Baseball camp
Thursday, Apr 10, 2008
I dropped my kid off at baseball camp this week. This is the stuff you have to do when you’re nine-years-old and on your way to the big leagues. The second thing you have to do is remember to wear your cup. I still don’t understand how he has a change up, a fast ball, and a slider, but he can’t straighten the wrinkles out of his bed, but I digress.
When I went to camp as a kid, I packed my pillow and blue-plaid sleeping bag, but I’m not saying this is a good thing. These days, you just bring your miscellaneous sport equipment. I don’t understand the word “camp” when there is no camping involved. Pitching camp is only two hours long, so I’m not sure how you can call it a “camp” when there are no beanie-weenies, mosquito repellent, or a canteen to blow your ten bucks at from mowing lawns. Times have changed. The beautiful thing about baseball camp, though, is that there are no girls, so I won’t have to worry about that later on. If you remember, I’m not keen on co-ed competitive sports, but not because of some Bible verse, unless you count common sense as a Biblical virtue.
Nevertheless, I still get all weird about sending my kid off to do a new thing. He’s off to play with the big dawgs. What if he can’t remember my cell phone number? What if the criticism is too hard for him to handle? (Remember, I lock my kids in the basement since we homeschool.) This is tough on a mom. I don’t leave my babies just anywhere. While I may threaten a lot of things, they know I am just blowing smoke. (Freebie to moms of toddlers: Don’t make threats; you’ll appear weak.)
When I signed him in, I stood there for a few extra minutes. “I’m sure I have a few more questions,” I told the instructor, you know, beyond the ones we’ve already been over. Then I stood there for a couple more awkward seconds while I thought up some fake questions that I couldn’t pull out. “He’ll be fine,” Mr. Major Leaguer assured me. I just stood there some more. I’m not usually this good at awkward silences. I’m the girl you invite to your dinner party to keep things moving along. Yeah, I’m brilliant. Stellar move there, brunette. My kid just got marked, “Make sure this kid doesn’t get hit….”

I’m ridiculous, but tune in Toledo, what’s new. Whenever I leave my children in someone else’s care, I say, “Those are my babies,” so that they get the secret message that I’m not a deadbeat. All moms have their way, and this is mine. More often that not, I’m telling my kids to be tough, but I’m not ruthless. There is no crying in baseball. I should remember that.
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He’ll be OK and so will you. The apron strings are getting longer aren’t they? What a timely reminder that mine will soon be venturing out on their own a little at a time, too.
Was I first? Tee Hee.
Comment by Another Heather (April 10, 2008 @ 12:23 pm )
Aw, Amy. That is TOUGH. I don’t like it, either.
Comment by Holly (April 10, 2008 @ 12:47 pm )
But congratulations on his honors! THAT’S AWESOME!
None of my kids have ever been interested in sports, which is strange, since my husband is a serious baseball, football and basketball fan!
I don’t mind that I don’t sit on bleachers (ever,) but…this sounds so great for your son! Congratulations to you all, as well, for realizing that THIS is his thing!
Comment by Holly (April 10, 2008 @ 12:51 pm )
Whew. I’m feisty today.
This is just more proof of my whippersnapper status. Another year, and he’ll be taller than me. You let them go a little at a time, so you’re not crying like a kindergarten mom when they leave home. That won’t stop me though.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 10, 2008 @ 12:51 pm )
Janet (regarding the comment on the last thread) and Holly,
I swore that I wouldn’t be a sports mom. They were all going to play the piano and all that. But here we are. I realize that it is incredibly exhilerating to love what your child loves. We are having a great time, and the whole family enjoys it (though, for the girls, it has more to do with the concession stand). One of the things about living in suburbia is that you have to find things for them to do to stay out of trouble (as opposed to letting them run in the woods). So far, there have been no negatives with baseball.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 10, 2008 @ 12:59 pm )
Oh, and Holly, it is so neat to see them BLOSSOM when they find their thing, isn’t it?
Comment by Amy Scott (April 10, 2008 @ 1:00 pm )
We’ve started down the baseball path, although I think Levi likes the running around with other boys more than the actual sport. I like that it’s a “boy thing” for him to keep busy with:)
Amy - I’m proud of you for letting go, even if it’s just for a little bit. The temptation is always there (for e anyway) to keep them under my wing all the time with never even a peep out into the big mean world.
