Worry and The Red Raiders
Monday, Mar 17, 2008
I like strategy games. Rook, Blokus, and Scrabble are examples. Some games are pure chance, and there is no fun in that. Candy Land and Chutes and Ladders? I play them with my children out of pure love because in real life, I hate those games. When you are battling to the death, I like to think that my winning had something to do with my technique instead of the fact that I drew the card with the Sparkle Princess near the finish line. (That’s a Candy Land reference.)
I used to think baseball was pretty simple. There’s a bunch of guys trying to hit a ball and run around some bases. But it’s so much more than that. I never cared for baseball until I understood it. There’s a game within a game, and strategy is as important as skill.
I would never have thought there’d be an occasion in baseball where a manager would allow runs to score on purpose, but there is. You have to play the rules to your advantage. You must save your best pitchers for the right games while observing the rest periods appropriately. There are even rules about the rules—which can get complicated—but that’s the fun of it.
Team COMBAT took home their third five-foot-high trophy this week. That’s three wins in a row against the best hand-picked teams around. They’re doing great. One nine-year-old on my son’s team even hit one out of the park. (Somebody tell me what’s in those hot dogs.) They’re a great team.
But my son still has this problem. They’re called The Red Raiders. I asked my son why he’s afraid of The Red Raiders. (This is beginning to sound like a Berenstain Bears story but it’s not.)
“Their pitcher picks off, Mom,” he says.
“So?”
“So, their pitcher picks off.”
“Don’t you think every nine-year-old kid is shaking in his cleats about [your team] Team COMBAT?” I ask.
And so, it doesn’t matter. They can win all day long, invoking the slaughter rule as easily as they unwrap their Hubba Bubba, but he doesn’t care. Have some confidence, kid. He’s still scared of The Red Raiders. Their pitcher picked off a kid leading off second base in one sly swoop many months ago, and he hasn’t forgotten it.
There are some things I’m anxious about too. Childbirth is one of them. I’ve faced it many times, but there’s nothing you can say to me to fix it. I’m scared of it and I’m not even facing it. I have compassion but not confidence.
I’m also tentative about moving out of a state I’ve never left. I’ve lived in Florida my entire life, and I’m worried I’ll hate to freeze. What if my blood can’t take it? What if this whole thing is a big mistake? What if nobody likes us and our house gets eaten by termites? (The former is more probable than the latter.)
While we have no right to walk around smacking our gum, likewise, we should not worry either. John Piper writes, “Anxiety shows that we are too close to the world and too far from God. So don’t be anxious—the world has nothing eternal to offer, and your loving heavenly Father knows your needs now and forever.” The way I faced my last birth was this: I clung to Jesus. When my strategy failed and I proved ill-suited to face it, I would tell Him all about it. Those were some long nights before the birth.
There will always be The Red Raiders out there. We will always be tempted to worry. It is my choice to coddle my worries or to hand them over.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. I Peter 5:6-7
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This post comes right on the doorstep of many things that could cause worry in my life right now. It seems Piper always has a witty comeback! I do like that quote a whole lot and am thinking of putting it in my blog tagline! Excellent post as usual!
I am so jealous of your year round baseball!! I love it, our season is just starting.
Comment by Kelly (March 17, 2008 @ 8:38 am )
Great post, Amy. And here’s hoping that your son will be the one who is able to steal right under that mean ole’ pitcher’s nose, and breaks the fear that’s terrorizing your local Little League.
But seriously, fears (logical or not!) are always there, because we are horribly human and live in a fallen world. You’re totally right about clinging to Christ, because sometimes that’s all we can do …
~Brea
Comment by Brea in Texas (March 17, 2008 @ 9:55 am )
I’m currently reading John Ortberg’s book, “If You Want To Walk On Water, You’ve Got To Get Out Of The Boat.” It’s full of great reminders that we always face fear when we’re moving toward God and following His voice. But it’s also always worth it to trust Him and get out of the boat anyway.
