How to be humble…like me
Wednesday, Apr 9, 2008
One of the markings of a good writer is the ability to make interesting the ordinary. Since I am not a good writer, I usually just stop writing when I have nothing to contribute. Some would argue that I should stop writing altogether since I don’t write well even when I have an interesting story, and I suppose that is a good point as well.
One of the questions I ask before hitting the publish button is, “Is it worthwhile?” But the problem with this question and the tension I balance before emptying my brain on the screen is that it all depends on who you ask. Some folks care about my kid who thinks his baseball team is on the road to stardom. And the rest, which would be the majority, would think I’m bragging and fire off an email with some reference about “humble” and “musings”. But this blog is for the former group, not the latter, and therein lies the tension. I only have like six friends*, and the rest of the readers are onlookers to my conversations with them.
Writing is a funny thing. When you write, you assume that the person on the other end cares about what you’re saying. I often include self-deprecating humor in my writing, not as a display of humility, but as a matter of style. This is how I talk in real life and this is how I write in real life. Humility is an irony, and you know I love irony. Think about it, you can never say that you are humble. That would be an oxymoron. Editors could have a hayday with a book like, “How to Be Humble Like Me.” I can think of a few blog titles that would be dumb too.
Humility is the ability to see yourself in proper relation to your Creator. It’s not about thinking less about oneself as much as it is seeing God for who He really is. But that’s just it—our tendency is that it’s all about us, not God. Any holiness, goodness, reason for boasting on our part is all due to His holiness and what He has done on our behalf. We have nothing if He is not everything. He is great and we are small.
Tons of people want to do “great things for God.” Instead, we ought to do small things for God, everyday, right now, not tomorrow. He has already given us instructions: love God and our neighbor, act justly, love mercy, walk humbly. In the smallness, there is greatness. In the ordinary, there is extraordinary. Paul Tripp once wrote, “Remember, it is not your weakness that will get in the way of God’s working through you, but your delusions of strength.”
That’s why I often say that our daily work is an offering to God. We need meaning in order to push the pile of rocks back and forth. (The rocks would be a laundry reference.) When we find meaning and joy in our daily tasks, remember that it is daily grace that we depend on, not a strong personality. I know this because I have a strong personality, and it does run out.
This was quite a long way of saying that I have nothing to say. I just wanted my friends to know that I’m not dead and I’m still my same old self, which of course, is good and bad at the same time. I can think of a lot to say about that. Another time.
*That’s probably stretching it.
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I would argue that you are, in fact, a good writer. You have a God-given talent to compose your thoughts into words that strike the heart of the matter at hand. I have enjoyed reading your perspectives and have found them to be thought provoking and honest. Those are definitely qualities of a good writer. Thank you for sharing your views in this blog; those of us who are not your friends wish that we were.
Comment by Raising Country Kids (April 9, 2008 @ 11:51 am )
You’re hired!
Comment by Amy Scott (April 9, 2008 @ 12:00 pm )
Both my husband and I enjoy the glimpses you give us of your life and your thoughts. Its like a cross between reading a humorous biography and and listening to a wise old aunt
. It provokes us to laugh and think.
Comment by Karen (April 9, 2008 @ 12:24 pm )
Amy, I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now and it’s one of only three that I read. I keep coming back to it because I value the humor, wisdom, and Godly perspective.
As to your writing abilities, ditto Raising Country Kids.
I haven’t commented on a blog in forever but I wanted you to know there are people out there who don’t post but are very appreciative of what you do.
Comment by Joni in Ks (April 9, 2008 @ 12:47 pm )
I’m a relative newcomer to your blog, but I would just like to say that nothing is so small in our lives that it can’t be made interesting by some decent writing. Of course we all have laundry and kids and whatever; but it is a fresh perspective on it that sometimes helps us get through the day.
Comment by suburbancorrespondent (April 9, 2008 @ 1:15 pm )
I need this reminder everyday! And I thank you for bringing it whenever the Spirit leads. Blessings, Amy, as you continue to do the little things - like laundry!
Comment by Sherilyn (April 9, 2008 @ 1:20 pm )
Not a good writer?! I beg to differ. I don’t know if you remember me, but I emailed you about 10 months ago when I was considering starting my own blog and you pointed me in the right direction. There were many bloggers I could have inquired for direction, but I chose you because you ARE a great writer (much better than some of us who DO fancy ourselves as good writers).