I love to read about McGregor…it gives me a peek at where Levi’s headed:)
Comment by Shannon Miller (April 10, 2008 @ 2:05 pm )
I was never very emotional about things like this…just a few heart strings plucked. But, a year ago, I took my then 17 year old firstborn son to the airport to fly to Ireland with his choir for a performance tour. He had worked hard for a year to prepare and earn the money. I was so proud, yet hesitant. I held it together while checking him in and handing him over to the chaperones and teachers. As I headed out to the car, uncontrollable sobs came over me. I wondered who I was! Wow, what a hard 8 days that was! Then, high school graduation came 2 months later…who was that blubbering woman? THEN, we took him to a hotel one night near the end of July…it was where all the recruits went to stay the night before they were to be “shipped” out to Basic Combat Training. Whew! I never knew I had so many tears in me! For days on end! It does not get easier…it gets harder. In my case anyway!! However, in order to not discourage anyone…God’s grace is sufficient and so present and so bountiful. We still have much to learn as we release our arrows. In the pain, God is there…with us and with them. And there is great joy in that. Even while we cry. But, then again, maybe it’s all hormones!

Thanks for all your thoughful posts, Amy!
Lisa P.
Comment by Lisa P. (April 10, 2008 @ 2:06 pm )
I had a reputation of being pretty tough, until “little guy number one” came along. Now, many years later, I’m trying not to cry as my youngest and I watch “Steve” in Blues Clues going off to college. (Something I can admit to you, but NOT to my family!
Wow, it is so nice to hear that I am not the only one who is emotional at the thought of my babies betting bigger! 
Comment by Pam (April 10, 2008 @ 2:12 pm )
So, how did y’all go about finding McGregor’s place to blossom? Was he always interested in baseball? My son (6, 7 in Aug) has expressed interest in a couple of things (tennis & golf), but as soon as we mention learning more about the mentioned sport he has no interest whatsoever. We’re not talking pushing him into something. Just “learn the basics” lessons. He has no desire to play any kind of organized sport, even for the comradarie (sp?), so that’s why we introduced him to more non-team activities.
He is involved in Cub Scouts, but that has been the one thing we have pushed him on. He is definitely an outdoor boy and loves all the typical “scout” stuff, so we really wanted him to give it the “ol’ college try”. He was not interested at all in the beginning and now enjoys it. However, there have been many days/nights of getting him over his reluctance to try anything new. Anyone have any thoughts?
Sorry for the book.
Comment by Aimee (April 10, 2008 @ 2:40 pm )
I remember being on the opposite end of this. When I was in university driving my own car, too fast, down major highways, to study with some kid that whose last name I didn’t know, with my parents an hour away, and I hadn’t told ANYONE where I was going, I thought to myself “What is my mom thinking let me do this? I am WAY too young to have this much freedom.”
Hence the leash I have on my children, and will have until I choose their spouse. (that last bit really was a joke. Please do not call the authorities)
Comment by Barbara (April 10, 2008 @ 4:27 pm )
My oldest will be 21 tomorrow. Life is truly like a vapor. I have four girls ages, 21,18,14, and 10. I remeber standing at the door crying when Anna drove off for the first time by herself in her car. I gave it to the Lord because I knew He would be with her when mama can’t. They have never been into sports, I ain’t mad about it either. I homeschooled the two oldest after 6th grade and the other two pretty much from the ground up. It is a challenge but, the two oldest are doing 4.0 in their colleges (all the glory goes to God). By the way, they are attending local so they can stay at home.
I must say, God had them prepared for their adult journey when it was time. We must not stick those little tiny seedlings out to brave the elements before their roots are storng enough.
I really enjoy your blogg! Thanks
Comment by Teresa V. (April 10, 2008 @ 10:41 pm )
I know the feeling of having a hard time letting my girls go to camps or even friends homes. Its just hard to have peace with it at times.
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God bless you! Hugs!
Comment by Jenileigh (April 11, 2008 @ 12:00 am )
Hey, Amy, here’s another baseball/parenting question (you seem to get a lot of these!) - how do you deal with the conflict when baseball practice and game schedules conflict with church on Wednesday night? Any thoughts?
Comment by Shannon Miller (April 11, 2008 @ 12:16 am )
We don’t have church on Wednesday nights, so it’s not something we deal with. If we did, I’d just choose one or the other (without guilt) instead of spreading ourselves thin trying to juggle them both. In these situations, both sides see you as uncommitted or annoying if you try to do them both because you end up doing neither well.
My son rode a two-wheeled bike at 3. He’s always been athletic. For most kids, I think there’s little value in pushing organized sports at a young age. Not trying to tick off anyone, but have you ever watched a tee-ball game? Painful. Absolutely painful. I realize that you have to start somewhere, but before they are developmentally ready for strategy and skill adjustments, it’s a lot of time without a lot of progress. We started McGregor in baseball after we’d already established he can hit a pitch and catch with some consistency. I think tee-ball fine if you have the time to spare (say, an older brother who can drive/walk his younger brother and help coach–that’d be so cool), but it wasn’t something that would work for a family in our circumstances.