Comment by Kelly @ Love Well (March 17, 2008 @ 10:08 am )
I got more and more scared about childbirth the more kids I had. By the sixth one, I was almost beside myself with fear. I think because I could really remember that it was painful, and nothing can prevent that. With the earlier ones, I would think, “Oh, I’ll be more relaxed this time,” or “Oh, I’ve done this before, it will be easier.” But by number 6, I knew that, no matter what, it would hurt!
Comment by suburbancorrespondent (March 17, 2008 @ 11:02 am )
Timely post.
Thank you, thank you.
Amy–you asked why I’m still here?
Posts like this, my friend.
I relate and you express it so well.
Comment by Andrea (March 17, 2008 @ 11:46 am )
As a fellow lifelong Floridian, I can relate to fear of freezing! LOL.
And what a profound thought: “Anxiety shows that we are too close to the world and too far from God.” That alone was worth the time it took me to read the post. Another good one, Amy!
Comment by terry (March 17, 2008 @ 11:47 am )
Oh goodness Amy, life with a big family requires enough strategy, and you want games on top of that?
I do know what you mean though, it is a challenge of sorts. Thanks for that quote, I will hang on to that today!
blessings, Penny Raine
http://www.pennyraine.com/blog it’s garden week!
Comment by Penny Raine (March 17, 2008 @ 11:56 am )
As one who worries, may I say a hearty “Amen!” to your post! I struggle with worry and find myself having to hand my cares over to the Lord on a daily (hourly… OK, moment by moment) basis.
I am concerned about freezing myself even though I live in realtively warm Alabama… but these Marchs can be brutal! Brrrr!
Comment by Lady Why (March 17, 2008 @ 12:08 pm )
A timely post for a particularly difficult period in my life. My worry is useless and helps me gain nothing, but more worry. May I run to the cross and cast all my cares upon Him. That is most definitely worth my time.
As usual…excellent post.
Comment by Michelle (March 17, 2008 @ 2:46 pm )
I PROMISE to like you when you come here, OK?
We are all looking forward to it.
I can’t help with the fear of freezing. Just think about the garden you can have after the thaw.
Comment by Petersonclan (March 17, 2008 @ 2:51 pm )
Thanks Amy for what you said today. I am a lurker that loves to read about you and your family. This weekend I have been very anxious because my husband and I have decided to go for custody of his 11 year old daughter who has been severly emotionally abused by her mother. I keep thinking, “what are we getting ourselves into. Her mom will stop at no limits to keep us from getting custody and will likely accuse us of horrible things.” But, I know that God has led us to this decision and that we truly need to put our trust in him. He has led us through many difficult times in the past and I needed to be reminded to put my faith in his all knowing power. Thanks for the reminder.
Comment by Ann (March 17, 2008 @ 3:16 pm )
Comment by Cathy (March 17, 2008 @ 4:44 pm )
Sorry, Amy, I’m a goober. I wanted to highlight your quote, but boxed my whole comment. How DO you highlight a quote from someone’s comment?
Cathy
Comment by Cathy (March 17, 2008 @ 4:46 pm )
I love Blokus too! Do you ever play the two-player version? My husband and I sometimes do before bed, but then we lose the little pieces in the sheets and that’s never a good thing.
Don’t worry about freezing. You won’t. You’ll just hate the cold like everybody else who lives up here does.
As for labour, I’m sure you’ll do fine. When I was in labour, I always got through it by reciting Psalm 23. It kept my mind occupied. But the pain was so bad with baby #3 that I ended up shouting it in the delivery room. About an hour after Katie arrived the nurse came back in the room to tidy up, with a smirk on her face.
She said to me, “I’ve heard the Lord’s name used in many ways in this room, but never quite like that.” So quote some Scripture! It always helped me!
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Comment by Sheila Gregoire (March 17, 2008 @ 5:11 pm )
We’ve done 3 and 4 but never 2. Will have to try it!