And you’re right about true humility. It is indeed about seeing our selves in relation to God. Unfortunately, many people view humility in light of their relation to other people. The problem with that is that there will be some that we compare well with, fostering pride, and others we pale in comparison to, fostering inferiority. Both perspectives are void of God, which is Whom we should be looking to to determine whether or not we’re okay. Sorry for the ramble, but as usual, you got me thinking.
Comment by terry (April 9, 2008 @ 1:21 pm )
In the words of Amy the Muse (or would it be Amy the Humble?):
“Say what?????”
Comment by Andrea@Flourishing Mother (April 9, 2008 @ 1:27 pm )
Think about it, you can never say that you are humble.
Yet those who say they are humble stand in good company.
“Now, the man Moses was very humble, more than any man who was on the face of the earth” (Numbers 12:3) Guess who wrote Numbers?
Comment by Dan Sudfeld (April 9, 2008 @ 1:27 pm )
Amy, thanks for allowing us to listen in on the conversation - it truly is a blessing.
Comment by Kristina (April 9, 2008 @ 1:31 pm )
Amy.
Congrats on being Tim Challies’ King For (a while).
You are one of the reasons that bloggersville is such a cool place to find inspiration and spiritual simpatico. Your keen wit and “False Pride” keep your sentences laced with surprises.
Wow. Six Chillin’. If I were a Mormon, I would be saying that God has picked a special person to bless with all those preexistent spirit babies. Since I’m not LDS, I can at least concede to God’s wisdom in filling your quiver with a lifetime of blessings.
Keep on Musin’!
Comment by RANDY HURST (April 9, 2008 @ 1:32 pm )
Not everyone gets to be “King of the Week”; See link.
Thanks for all your “humble musings”.
Lisa
Comment by Lisa B (April 9, 2008 @ 1:32 pm )
Sorry, I must not have done the link correctly. So I’ll just point you in the right direction:
challies.com entry for 4/06/08
Lisa
Comment by Lisa B (April 9, 2008 @ 1:35 pm )
I am a stranger who loves the baseball stories!
Comment by Jenny (April 9, 2008 @ 1:57 pm )
I’m the
stalkerstranger that loves the farm renovation stories (and PICTURES!), the birth stories even when they mention throwing up, the story of the guy who had his arm slammed in your door, and most especially the shenanigans of Knoxer the Boxer!Comment by Lady Why (April 9, 2008 @ 2:05 pm )
Well, I just have to say that I would LOVE to be able to write as poorly as you do!
I always love to read your writings.
When Greg posted for you on your “Change of Plans” when he announced you were going to have an other baby, I remember being afraid he was going to say you were going to stop blogging! Boy, that would be a bummer if you ever did!
Comment by Rhonda (April 9, 2008 @ 2:26 pm )
I love your blog! I have a VERY short list of blogs I read. And yours is one. I pass it on to all my friends. I love your perspective and your writing. I love baseball stories (our sons are similar in age and love baseball). I love the dog, baby, … all the stories. The rocket science ones. … keep on writing.
Comment by brooke (April 9, 2008 @ 2:46 pm )
You have the gift of making the prosaic seem sometimes whimsical, sometimes profound, and sometimes both simultaneously. It’s a joy to read. On humility, I once heard Elisabeth Elliot answer a written question during a Q&A at the end of a women’s conference (the gist of the question was “How do I love God and other people when I can’t even love myself?”)by saying, in her matter-of-fact way: “Well, of course you love yourself. After all, you take the time each day to clothe yourself and feed yourself and get yourself something to drink when you are thirsty. Do that for others and that looks quite a bit like love. Next question…” There are many speakers who would have told that woman (and her false sense of humility) to go get a new haircut or a pedicure or something so she could feel better about herself. I love EE’s consistent reminder to “do the next thing.” There is something inherently humbling in the daily tasks. So, I’m off to clean out the refrigerator.
Comment by Patti (April 9, 2008 @ 3:12 pm )
Your blog is the only one I read regularly. If you weren’t a good writer, I wouldn’t read your blog. I have better things to do with my time than read bad writing.
Sometimes it’s hard to write because we don’t seem to have all that much to say that would interest anyone else. I’ve struggled for years with a terrible case of writer’s block. Now that I’m blogging, I’m actually writing. That’s progress.
Writing is hard work. Well, let me revise that. Good writing is hard work. Keep up the good writing. Otherwise, what would I read?
