(1) How we did it: Introduction
Wednesday, Nov 12, 2008
This is the introduction to a series I will write on how we became debt-free. I’ve posted snippets throughout the last several years, but now that we wrote the last check, I’m ready to tell you how we did it.
I am 32 and my husband is 40. We started our life on $318 a week. We’ve been married 11 years and we have six young children. We own seven rental units and a 54 acre farm. Truthfully, rental properties belong on the liability side of the balance sheet; they are just a pain in the assets. If you are in the market, have I got a deal for you…. But the farm is our dream, and by the Lord Jesus, it belongs to Him.
In this series, I want to write freely without disclaimers. We never had extraordinary circumstances, like a $500,000 hospital bill, and so I am not writing to fix anyone’s life or to tell you what to do with an impossible situation. These are the things that belong in God’s hands. Yet, most people are drowning because the faucet was left on, and not because a tidal wave came out of nowhere.
Please bear with me. I am writing to young people, mostly, about what I knew when I was younger and what I wish I knew. Our journey isn’t perfect, testified by the rental properties, eh? If I had any brains, I wouldn’t own those things.
This story isn’t about bragging. I have a blog title to maintain, you know. I will tell you about my failures in word and deed, which will take a long time to exhaust. I have ideas to do what we did even better. This isn’t a nanny, nanny, boo-boo series. I’m telling you how to become a lender instead of a borrower which is usually a good thing, government bailouts and corruption notwithstanding.
I like games that depend on strategy and not luck. This is my game. There are no quick fixes, just a lot of little-by-littles. I do have a few secrets up my sleeve, but in order to tell them, I need to be able to talk freely without being on the defense.
This is the internet, and I can’t share everything. However, there is enough about our journey to make a great story.
Here is a letter that I received today (used here with permission):
I am curious how you got on this road to self reliance. Where did you start? Why did you choose this path? Were you always so good with money? (I think you answered that in the “I knew I would marry Greg when he fixed my car” post.) Anyhow, I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and you come back to my mind.
You and I have a lot in common, about the same age (I think I am a year older at 33), I have been married 13 years, have 6 children (living) and my husband makes about the same amount of money as Greg.
The differences are we are deep in debt for no reason, have never bought a home or been a landlord to anyone, and we’re not really good with money either. I know you said people don’t want to listen to you when they ask for help but then you share how hard it is. I want to listen.
It hit me between the eyes when I realized our families have been in the same place but you have your dream and here I am still dreaming about it 13 years later.
What was your and Greg’s plan? How did you handle it if you got sidetracked? How did you handle it when you wanted to give up and just go out and blow your money? These are things I think people would like to read about.
I told myself awhile back, when I realized that you achieved your dream in basically the same circumstances as I have had, that if I start over right now then in 15 years I could still reach my dream. I know that owning your own land does not take place of what we do for Christ but I also know that when I think of living from what I grow with my own hands then I feel closer to God. I believe that is what I am supposed to be doing.
Thanks so much for everything, sharing your life and all. Oh and your comment about Pepsi about killed me. My husband has said I would rather die then give up Pepsi so it really hit home. At first it was funny, then really sad because I realized you were talking right to me.
In Christian love,
Mrs. DMG
This is for her and anyone else like her. I will get to the “what now?” part in time. First things first, though. I have to start at the beginning. Join me next time when I talk about the best thing we ever did before we married.