I was wondering if anyone would read that closely! Fourth batters are often walked on purpose to avoid RBIs and homeruns, but that’s not what I mean. Coach actually told the boys once to hold the ball (in a tournament they won), letting the runner on third score. I can’t remember the exact scenario since I wasn’t there, but here is a “for instance”:
Let’s say you are playing a tournament and teams are seeded by wins and then by runs scored against. Let’s say that you are in first place, but you’ve already used up all your allowed pitches by your primary pitcher. (In younger divisions there are rules about how many pitches a pitcher can pitch before a day’s rest, two day’s rest, etc.) A number one seeded team who has used up their best pitchers can allow runners to score against them so as to push them down in the seeding to give themselves more time (assuming this does not eliminate them) to pitch their better pitchers. This leaves the team in third place for a short while but effectively wins the entire tournament since they are playing their best pitchers in the final game(s).
Clear as mud? Can anyone think of a situation where allowing runs to score in a non-tournament single game could happen?
Highlight the text you want to quote, and then click the “b-quote” key. This will put tags around the text.
Comment by Amy Scott (March 17, 2008 @ 6:16 pm )
Just a minor detail, but one Team COMBAT would want me to point out, they are USSSA baseball. (They travel, but Little League stays close by.) McGregor does play in our local Little League as well, so it does get confusing! I’m sure if there was another team, he’d want to play on that too, but we do have limits…
We will miss year-round baseball when we move, that’s for sure! I can’t imagine only playing one season. What will we do?!?
Comment by Amy Scott (March 17, 2008 @ 6:25 pm )
I was born in Ohio, and lived here all my life until we moved to Georgia, where we stayed two years, before moving backlast fall. I still don’t like the cold!:-)
Comment by Michelle (March 17, 2008 @ 8:34 pm )
I meant, “back last fall”. oops–sorry!
Comment by Michelle (March 17, 2008 @ 8:35 pm )
Rice socks, slippers, socks, sweatshirts and sweaters. You’ll love them. Then there are afghans, quilts, and electric blankets, flannel jammies, ooooohhhh, shiver of delight. Add a fireplace and a snuggly husband (after the littles are in bed)and guess where you end up!! Don’t make cold out to be worse than it is. It has its up side, too. Hot chocolate or a great cup of tea with that fresh out of the oven muffin. Yumm!!
Seriously, thanks for the post. We are at a cross roads and not quite sure where to turn next and it takes work to remember that God has us in the palm of His hand and He already knows the end of any path that we take. Oh, there are times I wish I was better at the right kind of tunnel vision! BTW, childbirth gets scarier each time for me, too. Number six is due in mid-May, yikes!
Comment by Another Heather (March 17, 2008 @ 9:56 pm )
Question: do you say Blokus as bloe-kus or blaw-kus? Some friends of ours think it’s the latter and I think they’re crazy.
Also, you simply must get Ticket to Ride (Europe edition is best) if you like fun but not-so-complex strategy games. T2R takes 45 minutes or so for a game and is super easy to learn. Good for 2-5 players too.
Comment by Mike (March 17, 2008 @ 10:39 pm )
If you love strategy games try this one: Getting 6 young children bathed, dressed, hairbrushed, fed (including nursing of course), widdled out (which is my mom’s term for ‘go pee’) and diaper changed, shoes on, out the door, and buckled in with no toothpaste, food, or oil from the van door on their best clothes before going out for the big “family reunion” on Easter Weekend (don’t forget the pot luck casserole, camera, happy easter cards the kids made for Grandma, and a snack and sippy cup for the toddler, and the playpen should you stay long enough for the wee ones to need a nap)….
oh wait. I bet you know that one already
Comment by Barbara (March 18, 2008 @ 6:38 am )
All this talk about “cold” cracks me up. It just proves that so many things in life are relative.
I look out my window this lovely March morning and see snowbanks up to the top of my clotheslines. Flakes are wafting down from the sky. Just last week, we had 15 degrees below zero one morning.