Comment by Kelly Schaefer (April 9, 2008 @ 3:23 pm )
That part about not being a good writer. Would that be part of that self-deprecating humor?
You are a fabulous writer, m’lady. It’s why so many of us strangers keep coming back here to listen in.
Comment by Kelly @ Love Well (April 9, 2008 @ 3:52 pm )
I feel blessed and encouraged by your writing because it is always real. We get the good, the bad and the (very occasionally) ugly. Some days when life is tough it is good to hear about someone else who is finding happiness in the simple things. It is always great to celebrate with you when your children do well or when you are celebrating.
I enjoy your writing style. You can’t please everyone. I am sure some of the people that complain to you should be looking at themselves too!
Thanks for putting yourself out there and encouraging us all.
Comment by Philippa (April 9, 2008 @ 3:53 pm )
Amy,
People define “good writing” in many ways. People return to read your writing because they are blessed by it or challenged by it or angry by it or something. There is a reason they return. To be able to evoke an emotion one way or another is a good thing.
I enjoy reading your entries. I hope you continue to write.
Blessings,
Gina
Comment by Gina (April 9, 2008 @ 5:31 pm )
I’m sure all these compliments will really help you on your quest to be humble, but here’s one more!
Not only are you a good writer, you articulate what I wish I could. I find myself thinking, “That’s EXACTLY right!” yet I could never express myself as skillfully. So thanks for giving voice to your thoughts and helping me know there are others in this world who share my heart.
Comment by Amy Flanegan (April 9, 2008 @ 5:32 pm )
Hi,
Just ran into your blog via the Well Trained Mind site… are you near Chattanooga??… ( sorry about the ticket). We are in Chattanooga, homeschooling 5 kids 18 and under.
Maddie
http://www.domesticanarchy.blogspot.com
Comment by Maddie (April 9, 2008 @ 6:30 pm )
Not only do I enjoy reading your posts and your side bar, I got a kick out of the newspaper article about your son. I live in central florida, I have a good friend whose family is from your area and whose uncle retired from NASA a couple of years ago. I’m not sure about my use of whose–I always feel compelled to use great grammar as an example of how smart homeschool moms are, but I stink at grammar
Comment by Kelli C. (April 9, 2008 @ 6:36 pm )
Hi, Amy.
I happened upon you about 4 months ago and fell in like with your site and your writing. Believe me when I say I would not have revisited and read each and every post if you were not a good writer. Thank you for sharing your insight with the world. God bless you and keep you and yours’. [I was compelled by your humility at first sight.]
Comment by robin (April 9, 2008 @ 7:49 pm )
I think you write beautifully:) I started my Journal on paper then on the computer then on a blog–I like to write, am I good–I don’t know…LOL… I like to write everything down–and then look back at what the past was all about. Even if I find an old reciept, I look at the date and look at my purchase, and go back to a day long ago. I am amazed I have so many people that read my blog–but I have to say, some of them have turned into such dear friends, and I enjoy reading about their daily life also. I have also enjoyed my time here too.
Have agreat day!
Julieann
Comment by Julieann (April 9, 2008 @ 7:55 pm )
Amy-
I agree God chooses the weak vessels to do his best work, Moses, David, Mary… just to name a few.
I’ve been reading your blog for a few years and love that you keep it real. And as a former Central Florida girl, reading your blog takes me back to my Florida days.
Comment by The Happy Housewife (April 9, 2008 @ 8:58 pm )
Both my sister and I enjoy the glimpses you give us of your life and your thoughts.
http://adlynmorrison.blogspot.com/
Comment by Adlyn (April 9, 2008 @ 9:04 pm )
You’re a little bit crazy, Amy.
You have loads of friends, and you’re a top-notch writer. I always eagerly await your posts.
Comment by Holly (April 9, 2008 @ 9:06 pm )
I think you’re a great writer.
And I like fishing too.
But seriously, this was a great post. And now I must go push some rocks.
Comment by Grafted Branch@Restoring the Years (April 9, 2008 @ 9:53 pm )
Though we are strangers, your blog always brings a smile to my day, comfortable like a conversation with a dear old friend. Thank you for allowing me to be one of the onlookers to the conversations you have with your friends.
Comment by Charlotte (April 9, 2008 @ 10:45 pm )
Aw, what a moron. Sorry guys. I obviously missed the “I have low self-esteem” blinking lights in this post.
I thought about that text when I was writing this…great minds think alike or something rather.
