanting our kids to “have what they want” and throwing away money. I am pretty sure that we had EVERY SINGLE DORA doll house item and character. When we grew out of Dora we were out a lot. So, we learned.
We don’t have a set limit for number of presents or how much we spend. We try to look at the big picture and either slim down or allow ourselves to splurge based on the facts. Like last year we spent A TON on a doll house and furniture to fill most of it. But, we will have that thing in our house and two girls will play with it for the next eight years or so. Good choice especially in light of the Dora experience.
Strawberry Shortcake was the hit last year and Grandma got our oldest the doll. I think we had stopped playing with it by mid February. For this christmas daughter is asking for more doll house people so that her family can have friends. We feel good cause Grandma has the money to spend on something that will not last, we do not. We have four kids!!!
We have also passed on buying gifts (or like this past year we didn’t have birthday parties with lots of presents and friends) and instead purchased passes to Disney or Sea World. We only live an hour away from both so our kids LOVED going to Sea World several times this past year. None of them cared about not having a big birthday party that lasted one day because we went to Sea World every few weeks or so. Plus they had cake and ice cream with their favorite meal for dinner. so to them they got a party and sea world.
OK, that got way too long. Sorry guys.
Comment by ES (December 6, 2007 @ 4:49 pm )
I like to give my gifts books or some other quality gift that will encourage their spiritual growth or love for learning. I grew up learning to Your Story Hour as did my husband and my children have several of their albums and listen to them constantly. I noticed today on their web-site (www.yourstoryhour.org) that they are having a buy-one-get-one free sale on their albums. So, if I were making recommendations I would buy this for my kids. Congratulations on your baby!
Comment by Katy (December 6, 2007 @ 5:30 pm )
Hey Amy….the other KY MOYS here…..don’t rule out horses : ) We just got 2 that we are boarding…so they pay us and we get to ride and they pay for food and vet bills…a great deal all around!
Comment by lisa (December 7, 2007 @ 4:02 pm )
With four daughters, I seem to have no problem finding one special gift to help them in their pursuit of being keepers at home. This includes a special doll for my youngest and a special pie plate for my oldest. (Because I have a particular love for pie plates and she wants one from me) That is it. One heartfelt gift from Mom and Dad.
Cindy
PS Love your site!
Comment by Cindy (December 8, 2007 @ 10:57 am )
My child is a one and only and we probably do give him too much. But he is 8 now and we are excited that he is developing interests beyond the “most popular toy” stuff. He is getting mostly educational stuff this year: a globe, an U.S. atlas, a world atlas, Scrabble, etc. My sister-in-law asked if he would like ?–some toy with lots of pieces that would get scattered and broken. She was thrilled when I told her that he would love to get some special postage stamps to start a collection.
How much does everybody usually spend total or per child? I have a friend with 4 children who spends $50 per child and it doesn’t sound like a lot until you consider that it is $200 total. I guess we usually spend around $300 on our one child.
Comment by Caroline (December 8, 2007 @ 11:50 am )
Caroline,
We don’t assign a dollar amount to each child. Instead, we buy them a good gift, one we think they would enjoy best. I’m almost done with my Christmas book order. One child is getting the next five books in a series, while another non-reader is getting a Focus on the Family Radio Theatre set. They are worth different amounts, and we haven’t ran into the problem yet of one gift being “fair” over another. We will get away pretty cheaply with the toddler and newborn, as their needs are pretty basic. I don’t feel any obligation to spend the same amounts on them. They’ve been pretty happy with a gift that is well thought out more than they have with a more expensive one.
Comment by Amy Scott (December 10, 2007 @ 1:24 pm )
Ah Amy, when it comes to Christmas I have so much to say…
Since marrying Niall we don’t celebrate Christmas but because people insist on giving our son gifts we decided to have a family day instead.
It seems to be getting out of hand though. I want him to have lots and am happy when he gets lots, and I don’t want him to have lots because this would be better for him…
It’s a battle I struggle with.
Here is what goes on around me…
I have two neighbours who I am friendly with and who has boys around my son’s age. One woman has four children and she told me she has already spent 1,000 euros on her son.
The other woman is going to Lap Land on a DAY trip this Saturday with her boy that is costing over 1,200 EACH and will be spending over 1,000 on his toys. (by the way, she is not with her boy’s dad and so Santa will be visiting both homes this Christmas)
Both of these women cannot afford all this and the only way they can manage it is by going into debt and sadly by receiving money from the government when they shouldn’t…
I love reading the above ideas your readers have and reading about their life styles.. It gives me idea’s and hope… making their own presents etc.
I know a big factor with me is the fear of man and I know people already think I am strange because of the Christmas thing…
I will have to pray about the whole thing and talk it over with my husband and perhaps we can look at the whole thing again and make changes for next year….
…. Perhaps we will move to the states!!!
Anyway.. one other thing. My father is dying of cancer. He is not saved. He is heavily drugged and not making much sense. I suspect he will not make it to Christmas. I know you are mad busy, so will you ask a friend or sister in the Lord who you trust, to read this question for me and ask them if they will reply? …
Should I attend the funeral? My dad has been an atheist most of his life although now he is not sure. His wife, my step mother is catholic. Most of my family are catholic but never go to mass. One sister is a JW and other members claim to be Born Again but have absolutely no fruit…
What I normally do is to not go to the service/mass but go to the burial. I think the mass is a horrible offence to God. For God’s sake I would happily not attend but I also have to consider people and not stumble them… Even my non Christian neighbour is asking me what I am going to do!
If anybody else reads this and has any advice please feel free to reply!!!
Thanks Amy, good to see you are still on your blog!
Many thanks and may God continue to bless yo and your family.
Comment by Ruth MacCarthaing (December 11, 2007 @ 2:43 pm )
Ruth, My heart breaks for you right now. What a difficult test! I expect there will be as many opinions on what to do as there are people who would give you an opinion. Amy has not asked me to reply. These are just my own thoughts. I would probably go to the burial so that I could be there for the rest of the family and be an example to them of Christ and His love. I don’t think I could go to a mass either. I think that funeral services are for the living relatives and friends. It is not so much for the one who has died. If you could be there to help someone else who is grieving and give some Biblical encouragement that, I think, would honor the Lord. Pray about it, see what your husband thinks is best, and try to let Him guide you through this. He is faithful, not only to comfort you in your own grief, but in using your testimony to speak to others. I will be praying for you as the Lord brings you to mind. Be encouraged. God is near.
Comment by Another Heather (December 12, 2007 @ 10:40 am )
oh i can relate to the shopping part. i’m 10 weeks pregnant and it’s been about a month since i did any of the shopping!!! sometimes the things my hubby bring home from the grocery store are INTERESTING. but they keep us sustained so it’s all good.
Comment by Ruth (December 12, 2007 @ 11:46 am )
Ruth,
I can’t say for sure what you should do, just that it’d be my position to err on the side of mercy than on being “right.” I think I’d go to the mass as a very polite, respectful bystander for the support of the family. What do you think the Lord wants you to do? I think He will answer if you ask.
Comment by Amy Scott (December 12, 2007 @ 6:57 pm )
Delivery just in from Desiring God Ministries. The 6 eldest are getting “Don’t Waste Your Life” for Christmas.”
Praying that they will read it!
Comment by Diane Gorjanc (December 15, 2007 @ 8:28 am )