Kentucky ain’t cold!!!! Michigan is cold. Of course, having lived in Michigan my whole life, I can’t relate to fears of Floridians.
You’ll adjust. We all do. We have to.
Comment by Kelly (March 18, 2008 @ 8:13 am )
Amy,
Don’t worry, I know a few families in KY who already love you guys! I’ve never seen a KY termite, and yes it’s tons colder than FL where I also lived most of my life, but Some great fuzzy Lands’ End slippers and an electric blanket has made me what I am today. (oh and some hot coffee in my tummy!)
Misti
Comment by Misti (March 18, 2008 @ 8:49 am )
Hello!
We live in Northern Ky and yes it gets cold but the summers are wonderful:) I love the quote from John Piper so very true. I thank you for taking the time to write you are an inspiration:)
Renee
Comment by Renee (March 18, 2008 @ 3:32 pm )
Misti and Carri…I hope to post pics this week. Things are coming along at the farm.
Count me crazy too!
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Ya’ll northerners don’t understand. We’ve been running our air conditioner for weeks now. We swim. We wear sunblock. I don’t even OWN A REAL JACKET. [Yes, I'm shouting.] I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen snow–which happens to coincide with the number of times I thought I was gonna die.
This is serious.
===
Barbara, Good one.
Comment by Amy Scott (March 18, 2008 @ 8:35 pm )
my sister, born and raised in sunny california moved to chicago, IL last year. last week she called me and said: “Hey, it WARMED UP to 35 degrees. I’m taking the kids to the zoo.”
Warmed up? I wanted to know since when 35 degrees is considered “warmed up”?
I guess you have to live in Chicago to understand that one.
Comment by Elizabeth (March 18, 2008 @ 11:14 pm )
all of which to say….yes, adaptation is possible.
does she LIKE it?
um…she’s REALLY looking forward to spring!
Comment by Elizabeth Esther (March 18, 2008 @ 11:15 pm )
There are also no fire ants. That is a BIGGIE for where it is cold. The kids can run around barefoot and not get bitten. That was one of my requirements in moving… NO FIRE ANTS!
Comment by Petersonclan (March 19, 2008 @ 6:36 am )
Either the b-quote didn’t work or I need some more coffee for the morning… Sorry - I wanted to quote the question of what to do with only having baseball one season and then not having KY termites.
After a couple years, when the culture shock has worn off, you’ll love it here.
That probably wasn’t helpful, was it? (Snort).
Comment by Petersonclan (March 19, 2008 @ 6:38 am )
It won’t take that long. There’s no sand, the bugs are tiny and you can swat them–rather than have them chase you! There isn’t a pest control business at every other door. It is green and not just pine trees and kudzu. It smells great, lots of stuff grows with hardly any effort (sorry, that includes weeds). You will see shades of green you never imagined. It’s quiet and you can hear birds (and bugs)–you’ll even learn to identify them! You will have GRASS! (But you do have to cut it a lot–especially in the spring.) There will be cows mooing in the distance rather than car horns. Knoxer, not to mention the kids, is going to love it, too! He can stay outside–Wahoo!! It doesn’t rain every day and you will see sparkling white clouds in crystal blue skies. (I know, you have that in FL, too.) You are moving close to national parks with caves, rivers, lakes, hiking and rock formations to boggle the mind. Folks will strike up a conversation for no reason at all, (sometimes). There are SEASONS–it is so neat to watch the grass green up and the buds burst overnight into leafed out trees. One day it is grey and dreary, the next, you have daffodils! Fall will take your breath away. You do swelter a bit in summer, but you are used to that. Winter, well, you bundle up and enjoy your family and occassionally you get to see some of the most amazing winter scenery. (Having to deal with coats, mittens, boots, etc and kids does encourage you to be choosy about getting out.) I’ll stop now, but I do love the Midwest. It’s great. You will love it. BTW, it’s Blawkus here, too.