However, my husband insists that that portion was written by someone other than Moses after his death. Funny, anyway, and I prefer the storyline that Moses writes it.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 9, 2008 @ 10:48 pm )
I’m so thankful for the referral from challies! I really enjoyed this post. It was well said, and I “got it.”
Truly lovely.
Nice to meet you, Amy.
Comment by Jennifer (April 10, 2008 @ 12:44 am )
Hey, congratulations are in order to McGregor Scott, who was in the PAPER for top pitching honours and best overall!! Good for him!
We are soccer fans in our family, only because my youngest, soon to be nine himself, is a soccer player. That, along with a few grandkids who also love and play the game, has changed me from a “no-sports” mom to one who attends the games and cheers on her son from the sidelines.
So, give your boy a “high-five” from me!
Janet
Comment by Janet (April 10, 2008 @ 7:08 am )
I’ve always wanted to meet you from the time I started reading your writings. I wish too, to be one of the six.
Comment by betty (April 10, 2008 @ 8:19 am )
I have been reading you for 2-3 years now. I have enjoyed all of your posts for one reason or another.
Comment by Robin in New Jersey (April 10, 2008 @ 8:19 am )
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I have to say, your humble musings amuse me and I love it! But I can relate to your thoughts on “tension” in writing for your audience because none of us want to come across as the bragging blogger, touting our amazing-ness, but you DO want to share with friends and family the everyday moments, big and small.
As a reader of your blog, I have completely enjoyed it, and your writing style is delicious and real. Thank you for sharing your musings, “humble” though they are.
Your fingers are blessed by God so keep using them!
Comment by girlwithmoxy (April 10, 2008 @ 9:39 am )
I’ve always read the “humble musings” title as humble musings with a wink, wink, nudge, nudge. Which is precisely why I love you.
You write what you write and you don’t take yourself too seriously.
You don’t go soaring off into spiritual ecstasies or hyperventilate over the holiness of child-birth. You call it like it is. Childbirth is barbaric, and we can all find God in the everyday tasks of daily life.
Period.
To my mind, this is why readers keep returning. We want to know that the Christian life can be lived by humbugs like ourselves, that we don’t need a degree in divinity to commune with God, that our offering of a warm meal is a pleasing sacrifice.
So quit yer whinin’ and keep on keepin’ on. We love you, we get you and we certainly don’t want you to stop writing about baseball!
Comment by Elizabeth Esther (April 10, 2008 @ 11:57 am )
Hey Amy,
I know it’s been a long time since we’ve connected, but I’m always lurking and enjoying your musings. You’re one of only three blogs I read regularly. Thanks for this post, I needed to hear it today.
In Him,
Lisa Winton
fellow ex-CMA youth pastor’s wife
(probably only your six (maybe) friends will get that…) p.s.–we’re playing bluegrass at an Alliance District Women’s Retreat next month..isn’t that a hoot?
Comment by Lisa W. (April 10, 2008 @ 12:30 pm )
I just had to comment that you are a gifted writer, in my opinion. Also, we love reading what you write! You’ve helped to nudge us further into “thinking out of the box.” Even though it’s not what you started your blog for, I hope you continue writing about the topics that people need to hear about. God seems to have given you a good and necessary voice! This is one of the few blogs I read, too.
Comment by Christy (April 10, 2008 @ 2:51 pm )
Did you hear about the boy scout who earned his “humility” badge? They took it away because he wore it
I want to write like you when I grow up (I’m 40)
Comment by Michelle (April 10, 2008 @ 11:05 pm )
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I’m not one of your 6 friends, but I love reading your thoughts. Thank you for the balance your mind brings to my mind over the little laundry piles, or the true meaning of humility, or the daily grace that I sometimes choose not to see in my life (because I tend to make things about me).
Your blog is a blessing to me, and I like your writing style. =)
Comment by carla (April 11, 2008 @ 1:26 pm )
i appreciate this blog because you seem like a very down-to-earth person. and, while i’m all for clarity and edification, what’s self-publishing for if you can’t let some of your personality quirks show through now and then?
thanks. :]
Comment by carissa (April 11, 2008 @ 2:39 pm )
I haven’t laughed out loud in ages… sometimes it’s worthwhile writing about “nothing”!
Love the post Amy.
Ruth
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Love the comment about doing small things for God. That’s what life is all about.
Comment by Mrs. Troop (April 15, 2008 @ 9:34 am )