Many folks push their kids (not you, Aimee, in general I’m staying) before they are ready. Some will never be ready. I don’t see the value of playing a kid who strikes out every single time the entire season…it’s not only frustrating for him but for the team too. At some point, kids learn that it’s about the *team* and not about themselves. (This is not to say that only “all-stars” should play recreationally. Not at all. Just that somehow you have to weigh the cost benefit aspect.)
We’re dealing with that right now. McGregor has an injury (fell off the swings at church) and can’t play 100% in the state championship tournament this week. They’re bringing in a substitution. He wants to play something bad, but realizes it could affect the team. So he’s suiting up, traveling a long way, and sitting the many games just for a chance to play one or two innings, but more importantly, to cheer on the team.
When it’s time to pick up balls, McGregor is the first one out there. When it’s time for practice, he’s ready two hours early. He gives 100% all the time and is well-spoken of for his attitude. When we’re riding in the car, he talks about what to do when there are no outs, a man on third, and a grounder to second. That’s how we figured out this was his thing.
Comment by Amy Scott (April 11, 2008 @ 8:39 am )
I know what you mean about feeling like a deadbeat mom. In current circumstances, I am working and my husband is staying home with the baby (while taking 1 class a quarter). And I truly do feel like a deadbeat mom when calling and trying to find someone to take care of the baby while my husband is at class. My own head berates me “You should be the one doing this!”
Comment by My Boaz's Ruth (April 11, 2008 @ 9:02 am )
Amy, I am relating! Last week I had to “drop off” my oldest dd (now 12) at the back entrance of the big auditorium downtown (big city) at 5 (rush hour) for her 1st performance there with the junior youth orchestra. Huge honor, huge excitement… huge fears for me! I also lock my kids in the basement (ha) so this was so hard! I had to drive around the city twice (in the 15 passenger van, during rush hour) before I worked up the courage to pull up to the curb and let her climb out and go unacompanied into that DOOR. I didn’t cry, but I was praying like crazy, and waited a minute for someone to come out who I could ask, “um, what’s on the other side of that door?”
You, know, it all turned out fine. I am so proud that she can handle these situations and thankful for God’s protection. Have you seen the post and poem at Carmon’s blog about days going by? http://buriedtreasurebooks.com/weblog/?p=2352
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About pushing kids into sports: I agree with the cost/benefit analysis (we decided to skip t-ball for my 5-year-old b/c of new baby due mid-season!) But, we see great teaching opportunities in sports for character development. We made baseball “non-optional” for our son since he was 7. He was not a great player, but now, at 11, he has really developed “skills” and is enjoying the game a ton (and we’re sure enjoying watching him more!).
So, while it might seem like a waste of time early on, our experience has been a great “pay off” down the road. Isn’t that true of parenting in general (by God’s grace, for sure!)?
Comment by Sharon (April 11, 2008 @ 11:04 am )
Our family struggled for a short period with different activities that are scheduled for Wednesday evening (and therefore conflicted with our church family Bible study night). In the end, we simply choose one over the other, i.e. if we have a seasonal sports event on Wednesdays we go to it. God expects us to be in His house on Sunday, that will never be contested. And we certainly receive enjoyment and encouragement from the Bible study on Wednesday; however, my husband and I decided that we can’t live within the church walls and avoid extracurricular events - we need opportunities to be the light of the world, so we need to be seen!
Comment by Kim from Canada (April 11, 2008 @ 12:05 pm )
Congrats on MrGregor’s (and team) success! That’s exciting.
So, no more swinging at church and insurance on his throwing arm. I kid.
Comment by Janet (April 11, 2008 @ 12:27 pm )
Awww, I am the same way!!! You are so right–they are our babies, I let everyone know
He will be just fine!
Julieann
http://juliean-mylife.blogspot.com/
Comment by Julieann (April 11, 2008 @ 12:37 pm )
So far we haven’t done any camps. My 2 oldest will be going to a mini encampment next week and then probably a full encampment in June with the Civil Air Patrol (which is oldest’s thing–boy2 just sorta likes it I think). Oldest turns 15 this year and we’re working on transcripts and scary things like that. I still can’t quite imagine him out there on his own….
Comment by Lyn (April 12, 2008 @ 7:49 pm )
Yesterday was a big day to let go of my son.Gregory went with his middle school band to Busch Gardens in Williamsburg,Va-about 4 hours away.First they were in a competion in which they got second place and then were at the park for 8 hours before coming home at midnight.
Comment by Tammy (April 13, 2008 @ 4:56 pm )