Comment by Another Heather (March 19, 2008 @ 11:57 am )
Before I moved to Texas (we’ve lived all over the states, but had never lived in a hot-is-the-only-season-state until moving to Texas) I wouldn’t have understood what you were talking about. I, though, was afraid of the heat. I hate to sweat and being hot makes me want to lay down and wait until it’s cool again. The first week we were there I had maintenance come in to check on something and the first thing he said was, “You’re not from around here are you?” He knew because he was freezing! The air conditioner was only set at 72!
Our friends said that it took 2 years to get used to the heat. We lived there for two years and two months and I did notice a huge decrease in my ability to tolerate the cold after we moved back. But now it’s been two years and I think I’m pretty much back where I was before. (we keep our thermostat at 64 during the winter.)
However, I think it’s probably harder for someone who is intolerant of cold to get used to the cold, than for the opposite. That’s what I’ve concluded with my professional observation skillz.
The good news is, now is a great time to stock up on winter gear for the whole family!
Comment by rachel (March 19, 2008 @ 12:35 pm )
I was born in SoCal, and now I live in a place with basically two seasons, January (our Summer) andm Winter. Thats about it. This year has been unseasonalbly warm, and we’re all complaining about the lack of rain!
Thanks for the encouragement about not being anxious. I never really struggled with anxiety until God decided to up the stakes and make me put my money where my mouth was!
Comment by Rhonda (March 19, 2008 @ 1:43 pm )
I’m sure you guys will adapt, Amy. It’ll be fine. The good news is, it appears you’ll be going up there during the warmer months. As someone who knows what its like to go to the beach in February and wear flip flops in January, I know what you mean when you say you don’t even own a real jacket. Better run out and get one! Do they even sell ‘em down here?
Comment by terry (March 19, 2008 @ 1:44 pm )
I understand having a fear about what you’ll have to deal with when you move. We are getting ready to move overseas but I won’t know where or when till mid-April. I have no desire to leave this place(Virginia) but it seems to be where God is leading my husband and thus, the family must come along.
BTW, I think this is my first or second comment ever. I read your blog a lot but others usually say everything that needs to be said.
Your posts are so encouraging to me. In fact, my husband doesn’t like the fact that now my desire is not to live overseas but to get a farm like you! 
Comment by Laurie (March 19, 2008 @ 8:11 pm )
From what I read in this neighborhood, I think you are very brave. Anxiety is just one of the ways God has of reminding us it’s time to draw closer to Him. Enjoy that baseball! Love this season.
Laura
Comment by laura (March 20, 2008 @ 2:16 pm )
I hear you on being afraid of the cold - I’m from Texas and am used to warm weather. I got a kick out of Rachel’s comment about thermostat settings. We were on a vacation in Colorado a few weeks ago and the people we stayed with kept their thermostat on 68 and I felt like I was freezing!
I’m right there with you on the worry. I can worry with the best of them and have been known to let my anxiety get the best of me (like ending up in the ER with a panic attack a few years ago). Liked the quote. What helps for me too is to pray against it. Our enemy wants us to get distracted with worry.
Comment by Marie (March 21, 2008 @ 11:08 am )
Timely.
Thank you.
Comment by tia (March 21, 2008 @ 6:40 pm )
Thanks for the timely post! #4’s comment is so true. I’m having my 6th baby in eight and a half years in early May and I’m more horrified of this one than I ever have been. It’s the forerunner of all my thoughts lately. With each birth, I thought I could manage the next one better; but face it, it’s painful and scary and you don’t think your going to make it through the pain sometimes. Very encouraging post.
On the cold weather, just make sure that whenever you get in the car in the winter, you have coats and blankets in the back in case of emergency- it’s no big deal, you’ll be fine! Plus, your kids will love the snow!
Comment by Rhesa (March 22, 2008 @ 10:17 am )
May God’s richest blessings be yours as you reflect on the extent of His love demonstrated through the death His Son on the cross and the awesomeness of His power exhibited through the resurrection.
To God be the glory!
-bill
a spiritual oasis
Comment by -bill (March 22, 2008 @ 10:50 am )
Petersonclan (#28), are you trying to tell me that there are places in the world that don’t have fire ants??? This might sound silly, but I really thought fire ants live everywhere. They’ve always been around, my whole life, and while I don’t like ‘em (to say the least!!), I guess we’re just used to them. Even the baby, at 16 months, knew how to spot the mounds, and would walk away from them saying, ‘No. No. No. No …’
Amy, I understand the cold fears. As another Texas gal, I’ll take the 100 degree heat anytime over that cold white stuff … snow, I think it’s called?
Blankets. Lots and lots of blankets. And warm clothes. And cocoa. And fires, I’m guessing …
~Brea
Comment by Brea in Texas (March 22, 2008 @ 3:57 pm )
Brea, I mentioned a story about my then 3-year-old asking, “If God is good, why did he make fire ants?” to some folks in California. They asked, “What are fire ants?” I was incredulous. I thought they were probably everywhere except Canada or some other of those freezing places.
I’m offline a lot lately, but I’m guessing there’ll be a lot of blogging next winter. I’m not leaving the house, that’s for sure!
Comment by Amy Scott (March 22, 2008 @ 8:58 pm )
We certainly had fire ants in Arizona when I was little. I can’t imagine them not being in California! I used to play with them. I wasn’t a very smart child. I used to get welts all over my arms and legs. I would try to put them in a bowl but they never stayed there. My mom would put baking soda on the bites to help take the sting out. I would lick it off because I liked the taste of the baking soda. I told you I wasn’t a very smart child!
Comment by Rhonda (March 22, 2008 @ 9:35 pm )
We were talking/dreaming the other day about moving to KY. (we live in North/central Indiana and my husband’s company is building a new plant in KY) And I just do not think I could STAND the heat. My in-laws live in So. Indiana and it’s so unbearably hot in the summer….. So I just can’t comprehend those that fear the cold. You can always add more clothes, but you can be completely naked and still hot!!! Although this time of year, I certainly long for spring.
Comment by Amanda (March 23, 2008 @ 5:05 pm )
I grew up in Minnesota, and I think heat is horrible (recall that hell is hot, not cold). I’ve been to Florida a couple of times, in October and December. It was *perfect* in December. We went wading in the ocean, and I wished I had my swimsuit.
Anyway, how to cope with cold: layers are your best friend. Also, you want to trap air near your body. So the best combination is a close-fitting underlayer that has holes or is made of fiber that has air spaces in it, and a layer over that that blocks all air circulation.
I love Blokus too! (blaw-kus)
Comment by Anonymous (March 24, 2008 @ 11:56 am )
Amy, our local newspaper did an article about a family here in our town who moved from Florida to open a restaurant here. I thought of you when I read it. They have five children (pregnant with #6) and their oldest child is eight. They homeschool too. They said in the article that when they first moved here two years ago, everyone thought they were crazy for moving from Florida to Arkansas! I mean, we folks in Arkansas go to Florida for vacation. It is never the reverse! But they love living here and would never go back.
Comment by Valerie (March 24, 2008 @ 4:04 pm )
Candy Land and Chutes and Ladders? I play them with my children out of pure love because in real life, I hate those games.
Amen X 1000
Comment by Anon (March 25, 2008 @ 4:05 pm )
I just found out about your blog, so am starting back a ways to get to know you a little before I try to keep up-to-date.
One of my sons told me a long time ago that worry was the mis-use of your imagination, which is true because you are thinking of lots of different scenarios - most that leave God out of the picture.
I like that quote by John Piper about anxiety. Both quotes compliment each other.
Thank you for sharing.
Brenda
Comment by Brenda (April 25, 2008 @ 7:43 pm )